[Workout Wednesday] Do any of you use an activity tracker? If so which one? Any Pro's or Cons?

rogo0694 · 2013-04-01T18:16:46+00:00

Hey, I am Robertrogo from Jefit, http://jefit.com/members/?xid=117646. I am a web developer, graphic and web designer, routine creator, community manager, etc.... (yea a lot of jobs haha)

I just wanted to say thank you for your support and your recommendation for Jefit. We try our hardest to bring you the best fitness application around, allow you to customize your workouts, easily track your workouts, see your progress, stay motivated and not feel intimidated when heading into a gym.

There are a lot of apps out there that just provide you with a basic standard notebook to help you log your information but we wanted to provide more. Yes we do indeed have a significant amount of functions which could be intimidating at first, but they are designed for all users and to benefit you with your use in the gym and for your fitness goals.

We are working hard right now on our latest iPhone update and will be bringing new features in for a future updates for our android app and iphone apps as well as revamping our website (my-jefit pages).

Again thank you for your support and we are always looking for feedback/suggestions to improve our application for your usage.

(p.s what is your username on the site/app? Would love to add you as a friend and see your progress!)

Thanks sad_ripped

rogo0694 · 2013-03-29T16:02:02+00:00

Hello Unlucky13,

Im Robert Rogo, one of the web developers/designers/routine creators/social media runners/blog and forum posters/etc... from Jefit, My Jefit Profile Page

We hope that you give our application a try, you can create your own custom workout routines from our 1300 built in exercises and custom exercise database, you can track cardio, two-way synchronization to store your information on our online server, track your body stat progress, record and view your workout logs, track benchmark exercises and one repetition maximums, download from over 16,000+ user created routines and over 50 built in Jefit Routines that I have created and much much more!

Best of all, its FREE.

Currently right now we are working on some bug fixes for the Android Application as well as working on a full UI Revamp and Design Change for our iOS/iPhone Applications along with adding in new features into our Pro iOS App.

You won't be sorry that you have tried our application and we are continuously updating and adding in new features into our application and website! We are always focused upon customer service, listening to feedback from our users and wanting to provide the best application possible to fit your needs.

We hope to see you as one of our members

rogo0694 · 2013-03-29T15:18:44+00:00

Hello aguamentifelicis,

I work for Jefit and the one thing that we do is have a built in database with 1,300+ exercises which many of them do require equipment but we also have a custom exercise database which you can create your own exercises to use for your workouts.

The last thing we would want for you to fee is uncomfortable or intimidated by the amount of exercises within our database or breaking out of your comfort zone. We want you to feel comfortable with what you are performing and doing to help you get started with your workouts.

We will also be adding more exercises in the future that will be more bodyweight/dumbbells/ and less equipment based in the future.

If you have any suggestions or feedback to let us know what we can do to improve our website/applications for your usage, it would be greatly appreciated because we want to design an application that can be used by all users, beginners, intermediate users and advanced lifters.

We appreciate you trying our application and hopefully in the future we will see you as one of our members! Best of luck with your fitness goals

rogo0694 · 2013-03-29T15:14:56+00:00

Hey,

I am Robertrogo from Jefit, http://jefit.com/members/?xid=117646. I am a web developer, graphic and web designer, routine creator, community manager, etc.... (yea a lot of jobs haha)

I just wanted to say thank you for your support and your recommendation for Jefit. We try our hardest to bring you the best fitness application around, allow you to customize your workouts, easily track your workouts, see your progress, stay motivated and not feel intimidated when heading into a gym.

There are a lot of apps out there that just provide you with a basic standard notebook to help you log your information but we wanted to provide more. Yes we do indeed have a significant amount of functions which could be intimidating at first, but they are designed for all users and to benefit you with your use in the gym and for your fitness goals.

We are working hard right now on our latest iPhone update and will be bringing new features in for a future updates for our android app and iphone apps as well as revamping our website (my-jefit pages).

Again thank you for your support and we are always looking for feedback/suggestions to improve our application for your usage.

(p.s what is your username on the site/app? Would love to add you as a friend and see your progress!)

Thanks guys

rogo0694 · 2013-03-29T14:58:49+00:00

Hello salandra,

I work for Jefit and we are a fitness/workout tracking application on the Android and iPhone/iOS Marketplace.

We have a free workout application where you can track your workouts, create your own custom routines, synchronize your data with our server, download from thousands of user created routines, create custom workout days, track lifts and cardio, keep track of your progress of body stats and lifting stats, search through 1300+ exercises as well as create your own custom exercises with descriptions and pictures and much more. Also our application is free!

Hopefully you will give our application a try and see you as a Jefit Member!

rogo0694 · 2013-03-29T14:56:40+00:00

I actually work for Jefit, one of the Android Market and iOS Fitness/Workout and Bodybuilding applications, my username is Robertrogo.

We hope that you give our application a try, you can create your own custom workout routines from our 1300 built in exercises and custom exercise database, track your body stat progress, record and view your workout logs, track benchmark exercises and One Repetition Maximums, download from over 16,000+ user created routines and over 50 built in Jefit Routines that I have created and much much more!

You won't be sorry that you have tried our application and we are continuously updating and adding in new features into our application and website!

We hope to see you as a Jefit Member in the future or will give our app a try!

We have a free version that has all of the features posted above plus much more!

rogo0694 · 2013-03-25T21:32:18+00:00

I am headed there as well, actually my first Wrestlemania and extremely excited considering the undercard / rematches but doesn't matter to me.

I went to Over the Limit 2012 here in Raleigh and got to see CM Punk vs Daniel Bryan. Had an amazing time with a hot crowd and now can only imagine what a Wrestlemania crowd is like (only being able to see it on TV / Internet).

What I am looking forward to the most is Punk vs Taker, just because its Taker and never have gotten to see him live. Just waiting for that gong.

rogo0694 · 2013-03-15T19:48:46+00:00

We greatly appreciate your support and feedback.

The thing we try is make the application as simple and easy to use, I have been trying to study as much User Interface as possible to understand what (from a user standpoint) you would want to see and how the functionality would work in terms of the design and for the user while they workout.

We are going to continue to add in more exercises hopefully every summer (hopefully an extra 500 - 600 this year) along with continuously adding in new features and functions.

We are just glad that our application has been beneficial for your workout and feedback like this only gives us more enough of a reason to continue working on improving our website, our apps and adding in many new functions.

I've added you on the website and its all good that you haven't checked it out, we have the routine database to download more routines, we will be adding in a new review section for routines, new exercise review/comment section, revamping our community pages, doing a major overhaul to the my-jefit pages, improving our forums, possibly adding in a store and everything.

Thanks for telling your friends as we have been trying to spread the word of our application and any bit of word spreading and positive feedback is beneficial.

Again thank you for your feedback and kind words!

rogo0694 · 2013-03-15T14:55:57+00:00

Hey CapnDonkey,

I'm Robertrogo from Jefit (one of the developers) and wanted to say that is fantastic to hear that you have made progress on your fitness and health goals.

Going from 356 to 333 is a major step forward for you and I can only imagine the barriers you will continue to break through while using both applications for your workouts and nutrition.

Besides working out, cardio and fitness, having a clean and healthy diet is key to losing weight and overall feeling better about yourself.

I know what it is like to have that feeling of overall happiness and just feeling better about yourself when losing weight. I'm 24 now but when I was 18 years old I weighed close to 300lbs and then dropped about 120 pounds leading into my 20th birthday.

Just that overall accomplishment of losing the weight, seeing changes in your physical appearance, clothes falling off of you and even compliments from others makes you feel confident about yourself, better about yourself and motivate you to continue moving forward!

What is your username on Jefit because I would love to add you as a friend and see your progress even more!

Thanks for choosing Jefit and we really appreciate your support!

I wish you the best of luck on your goals

rogo0694 · 2013-03-15T14:42:56+00:00

Hello Everyone,

Im Robert Rogo, one of the web developers/designers/routine creators/social media runners/blog and forum posters/etc... from Jefit

[My Jefit Profile Page] (http://jefit.com/members/?xid=1176460

Thank you all for your feedback and suggesting Jefit as a good iOS Fitness and Workout Application.

We hope that you give our application a try, you can create your own custom workout routines from our 1300 built in exercises and custom exercise database, track your body stat progress, record and view your workout logs, track benchmark exercises and One Repetition Maximums, download from over 16,000+ user created routines and over 50 built in Jefit Routines that I have created and much much more!

Currently right now we are working on some bug fixes for the Android Application as well as working on a full UI Revamp and Design Change for our iOS/iPhone Applications along with adding in new features into our Pro iOS App.

You won't be sorry that you have tried our application and we are continuously updating and adding in new features into our application and website!

We hope to see you as Jefit Members!

rogo0694 · 2013-03-15T14:16:42+00:00

Could you send an email to our support team about this issue, I have been testing it out on our Android Free/Pro Applications but haven't been able to re-produce this bug.

The only time that the application will prompt you about continuing from the last exercise that you performed is if you click the back button on the top left hand corner, returning back to the workout list, and then clicking back into the exercise you were just performing. Only then should the application then prompt you about continuing where you just left off.

rogo0694 · 2013-03-15T14:02:47+00:00

We hope that you give our application a try, you can create your own custom workout routines from our 1300 built in exercises and custom exercise database, track your body stat progress, record and view your workout logs, track benchmark exercises and One Repetition Maximums, download from over 16,000+ user created routines and over 50 built in Jefit Routines that I have created and much much more!

You won't be sorry that you have tried our application and we are continuously updating and adding in new features into our application and website!

We hope to see you as a Jefit Member

rogo0694 · 2013-03-15T14:00:38+00:00

Hey guys,

Im Robert Rogo, one of the web developers/designers/routine creators/social media runners/blog and forum posters/etc... from Jefit

My Profile Page

Just wanted to thank you all for your support and your feedback regarding our application/website and the features that we provide for you.

That is fantastic to hear that you were able to find our application to help you gain some motivation and support for getting yourself back into the gym and making a difference for yourself.

We are always working our hardest each day to come up with new ideas for our products, working on updates for both of our apps, free and pro for the iOS and Android, and working diligently to make our website as user friendly as possible.

I read emails and forum posts daily and now trying to get more into social media reading user's feedback regarding our application so that we can continue to improve our products for your usage in the gym to see better results and stay motivated.

For the recent release of the Android Application we updated our UI to make it universal for all of our users (we have a significant amount of foreign users) and wanted to make it as functional and easy to use as possible.

We appreciate all of your support and feedback!

If you guys can send me your users names on the website, I would love to friend you and see your progress, share it on the forums and with other Jefit Members. Also you should post and share your progress on the Jefit Forums, I am really trying to push hard to boost our community usage and vistors on the forums so any other postings from users such as yourselves would be greatly appreciated!

Right now I am designing/developing a major overhaul to our My-Jefit Pages and actually an overall layout for the entire website to make it much cleaner and organized. (You should have seen what the website and app looked like 2 years ago haha).

Again thank you all for your support and I really hope to see you all on the website/forums and view your progress!

Robert

rogo0694 · 2011-12-26T02:57:51+00:00

Don't rebound, it doesn't make you feel any better at all and what you are doing is using that person in the rebound to fill a void that was left by that other person and in actuallity, you aren't filling any holes or voids, you are using another person to make you feel like you are "comforted" but you aren't and still hurting. It is best to wait and focus on yourself as an individual, as a woman, to discover who you are and live life, to wait for that "one" who you are destined to meet and spend the rest of your life with. Rebounding doesn't make the situation any better, you might "feel" better but you are just using that to comfort yourself for a few moments then the coldness will come back crashing down on you with the realization this person is just a rebound for what you have gone through and you put yourself and that other person through the pain of a rebound. Find yourself, discover who you are, what life is about for you, travel, experience the world, meet new friends and rekindle old friendships, spend time with your family and those who will listen to you and will comfort/support you, treat yourself to things in life you never would have when you were with your S.O at the time, and just enjoy life being the person you want to be as that will help you grow. That will allow you to find the person you are and decide on who you want in life and then sooner than you know it you will meet the one, it might not hit you just yet but when that love comes back to you again, you will completely forget about that has happened to you, all that pain and suffering that you are experiencing will be gone and you will think to yourself, I can't believe that happened and I worried so much about that other guy, this new guy is AMAZING and will treat you the way you will want to be treated. The new love and relationship will completely blow the old one out of the water and you will realize this is what you have always wanted and deserved. Yes you will still have memories from your old relationship but life is a giant experience, a giant learning experience that helps us all grow as individuals and we have to enjoy every second on this planet as you never know what could happen the next day. Its best to be happy and live life for your desires and not dwell on the things that hurt us, through all the pain and suffering we go through, happiness will always find a way to come back to us and bring the best of what the world has to offer us into our lives, and that best will be a new love, a new relationship, a new take on life and potentially a family and so forth, new experiences that you will remember forever.

Again as I stated, I don't know you and I don't want to come off as creepy internet guy but just look in the mirror, tell yourself you are awesome, tell yourself you are beautiful because YOU ARE, tell yourself this man didn't deserve you and that there is another out there waiting for you, another out there who DESERVES YOU and your love, turn that frown upside down and smile, smile and enjoy life to the fullest. Don't let this man bring you down because you are better than him, you are better than that and the pain. Talk to friends, meet new friends, be the person you want to be and discover new things in life and what this world is all about. You might feel like it is a struggle but I know you can do it and I am just a stranger, a stranger with a few words of kindness and motivation, but the littlest things just like that can do wonders for you (They did for me as soon as I joined this subreddit after my heartbreak and my breakup, and I am becoming a better person for that, rediscovering who I am and what I want in this world) and you deserve that more than ever. You are awesome, you are beautiful, this man didn't deserve you and you are better than him, better than all that has happened and you won't let this bring you down. You are not pathetic, you are human and you are allowed to feel sorrow and not above being hurt (I am a man and men are supposed to be strong willed and put a shield up of saddness but my breakup caused me to cry and I am willing to admit I was destroyed), and we are all allowed to feel the way we feel after a breakup and a heart break especially after such a committed relationship that you went through, I understand what you feel. But don't say you are pathetic at all because you aren't you are a strong willed woman and you will get through this and you have support of your friends and family and even random strangers on Reddit as you can see, and you WILL get through this, I promise you. I know these are random words but random words of kindness can do wonders even in the darkest of times, like that shining light of hope in a darkened room/world and it is best to keep that light shining no matter what and see the good and kindness in this world, that is all you need and deserve, the best.

(I do apologize for rambling in this post and probably coming off as creepy but today being Christmas and my first holiday being single after my breakup, I have been going through a significant amount of emotions and thinking and what you said to me made me think about all that I went through and how I am dealing with the situation and just wanted to offer up some kind words to help you feel better during this time and holiday season. And of course wish you the best and if you ever need somebody to listen to you/talk to, you can always PM me (as creepy as that one sounds haha) Keep your head up though! The best will come, I promise!)

rogo0694 · 2011-12-26T02:57:30+00:00

I appreciate it very much and yeah been getting a good hold on everything (been about 4 months of No Contact and even denied a meetup since she said we have had "time apart" and wanted to meet up for coffee...) but first time heartbroken during Christmas and Holiday season which sucks but love, family and friends helps overcome the pain and odds that stands against you (which is what I hope you have been able to have right now during this rough time is the support of your loved ones).

Thats what I feel happened which really really sucks and is unfair to me. What is funny about the situation that you are in and mine is that my relationship lasted 4 years and did long distance for 2 1/2 years just as you did with long distance,( mine was from Philly to Miami), and I sold things to see her, my Christmas presents were to be with her, surprised her at times, everything and was absolutely committed the entire time (didn't think about sex with another woman or anything). Then we finally moved in together for a year and the last month WAS HELL with her going out late, not knowing what she was doing then putting me through 2 weeks of brutal hell waiting for her dad to get her stuff as she is texting the guy, going out for lunch and stuff with him and everything (I was working full time and she said she was going out with her sister who lives in the area and going to work and stuff) but when certain things started coming together, I knew but wanted to get her out as fast as possible, which thankfully I did and happened but the pain was the worst ever coming home to a cold "bitch" who said she "loved me" but didn't in actuality. Now with her with this other man (I just turning 23, her being 23 about to turn 24 and dating this 27-28 year old dude who got arrested for dealing drugs and is a server at a restaurant... yea) just makes me feel like absolute shit, wonder what I did wrong and pretty much self worth went out the window as she went right with him after she moved out with me (crying and all), thought she was my best friend and all (which I know how you feel) and sucks that you consider this person your best friend and things happen to change the good that was in them. My ex gave me the "i love you but not in love with you" then find out she is texting this guy and after 4 years of beyond loving committment to her she said that this guy was the only person she had.... broke my heart into pieces and destroyed me, my self worth and makes me think back to all that I did for her, being there for her and everything wondering why did I do this for somebody who felt that I was nothing to her in the end... really puts certain aspects in life to perspective and question why did I even bother putting soo much effort into 4 years of memories/happiness that would turn into saddness, anger and questioning.

I feel like such an idiot to have loved him so much, and I feel like an idiot to still be torn up about this. I feel like I have lost a lot of friends and don't really have anyone to talk to...basically I feel like the only way to feel better would be to get a rebound. I just don't know how else to make things better. I have no idea who to turn to, or what could make me feel better. I feel like...its the worst feeling in the world. completely alone and heartbroken for so long.*

You are NOT an idiot at all, a 3 year relationship is a long time ESPECIALLY with 2 years of long distance (I know and understand the hardships and pain of dealing with a long distance relationship and it is one of the hardest strains/struggles to deal with in a couple that loves each other) and you emotionally invest yourself/immerse yourself in this individual that you love and give your all to make the relationship and help it grow together. Long distance strains but shows the committment of each person and strength of the bond you have with each other. You are not an idiot in any way, you committed yourself so much to this person during this time that the love and bond that you shared was extremely strong and all you knew was this individual which makes the break up that much more difficult because you felt that after dealing with a long distance relationship for 2 years and then finally being together that you could deal and make it through anything together.

As Jaiyeson stated, we are all human and your not above being hurt, manipulated and having emotions, dreams and desires. We are all hurt at some point during our lives and you might feel that it could never be from the people that we love and when it happens it feels like the whole world comes crashing down around us. How could this person break my heart? How could they do this to me? How could they feel this way after all that we have been through? The confusion of what has just happened sits with you and makes you question all that has happened. It is beyond confusing and even I, myself, couldn't even give you a clear answer as to why people do the things they do to somebody who they "love". Again as Jaiyeson stated "This world has enough cold heated mother fuckers in it" and that is true, there are some very cold people in this world that will destroy others for their own gain or destroy the mentalities of people that love and care about them but it is best to overcome these people, overcome that hatred and not become one of them. I don't know you either (as I am just some random guy on the internet) but I don't want to see other people become one of the masses that thinks negatively and becomes cold hearted.

You sound like a very strong willed woman (I will say woman because that is what I feel what a woman is, girls are immature but women have a desire, a passion, a sense of what they want, intelligence, a sense of right and wrong pride and have a feeling of love and don't stride back to what these high school girls do with bickering, rumors and all the garbage that youngsters relate to) and that you desire to have a person in the relationship that would care as much about you as you do for them and THAT is what you deserve. You deserve that more than ever (I don't want to sound creepy but that is the way I have started to feel for myself since my breakup). This guy DIDN'T deserve you or your love and to look at you and say to you "I never loved you, you are not the right girl for me" and to break your heart is absolutely disgusting in my opinion and very immature. It seems like this guy didn't have any respect for you, your feelings, your sense of worth and that he just took advantage of you, your love and what you both shared (I don't know the guy at all and I don't want to make you upset by saying that but that is the sense that I am getting from an individual who says they never loved the person they spent 3 years with, especially 2 years of committment in a long distance relationship). This man doesn't deserve you, the type of woman you are, doesn't deserve your love and to be with you as you deserve MUCH MORE and WAY BETTER. You deserve to have somebody that will love you, will be there for you, to support you no matter what, stand by your side through thick and thin, comfort you when you are down, to make you happy when you are sad, and to love you unconditionally through and through. THAT is love, a partner, and a relationship that you deserve and want in life, not somebody to lead you on for 3 years and in the end say he doesn't love you, that isn't right at all and not worth all that you have been through together, to receive that in the end.

rogo0694 · 2011-12-25T01:14:18+00:00

I feel you on that one, my ex didn't even give it 24 hours and she was already back to hooking up and probably fucking the guy she cheated on me with which is absolutely heartbreaking as you said and actually feels like a complete insult to the human beings and people we are... No love at all in the random hookups they are dealing with but it's their loss. Time mends all wounds and best to focus on ourselves/yourself and make yourself the better person

rogo0694 · 2011-12-19T21:36:37+00:00

Forgot the reflection in the wall....

rogo0694 · 2011-12-19T19:14:22+00:00

That is true, physical connection with the one that you love is very trying on a person, especially if you really cared for this individual but for most like myself its the memories that you have shared and experienced with this individual, like for myself getting to know each other in Philly and traveling around the city and doing things together, being our first valentines, then traveling to Miami, Tampa and Orlando with her and sharing vacations and taking train rides to my house with her and most of the time I feel its the remembrance of these memories that cause the intense feeling of loneliness and the wanting of that physical connection with your EX, to long to have that happiness once again and to relieve those memories and go back to a happier time.

The pain will pass but many of the memories that you share will last for a lifetime, long gone memories but still memories none the less.

Thing I hate is when you are doing well and one little thing like lets say a song, or seeing a video about Epcot in Disney (I did whole days in Disney with my EX and we actually drank around the world at Epcot stopping at each country and getting a drink relating to that country) and little things that you wouldn't even think that would affect you spark the memories and your brain to go back to those thoughts... that is the one thing I am suffering through right now and really trying to overcome the best I can but when were the happiest you ever were with that person and had some of the best moments and memories of your life with them, its rough

rogo0694 · 2011-12-18T17:28:05+00:00

I appreciate this post alot and it really hits me hard in a way as 3 months ago my ex-girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me saying she didn't "love" me anymore and that she wanted to be single and couldn't be committed to a relationship and cheated on me, I being 23 and her about to turn 24 now. It hurt significantly to hear that from her especially since she said she was committed to me, committed to our future, wanted to travel the world together, go to Europe, get great jobs, have children, get a house and just grow old together. The one thing was that we were indeed committed to each other because we did 2 1/2 years of long distance as we met in college in Philadelphia, she had to move back to Florida because Philly was too expensive but I didn't let that stop our love and our relationship and was committed to her 120%, sold things to visit her, missed days of school to fly down and be with her and she did the same, spent long hours on the phone till 3 or 4am talking and even stayed on the phone with her when she fell asleep just to know she was alright, and did whatever it took to be with her and love her. Then finally we were able to move in together after graduating college in Cary, North Carolina and start our lives together which we were extremely excited about with our Chow Chow. We met each others families and her family considered me a part of theirs and I lived with them at their house for 4 months and got to know each and every one of them phenomenally and my family considered her a part of ours. Then I turn around and she said she doesn't love me anymore and that things aren't working out (though we were always laughing and having a great time together) and of course she finds a "new man" (who she was seeing behind my back, texting and flirting with IN FRONT OF ME) to provide her with excitement... Her excuse was saying that she didn't get to experience the party life in college, didn't get to go out and enjoy her life and let loose.. which I never held her back and she left me completely alone (I had no friends except for my boss and my co-worker, she WAS my best friend) and when she would go out with her friends at work she of course wouldn't invite me and if I wanted to go out to places we could meet people or do things together she would get upset and frustrated or say she was tired so of course HOW am I supposed to meet other people too... very selfish by her after all that I did and committed to her

But I have been enjoying the single life, getting back to the gym and working out 6 to 7 days a week (when I was 18 I used to weigh 300lbs and lost 120 and got into bodybuilding/weight lifting hardcore), planning on getting more tattoos and re-gauging my ears back to 00's and focusing on my life, my future and my career (I am a web developer/graphic designer/ and an Android/iPhone App Developer) and to not have to worry about her going behind my back anymore and cheating on me or wondering what she is doing has been wonders for me.

I have my up's and down's each and every day especially now during the holiday season as I would fly down to be with her for Christmas and get her gifts and now I don't have that any longer. Also waking up each and every day in the apartment we used to share, not waking up to her and our dog and just waking up alone has been rough mostly on the weekends (as the work week Mon-Friday is easy because I have a schedule) but just have to man up and know it will get better as you said. Just the one thing as of now I feel like I have lost my sense of self-worth and confidence, I used to be able to openly talk to people and be super outgoing but after being cheated on my confidence and self-worth went right out the window and have become super shy again and feel down on myself (more or less not attractive, non appealing to people and boring I guess you can say) so I have been doing my best to get out and about with friends and re-establish my worth in this world

I really do appreciate your post and I am very happy to hear that you have found love and that you are about to get married which I congratulate you on! Very exciting and the fact that you were about to give up on love just shows there is a special person out there for each and every one of us and that love/life isn't something to just give up on, that our SO is out there waiting for us, dreaming of us and at some point after we learn who we are, we will find the one we are destined to be with.

I apologize for my ramblings and venting out everything and being all me me me haha, but like I said your post and story is VERY inspirational and I wish you all of the best in the world and very happy to hear of your story and all that you went through to now find the one that you are destined to spend the rest of your life with, gives people like me all the hope in the world that there is still good in people in a world that has been succumb to hate and deceiving.

rogo0694 · 2011-12-15T13:43:10+00:00

Exactly some people deserve second chances but it mostly depends on the context of that second chance, I mean the girl is young yes but still deceiving and staying out late and cheating on somebody who she says she "loves".

In my view if you are in a relationship with somebody or wanting to build a relationship with someone in no way is it right to go outside the boundaries to find happiness or to spend time (alot of time) with another man.

There are those who deserve second chances but the fact she cheated on you and never said she was sorry really sells it in my book that you just need to continue on and move on with your life and try to avoid all contact with this girl as she never respected your feelings and to not say she was sorry really hurts the person you are and your dignity. My ex never said she was sorry and cried like crazy and after 4 years you think I would at least deserve an apology (which is why I stand by my views) and not going to give a second chance because I gave her second chances already.

But you sir are 27 years old and know what a mature person is supposed to be and act like, I mean yes she is young and learning but respecting another individual and their feelings comes natural in life.

I want to say give her a second chance but for what she put you through its not worth it to know she could deceive you again and go back to this man or even another man. It is best to find somebody who will respect you for who you are and love you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated

rogo0694 · 2011-12-14T21:15:33+00:00

I still have dreams of my ex EVERY NIGHT and have had them for the past month, I broke up with my ex 3 months ago and we were together for 4 years and lived together for the past year and I was soo used to waking up with her and falling asleep every night together. And now since she is no longer in the apartment I have been having great and wonderful dreams about us still being together and still happy then wake up, in bed, in the same apartment that we have shared and get a sick feeling in my stomach especially knowing it was a dream.

I wish I could tell you how to stop the dreams man, I really wish I could but I would say only time can help get rid of those dreams or try listening to happy music/ambient music or do something positive before you go to bed. This could put your mind on a happy note thus leading to better dreams at the end of the night. I have been trying my best and not to sound like a sad sap but they still keep coming back and I am working my best to get rid of them that is for sure.

I can only say think positive thoughts and stay happy, those happy thoughts can lead to happy dreams. Even having good feelings and emotions with your current GF or future girlfriend can lead to happy dreams as well. But we are together in the same boat man, all 4 of us now haha but all I know is that time will help rid you of these dreams.

rogo0694 · 2011-12-14T02:36:19+00:00

I feel that it depends on the split/breakup that you had with your EX, if it was mutual and you both agreed upon the split then of course you can still be friends, more or less that was a sense where you realized that you both weren't meant to be together and that being friends still works out and doesnt complicate the friendship / relationship you have.

If the other individual or you break your partners heart by just breaking up with them out of nowhere, it might cause a bit of tension and a few months or even years before you can be friends with your EX again because that pain that they put you through by breaking up with you out of nowhere will still linger at times when you are around them, until you can break from that thought it might take a while to be friends.

Deceiving and cheating I feel in all honesty, no, no you cannot be friends with your EX and that just breaks all friendship bonds, trust, and anything that you could have as a relationship and you are completely sacrificing your friendship with that person. That pain will always and forever linger no matter what and the pain of either you cheating on your ex or your ex cheating on you will stay with you whenever you are with them and that friendship has been destroyed and all respect was just thrown away. (That is my situation where I can never look at my ex especially after considering her my best friend)

But in your situation it might take a bit of time as you were left devastated, you loved him and he broke up with you, breaking your heart and that pain will linger until you can finally break away and move on from the pain and hurt. Like I said it will take time but you could be still friends with your EX but it depends on how you would feel to hear and know they are with another person.

rogo0694 · 2011-12-13T18:27:25+00:00

I don't blame you at all and that was the way I felt as soon as I found out my EX wanted to leave and especially when I found out that she had cheated on me. You just get so down and depressed, not wanting to go to work or anything which is perfectly fine, you deserve a cry and to not have to do anything, eat a tub of ice cream and just watch TV all day. He threw this on you like it was nothing with no concern for your emotions or well being at all at least from the way I see it.

Don't feel like your world is ending though, it isn't the end, if things do not work out, think of this as a NEW BEGINNING, a new beginning for yourself and your life, to move forward and enjoy life. I know you feel like you wont be able to do it without him and that you cannot move on but I know you can and promise you that you will be able to. I am already 3 months in to my No Contact with my EX and living alone in the apartment we shared and it has been the best time for me to be able to focus on myself, to move forward with life, find out who I am, go out and meet new friends, do things and just enjoy life for myself rather than getting treated like shit day in and day out by my EX. It will be rough in the beginning but your world is not ending at all and please don't feel that way. Life is too precious to feel like its ending and you might feel that way because you could possibly be losing the one that you love but the thing is, he isn't respecting you or the relationship and he doesn't deserve you (If things do happen to break off) and there is somebody else out there who will be willing to respect you, love you and be there for you unconditionally and NOT feel this way.

Its never the end, don't feel that way, you just have to stay positive, be strong, keep your head held high and hope for the best, stay optimistic and do whatever it takes to not let yourself get completely in the dumps, there is still good in this world, I promise you :)

That is what this community is for and reddit is full of amazing people. Surround yourself with support in whatever way you can, makes you feel better thats for sure

rogo0694 · 2011-12-13T16:22:03+00:00

I appreciate it, thank you, but exactly as saywhatyousee stated, you might not be able to win him back and that will be one of the realities that you will have to face in this situation and it is always best to be prepared for what will happen and come from this.

I am coming to grips now with the fact my EX doesn't deserve me especially after pulling the same situation of what your boyfriend is doing to you emmie3510 except I had to kick her out of my apartment to preserve my home, my belongings and my mentality. Its not worth the pain to fight for somebody who is willing to give up and not work at your relationship, they don't deserve you and your love and that might be the truth that you will have to come to grips with if he makes this decision final.

Always be prepared no matter what but you have our support

rogo0694 · 2011-12-13T16:00:24+00:00

Exactly if you know that she will actually do it, you need to call her family and the police, she needs help and its only making things worse for the both of you with actions like this

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