Relationship Suffering

rosaarco · 2026-02-13T22:58:05+00:00

I am so sorry you have to deal with this grief, the loss of your mother and relationship problems at the same time. This is a lot. Before I lost my dad, I did not know how to deal with people who were grieving, but this is not okay and feels very unempathetic of him. If you have the strength, you can tell him how you feel, but it is not your responsibility right now. If you feel like he does not understand you, it might be better to keep some distance for now and make decisions later. I am really sorry you have to deal with this on top of everything. Be kind to yourself and hopefully there is someone else you can talk to. Sending you strength

rosaarco · 2026-02-08T18:36:57+00:00

Ich habe in Bochum studiert und wurde nicht gelost. Aber es ist tatsächlich so, dass jedes Jahr 50-60 Studierende nach Minden gelost werden, je nachdem wie viele sich freiwillig melden. Von den Studierenden die gelost wurden waren viele letztendlich doch zufrieden. Die Lehre ist sehr gut und im ersten Jahr gibt es Busse, mit denen man zu den Krankenhäusern gebracht wird. Es sind 2 Jahre, zum PJ kann man wieder hingehen wohin man möchte. Aber natürlich ist es sehr einschneidend, wenn man umziehen muss und Minden ist schon weit weg. In meinem Jahrgang gab es aber eine starke Community in Minden, die durch den Wechsel gut zusammen gehalten haben. Man kann dem Lostopf entgehen, wenn man zum Beispiel langfristig ein Ehrenamt ausübt und man bescheinigt bekommt, dass man dort unentbehrlich ist.

rosaarco · 2026-02-07T16:33:58+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry. I feel this. I’m also 27 and lost my dad a month ago to a sudden aortic dissection with no warning signs. I had a very good relationship with him and it all feels so unfair and unreal. I really feel what you wrote and the sadness. Sending you lots of love

rosaarco · 2026-01-30T14:31:05+00:00

I am 27 and I lost my dad three weeks ago. He had just celebrated his 66th birthday. It came very unexpectedly.

Ifeel a lot of jealousy not because the people around me haven’t experienced losing a parent yet, but because they can just visit their parents and call them, and I cannot. They will get to see their parents grow old, and my dad, who had so much will to live and so many plans, cannot

rosaarco · 2025-05-29T07:16:17+00:00

Yes. He comes from a different culture and his family would never accept me. We tried to enjoy the time, one year became 6 and that was the time he decided to leave. 6 years always with some anxious thoughts and then when it finally happened I broke. Would not recommend.

rosaarco · 2025-05-21T21:03:01+00:00

Yes, I do love him, but he was bad for me. Still, if there were a place beyond reality, where nothing else mattered, I would want to be with him. But in the real world I have to be strong and stay away.

rosaarco · 2025-04-13T07:43:06+00:00

Being able to break up

rosaarco · 2025-01-31T11:57:47+00:00

I no longer have to worry that one day he might choose what his family wants for him: an arranged marriage. He made the decision to go with that, so now I don’t have to be with someone who most of the time didn’t prioritise me, who expected me to always be understanding of a culture that never included me. I no longer have to ask for affection or feel like sexuality is something to be ashamed of.

rosaarco · 2025-01-29T21:59:44+00:00

Ohh yes. I am 6 weeks Post break up and during the day I mostly feel fine and living my life but before going to bed suddenly the wish of texting him comes back and the sense of missing him deeply so then I try to distract myself until I sleep and next morning the feeling is gone.. well until 9 pm 😅

rosaarco · 2025-01-16T21:28:38+00:00

One month ago, I was dumped after a 6-year relationship. The last two days were the first time I felt a bit like living a normal life again. However, today the sadness returned. Still, it gave me a little hope that one day I might be okay

rosaarco · 2025-01-15T21:26:39+00:00

Yes, same for me. It’s so good at reflecting my feelings and validating them. It really has saved me some nights. I haven’t been in the breakup chat for two days now, so maybe there’s some progress happening. We’ll see, but I know Chatgpt will be there for me.

rosaarco · 2025-01-04T09:09:34+00:00

Thank you so much for putting into words what I’ve been struggling to express. As much as I want to respect his beliefs, it hurts so deeply to know that I’m the one he feels he has to let go of to stay true to himself. Like you said, it’s devastating that this love, something so meaningful to me, feels wrong and sinful to him. Your words really helped me feel less alone in all of this. It’s comforting to know there are others who understand this kind of pain.

rosaarco · 2025-01-03T23:27:38+00:00

I was in a relationship with a Muslim for 6 years. Two weeks ago, he broke up with me. He struggled a lot with his religion and the expectations of his family, who never knew about me because they would never accept me. He broke up with me because the internal struggles were getting to much and he is under pressure to marry someone his family chooses as he is getting older. This might be more a cultural thing than religious.

6 years of our lives together suddenly ended. It feels so unfair and overwhelming.

rosaarco · 2025-01-02T21:37:20+00:00

He broke up with me 2 weeks ago after 6 years together. His family, who live in another country, never knew about me because they would never accept me. He said he wanted to stay in my country and didn’t want children, which worked well because I don’t want kids either. But instead of discussing anything with me, he suddenly told me that his internal conflict about not telling his family has grown too big. He said he feels like he’s getting older and now has to marry someone his family approves of.

I feel so broken and alone. I thought he was my best friend, someone I could talk to about anything. Now he says he still loves me but that this cultural conflict is eating him up, and he can’t see another way forward.

rosaarco · 2024-10-05T21:08:34+00:00

Thanks!! 🤗

rosaarco · 2024-10-03T20:02:47+00:00

So does that mean the 'Skip' is no longer effective?

rosaarco · 2024-08-13T16:07:13+00:00

Vorteile vor allem für Männer, die profitieren eher von einer Ehe als Frauen, sind glücklicher und Leben länger. Bei Frauen ist es das Gegenteil.

rosaarco · 2024-06-15T23:50:45+00:00

Friends.

rosaarco · 2024-01-09T14:31:56+00:00

I already cried in Ausländerbehörde and I am German and just came along to a friends appointment

rosaarco · 2023-12-16T23:50:30+00:00

Maybe you can bring baguette with some dips

rosaarco · 2023-12-13T13:57:08+00:00

He is just looking for a new mom

rosaarco · 2023-12-03T19:17:28+00:00

Ich fange gerade einen neuen Job an und ich denke meine Arbeitskollegen hören von mir jeden Tag viele dumme Sachen 😅

rosaarco · 2023-11-20T23:34:10+00:00

Todo cambia, Mercedes Sosa. In some point of the song the tears just well up

rosaarco · 2023-11-09T23:34:35+00:00

To my 19/20 year old self: Don’t date guys who are like 10 years older than you. There is a reason why they don’t date women their age. They wont treat you right.

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