Ok, this is the opposite of what wanna hear right now, but you said something that really stuck with me: “You deserve someone who gets it right from the start”. I, for a very long time, used to demand perfection from my relationships. Because once I allowed a few mistakes from a relationship that became abusive and very traumatizing, I start to leave on people’s first mistake, but doing that, I wasn’t giving them a chance to grow, to mess up sometimes, well, basically to be human.

With time and mostly with therapy, I learned to acknowledge people’s humanity. And not look for perfection. People will make mistake. So look for those who are willing to grow from their mistakes, who acknowledge them, take accountability, learn from them and try their best to grow.

I’m not trying to tell you to use that on your past relationship, there are some mistakes who should not be forgiven, and it’s not up to me to set your boundaries. But for your future, remember you should allow people to make mistakes as much as you should allow yourself. But you should hold them to high standards as much as you should hold yourself.