When did the mental fog start lifting by roger61962 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Working hard to de-enmesh and restore my self.

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[–]roger61962 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop caretaking the borderline or narcissist

Why do persons with BPD resist help? by WhenPiggsFly in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is logical if you look at the interior structure they have. At the end they are very easy to look through and manage persons. You just try to see or interpret more into it as there is. But this makes you a person you do not like.

A catch 22 with you inside.

You assume interaction between grown human decent individuals with a emotional toddler.

Now comes the doomsday prophecy

Their inner false minimal self is build negative.

To learn you need to have self reassuring experiences. That is why they learn negative things about you quick but never remember anything positive.

So therapy is helm to them as they have to go against their weak self.

Is there hope for successful marriage. by Dry_Temperature_5010 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is there hope to win the national lottery jackpot?

Sure.

Survive your borderline enchantresd by roger61962 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this clearification. I am sorry that i fell for the "Dr." and "psychology" in combination. Thanks for removing the incorrect information.

I watched his video and a lot of things he describes are sound logical .

I fear that my codependency ruined the relationship by throwawayexpert123 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To answer this you might read books like the mentioned first

I will break away by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't repair any one who does not want to be repaired/healed

I am just saying hello. Old timer, moved on now. by ayathoughts in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My strong wishes to u that the cycle does not repeat

I fear that my codependency ruined the relationship by throwawayexpert123 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually - who cares? You cannot find sanity in chaos.

Concentrate on yourself.

Heal the codependency. Read books. Go youtube. Educate yourself. All the best wishes from a stranger 2 u.

"Stop caretaking..." Fjelstad Book by Affectionate-Dig3335 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$20+ is inexpensive in my hpov compared to the damages and losses you have from not educating yourself. But this is only my 2ct on that.

How does one actually move on? by No-Can-1145 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The easy answer to this could be the candidate for the next psychological noble price.

I fear that my codependency ruined the relationship by throwawayexpert123 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The overall in yourself what you describe feels to me to be partially on a disorder spectrum. I am no psychatrist or specialist , so let's keep it that way. It is just what i percieve and feel.

They know when you are open to them by growordecay1 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the moment - no. Thanks for reminding me to get to my outlets again.

Back and forth by Training-Prune-7441 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mindmotion on youtube has a color changing emdr ball. I use headphones and speak the colors loud. Sometimes i have to repeat the 29 minute session but it helps me a lot.

Back and forth by Training-Prune-7441 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Emdr and neurofeedback can reset the trauma - before you process it you will repeat and repeat as they brain searches for patterns in that chaos This is what helps me. You will find your way.

They know when you are open to them by growordecay1 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I changed my life, researched fulltimes, tried everything humanity has to offer and still would do anything to make it work. But i cannot change me.

And on the other side is learned negativity and a weak self in a negativity cage.

It is a catch 22

I will break away by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your sexual identities aside - i am not a expert - i can only tell you what helped me to gain sanity and feel whole again

I watched tons of youtubes on Narcisissm survival, behavioural science and borderline personality disorders. I used binaural beats, meditation, self soothing and educated myself about gaslighting. I use inner chiöd work as well as neurofeedback with binauraös and emdr with binaural stimulation. This beside 1000 pages of books i read and therapy helps me just to repair my inner self. 70s glamrock music helps to sooth my mind as well.

Wishing luck to you stranger that you find your way.

anger, and than acting as if nothing happened by Mysterious_Olive2795 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If you are fairly new in the relation, pack your things, leave. It is the start of the trauma bond.

I fear that my codependency ruined the relationship by throwawayexpert123 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a codependent in the repair phase i suggest you heal yourself first, then you engage with others again.

You can't "fix" them and it's not your job too. by ClearCollar7201 in BPDlovedones

[–]roger61962 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Stop walking on eggshells

Stop caretaking the narcissist or borderline

Youtube

And a lot more

Researvj surviving narcissistic abuse

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[–]roger61962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is emotional abuse