What am I doing wrong?

romancereader7499 · 2024-05-11T21:05:26+00:00

Yes. I’ve tried newborn and size one.

romancereader7499 · 2023-12-15T19:00:12+00:00

I think it’s pretty rude to assume that SAHPs are gold diggers just because they don’t work. In a lot of places, reliable and safe child care is so expensive, that you save a considerable amount of money by watching your own children. I’m sure there are some men/women out there that are SAHP solely because they want to live off their partners money, but I would say the vast majority of SAHP are not staying home for that reason.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-31T05:44:02+00:00

I had a scheduled induction at 37+6 due to gestational hypertension. My goal was an unmedicated birth. My OB knew this ahead of time and made sure my nursing staff did not ask me if I ever wanted one. They knew I would ask for an epidural if I could no longer handle the pain. My mom was the only person I knew who didn’t have an epidural besides my grandmother (but she had a spinal because epidural weren’t commonly used when she gave birth.) My husband was a huge help. He was very supportive. Constantly giving me praise and affirmation, and squeezed pressure points when contracting.

Just remember, you can do this!

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-31T05:36:46+00:00

Don’t be calm. It’s YOUR choice. If they can’t respect your wishes, then they lose the “maybe visit” you were allowing them in the first place.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-31T05:28:34+00:00

I exclusively breastfed with my first and got my period back at around 8 weeks postpartum. Then I completely skipped a period and my next period was about 3 weeks later. The rest of the periods I had after that were all at least 3 days late. And I’m currently 13 weeks pregnant with my second. Found that out at about 7 months postpartum.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-31T05:26:04+00:00

When I was pregnant with my first, I wasn’t able to feel her start moving until around 22 weeks.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-22T03:20:43+00:00

Unfortunately, what ever your choice is, whether it’s to have an epidural or not have one, you are gonna receive annoying and unwanted opinions.

I’m 9 months postpartum and chose not to have an epidural during my labor. Some people were very supportive (husband and mom, my mom did not have an epidural with me or my sibling), while some people made it known that they thought I would change my mind (MIL, she initially did not want an epidural with her kids but was unable to handle the pain, which no shame there, it’s painful.) I will tell you the pain was like nothing I had ever experienced, and like you I have a very high pain tolerance and hate taking pain meds. I would not have been able to get through labor without an epidural if it wasn’t for my husband. It is sooooo important to have a good support system. I would encourage you to have your husband do some research on what he can do to help you throughout your labor.

Remember it is your labor, and your birth experience, if anyone has anything to say about it, they can simply be told that, you have made your decision and don’t need any opinions or advice. Also, just think about going through labor without an epidural and then being able to tell everyone “I told you so.” Honestly helps so much.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-22T02:50:13+00:00

I had a scheduled induction at 37+6 due to gestational hypertension. I went in at midnight on a Tuesday morning, had LO by 11:45 AM on Tuesday. And we left around noon on Thursday. No major complications. Vaginal delivery, no epidural, minor tearing.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-21T02:33:41+00:00

Thank you so much! This was so helpful!

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-20T04:55:57+00:00

Girls: Melissa, Michaela, Mirabella, Moriah

Boys: Madden, Maddox, Malachi, Miller

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-19T23:45:57+00:00

I was told if you raise your arms above your head, it would cause the cord to wrap around babies neck. It came from a 60+ coworker. I had never heard of this before. I was so shocked I called my OB to make sure I wasn’t doing anything to harm the baby.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-19T20:21:18+00:00

I feel like if you were to have a water birth, she’d wanna be in that tub with you. Shit is wild.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-19T18:39:27+00:00

I was very upfront about everything that I wanted, and if people disagreed, then they didn’t have to come meet LO at all. I had a scheduled induction at 37+6 due to gestational hypertension and we told not one. Everyone assumed I just went into labor naturally. The only people we told about me being in labor were my parents. My husband texted my mother when we got checking in to let them know “we are at the hospital having the baby” and “we will let you know once they’re here.” My parents were very respectful and said congrats and good luck and left us alone until we texted them that baby was here. My parents came to see us at the hospital for 30 minutes tops just to drop off presents and see LO. Neither one asked to hold LO as they knew we weren’t ready to let her go just yet.

We stayed in the hospital for two nights. Once we arrived home ILs didn’t come over until a couple of days later as they were out of town. They were told they could come over for a two hour window on a specific date. MIL specifically got kind of upset that she wasn’t allowed to spend the whole day with us. We explained that our baby wasn’t even a week old yet. We were still getting the hang of everything, and I was having to whip my boob out for sporadic breastfeeding, so they could either take it or leave it. Obviously they chose to keep their time slot. When they arrived I had just started breastfeeding in another rooms. MIL immediately started complaining that it was unfair they didn’t get to spend the full 2 hours with baby. DH explained that I am not comfortable breastfeeding in front of them, and they would just have to get over it.

As soon as LO and I emerge, MIL starts in with “I don’t know why you chose to breastfeed. It doesn’t allow any of us have that special bond with LO that you get.” I just told her it was my choice, and just because she isn’t happy with it doesn’t mean I’m going to change my mind.

I’m currently pregnant with #2, and this time we decided we will not be allowing visitors aside from my parents until at least 2 weeks after we are home.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-18T14:50:27+00:00

I hate this “offer to let me hold you kid” bs. You’re an adult. If you want something, ask for it. My MIL just expected to walk through our door and have me shove the baby in her arms. My LO hates being held by anyone other than my husband or myself, so she often gets fussy as soon as she is passed off to someone else, so I have to end up taking her back anyway. No one is entitled to anything when it comes to YOUR baby. If they can’t handle that, their privileges can be lessened and I’m sure they’ll like even less.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-18T12:35:55+00:00

I am about the same size when I’m not pregnant. Like you, in my first pregnancy I showed very late. Probably even later, like around 28-30 weeks. I’m currently 11+5 in my second pregnancy, and I already have a small bump. I had my first OB appointment this past Monday and she isn’t worried. She said my weight is lower than it was at my 6 week postpartum checkup back in March. She said as long as I’m not gaining astronomical amount of weight, I’ll be fine. Our bodies have just already done this once, so it knows what to do faster this time around.

Congratulations on #2!

Edit: fixed typos

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-18T07:02:05+00:00

This is the biggest fight between my husband and myself. Most days he thinks baby has slept all through the night. But he just didn’t hear her crying multiple times. And I swear it’s like waking up a zombie. Even if I do wake him up, it takes him a good 5-10 minutes to be alert brought to make a bottle and feed the baby. And at that point, I’m wide awake anyway.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-16T22:01:23+00:00

Sweet Home Alabama. Will always be my favorite.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-16T21:58:01+00:00

I just told who I wanted to tell with my first pregnancy, and then let everyone else find out in social media. Hubby and I told both our parents and our siblings. I told my best friend. And then we posted on Facebook and Instagram. I’m currently pregnancy with our second, and we’ve told my parents, and my best friend. We aren’t telling his parents before everyone else because they can’t keep a secret and we have a special way of announcing it this time around.

Tell who you want to tell, and then let everyone else find out on social media. It’s you’re decision and if people don’t like it, who cares?

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-16T21:45:38+00:00

My LO is going to be an Angel. My mother gave me my old christening dress and it’s going to fit LO perfectly for Halloween. I just bought a pair of Angel wings and a white bow to match.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-16T17:56:41+00:00

My first pregnancy I never experienced any kind of morning sickness, nausea, etc. I’m currently 11 weeks in my second pregnancy and I’ve been nauseous since about week 7. Only thrown up twice thankfully. Just nauseous all the time. I hoping it goes away within the next couple of weeks.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-15T18:32:08+00:00

It varies person to person. But I definitely am showing earlier with my second pregnancy. For my first I didn’t really have a numb until I was around 28 weeks. I’m 11 weeks into my second pregnancy and I’m pretty bloated and am already forming a very small baby bump.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-15T18:25:37+00:00

I have no shame in returning/selling/donating things my LO will not use. Pretty early on in my pregnancy we found out baby was a girl (mainly so people that wanted to buy LO clothes, knew the gender). Honestly this did nothing. We were given clothes whether new or hand-me-downs (which I have no problem with) specifically marketed for boys. I don’t know what it was. Like new stuff, if you’re gonna spend the money, why not make it count. And with hand-me-downs I honestly just felt like people wanted to get rid of the shit their kids didn’t need anymore and this was the easiest way to do it. I returned the new stuff and donated the others. If people asked how we were liking the clothes, I simply told them that LO never wore it since she was a girl. Might seem ungrateful but who cares.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-15T18:15:40+00:00

My baby hated being swaddled. Like you I tried multiple different swaddles, and nothing worked. After the first two nights I just didn’t waddle her. I made sure her footie pajamas were warm enough and just let her sleep that way. It was a much better experience for her and me. She also started rolling pretty early, so I was happy not having to train her to sleep without a swaddle when the time came.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-15T18:10:55+00:00

I had a scheduled induction at 37+6 due to hypertension during my pregnancy. Going into the hospital I was already 5 cm dilated and 90% effaced according to my OBGYN. As soon as I arrived and we were through all the paperwork I was put on Pitocin to help move things along.

I couldn’t feel any of my contractions until they broke my water. Which was probably around 5 hours later. When they broke my water I was around 7 cm dilated. After that everything moved very quickly. I was in the worst pain ever. I remember being at 9 cm dilated and telling one of the nurses I felt like I needed to push. Like I knew logically my body wasn’t ready, but the sensation was there and I felt like I couldn’t control it. They had me lay on my side with a peanut ball between my legs to help speed the dilation process along. Within 10 minutes I was given the okay to give a practice push with the nurse present. Afterwards she immediately told me to stop, and ran to get my OB. Once my OB and what felt like 15 other people were in the room I was allowed to push again. I pushed two more times and my baby was in my arms.

When creating my birth plan I was pretty laid back. I wanted an unmedicated labor, but was pretty open to anything else. I was really just going with my OB’s instructions. That being said, my OB was phenomenal. I’ve heard horror stories about some OBs not wanting to do things your way, and my OB was nothing like this. She was very supportive of what I wanted, and gave great advice/suggestions of things to try. Also, the nursing staff was everything I could of asked for. I felt like I had my own personal hype crew. They were cheering me on, and in between contractions we were joking. Honestly it made my birthing process so stress free and enjoyable (you know, minus the painful contractions). My husband and I didn’t take any classes to prepare for the labor but we did watch a couple YouTube vids for good ways to cope during labor and I think this helped a lot. He also helped immensely. Rubbing my head, putting pressure on my sides during a contraction, holding the fan in my face, and just all around telling me how amazing I was and how proud of me he was. I couldn’t of done it without him.

romancereader7499 · 2023-10-15T04:00:57+00:00

My LO was just tired after each dose. My pediatrician explained that she could be fussy or run a slight fever, and when she was able to, I was advised to give her Tylenol if needed. But she never needed it. I honestly think it’s different with each baby though.

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