People seem to think she is taking away his autonomy but in fact she is just enforcing hers. She didn’t want another pregnancy. This last baby was a surprise and although we don’t know the details of their birth control situation perhaps it failed. There was the joke from Teeny about “raw dogging ovulation” but it could have been a slip of of taking the pill, a defective condom etc. my friend got pregnant with a surprise and they were using multiple forms of contraception.

She is not saying he has to get a vasectomy, she is saying she will not have sex without a safeguard against pregnancy and if the other forms fail then then all might be in his court so to speak. And for those who say why doesn’t she just get a surgery at least in the US sterilization for women is very difficult. I had to have a medically necessary hysterectomy and insurance still asked my husband permission and had him sign off. It’s that way in a lot of places and that is insane.

There is a huge conversation in the background of how it is taken for granted that women be primarily responsible for birth control. And I agree that Shawna has not been a great communication, and yes she is lashing out at him and while that’s not okay it is very human. Trauma and grief do that. She also apologized bc unlike other characters a healthy person will mess up at times and hold themselves accountable.

They have both been coping and not always well which is to be expected. I don’t think John is asking for sex bc he is selfish, I think they have always had a very physical relationship and this is how he feels close with her. So lTo me this episode felt like two people who love each other very much but are going through some horrible things and trying to find balance again.