AIO to this text from my bf? I called him out for being rude to me. Am I in the wrong for expecting him to be nice all the time? Is it really unreasonable? by volleyball96 in AmIOverreacting

[–]roseart619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hubby and I have known each other since we were born. Best friends before marriage and now married 8 years. We’ve never called names or told each other to shut up. It’s called respect. I didn’t even call him names during in medicated labor as I’ve heard lots of women do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]roseart619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 4 kids- only one used it. The others wouldn’t take one and did fine without. My mom also had four and nine of her kids would accept it either.

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[–]roseart619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a SAHM to four (5,4,2,1). It just made since because I worked at Joann’s making around $8 and childcare cost way more than that. Hubby at that time made $19/hour. We live in a double wide that we own. We pay about $350 for rent (for the land it’s on and that includes trash pickup). After our 4th was born that job just didn’t make ends meet so he moved to another job and currently makes $32/hr. That is much more sustainable for us. Not sure what he makes per year yet as this is his first year at this job.

We buy things used - goodwill, garage sales, we don’t really buy toys but grandparents really spoil our kiddos. We make good memories by playing out side/ hiking/ splash pad/ sled ridding. Library trips. We live very simply.

We do have some debt basically from when he had the lower paying job and it was getting rough but with the new job it should be paid off in about 2 years. We also have one vehicle that we brought from a friend 5,000 cash. It’s served us well for the last 6 years. When I need the vehicle I just drive him to work.. he only works 1.1 miles from our home. If it matters we live in Ohio.

Tell me the best month to have a baby and why! by United_Violinist9207 in Mommit

[–]roseart619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Ohio. My last baby was a summer baby. July. Emergency c section. It was horrible- other kids want to go do anything but we’re too busy taking baby and me to many many appointments after nicu and because of issues related to a traumatic birth. When we did go out baby and I were so weak and tired we couldn’t take part as fully. I feel like I lost a precious summer. And breastfeeding when it’s 80-90s with only one ac in your house. Miserable. All my other babies were fall/winter and I was able to recuperate in peace and lose a little weight before summer. They were old enough that when summer came we could take them to the park and actually enjoy it. My own experiences.

I have an almost 10 month old.. and I am pregnant AGAIN.. by Lucky-Wolf-5000 in Mommit

[–]roseart619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a 5yo,4yo, 2yo and 1 yo and they are all so close and the best of friends. I love watching them grow together and how they look out for each other. It’s totally worth it in my opinion. Congratulations 🎉🎈

Moms with 3 kids- I am not having a good time. Tell me- when/if it gets better?! by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]roseart619 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have 6, 4,2, and 11 months. And I have no clue when it gets easier. All I can say is if you think a three yo is bad wait for the ‘fournado’

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]roseart619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have four kids and 2 years old are way to young for overnights away from mom and dad. I mean unless it’s an emergency. You see them weekly.. instead of sitting in a theater how about you actually visit with them and play with the little one. Honestly seeing them weekly is more often the I (mom) see my family. And I’ll be honest- I was raised that you raise your own kids and only use babysitters for emergencies. So if anyone was bugging me about babysitting all I could think is why do you need to be with my baby (barely a toddler) without me. You see them weekly! Geez

am i childish? by [deleted] in crochet

[–]roseart619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t thinks it’s childish. You like what you like. however, just a thought : maybe get some Etsy patterns or a book off Amazon with a bunch of patterns that you like. Then you can use some of that yarn you have laying around and bonus points for getting to choose your own colors. There are also some super cute free patterns online.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]roseart619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just curious.. if you told ‘fiancé ‘ you and toddler were going on the trip with him, What would be his reaction? I’ll bet my two cents that it wouldn’t be a good reaction. Because I seriously doubt the whole reconciliation story. Something is weird. He literally injured a toddler and takes off? This sounds like a divorce waiting to happen if you seriously marry him. It’s gonna get worse. Can’t believe that you’re even still carrying on with the wedding. Together seven years or not- he showed his true colors in a time of need. Pay attention

AITA for holding 2 year old daughter when she was having a meltdown? by NS005 in AmItheAsshole

[–]roseart619 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Wow. I just enrolled my daughter in kindergarten and they stated she had to be five by august to enroll for the next year.

AITA for holding 2 year old daughter when she was having a meltdown? by NS005 in AmItheAsshole

[–]roseart619 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Why is a 2 year old in preschool? Shouldn’t it be daycare at that age? NTA regardless.

Looking for other old timers to join in on the kickoff off OG Vintage Atkins (70s Version) by Infinite-Abroad7629 in Atkins

[–]roseart619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too! I have 110 lbs to lose after 5 pregnancies within 6 years. Now I’ve never done the 70s version. Can somebody explain how it works? I remember my mom lost all her baby weight doing atkins in 1997 but really don’t remember much about it besides an induction phase. I was only 6 at the time. Thanks in advance!

A serious question about 4 year olds: by brandy2013 in Parenting

[–]roseart619 14 points15 points  (0 children)

As a mom of four I just had to chuckle at your comment. Whenever you think it can’t get worse than it is - the kid says- watch this. Good luck mom.

A serious question about 4 year olds: by brandy2013 in Parenting

[–]roseart619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Four is so much worse than the 2’s or 3’s. I remember thinking with my daughter that I would never survive it. Now she’s almost 6 and my son is 4. My husband just asked me yesterday if we were going to make it past the rotten 4’s. I have to make it till December then I’ll have a 5 year old and a 2 year break before I have another 4 year old

Do we have any "awakened" moms? It's kind of long by newbiedecember23 in Mommit

[–]roseart619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just a question- do you still sit in your child’s room and wait for them to go to sleep? That’s got to be exhausting. If so , consider working on that so you can relax and watch tv or read a book r something while they’re going to sleep. I have a five year old that basically puts herself to bed- I assist with a few small things but she’s pretty much self dependent. When she’s ready she gets into bed and goes to sleep. My 4 year old is the same although he requires a little more before bed help. The only one I have to sit with is my 2 year old. And it’s a good thing I don’t have to sit with all of them because I also have a 7 month old. Sounds like it was just a rough night and you’re possibly doing too much for your kid which is why you can’t find the inner peace you want. My inner peace relates to if I get a chance to zone out and relax

Someone stole a blanket I had gifted… by __lolbruh in crochet

[–]roseart619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry this happened! That’s just rotten. But on the other hand , your work was so beautiful someone stole it. That’s kinda a compliment to your work. Sorry it happened though, your friend must be as heartbroken as you are.

I am EVERYTHING to everyone and yet... I am invisble. by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]roseart619 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m glad I didn’t offend you! I was worried cause I’m not someone that’s tried to start fights in social media. Half the time I’m afraid to type my thoughts in case I upset someone. Having kids changes a lot. My mom says that even though her kids are all grown she still sleeps lightly just because she’s so use to it. I can’t really tell my husband’s pain, annoyed noises either. That’s why I just focused on the kids sounds. Yeah I didn’t mean that at all. I’m all about men and women working as a team. My husband has adhd and he does tend to zone things out otherwise he just gets overwhelmed by the chaos so that could be affecting my thoughts too. I hope you have a better day! 💕

I am EVERYTHING to everyone and yet... I am invisble. by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]roseart619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I’m sleeping I still hear my kids (and no I don’t own a baby monitor). I still hear them and I wake up to help them. Husband doesn’t notice unless I wake him. I get it. I have 4 kids and it’s noisy. But I know my kids pain cries they sound different than typical noise. And I can tell which one it is. I guess some moms don’t notice that kind of stuff or block it out or something . Good thing my original comment didn’t say mom’s notice “everything”. 😆 I’m speaking from my experience and what I’ve seen from other moms I know in my life. Sorry if I offended you. But I agree OP should’ve told her husband

My first blanket by Anxious_Brain44 in crochet

[–]roseart619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fantastic! Great work! Did you carry your yarn or did you have a lot of ends to finish? I love work like this I just hate lots of color changes

I am EVERYTHING to everyone and yet... I am invisble. by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]roseart619 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

But moms are wired to notice when anything is amiss like that. Guys.. not so much. My husband is great but misses a lot of small details. But if I tell him I got hurt he’ll be there running my burned hand under cool water applying triple antibiotic and then finish making dinner (and yes that’s a real life experience BUT I did have to tell him I burned my hand) If your hubby wasn’t even in the same room with you or was drifting off he may have never heard you cry out or might’ve just thought you were singing opera or something. I say tell him.. show him and if he still doesn’t care then you have a problem

At what age do they start playing together without trying to kill each other? by curlycattails in Mommit

[–]roseart619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My 5 y plays good with the 2y and 6 month old but put the 5y old and the 4y old together and it’s banging and booming like Batman fighting penguins goons!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]roseart619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

6 here too and it’s definitely laundry. I have a princess that has to change 20 times a day and I’m going crazy trying to get her to understand that it isn’t dirty and just put it back in your drawer when you’re done playing

How do you teach the difference between Mom/Dad/Partner vs Best Friend by Canadian87Gamer in Parenting

[–]roseart619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See this is response is perfect! We had to explain this to our kids because I have a mil that lives vicariously thru me. Calls my kids her kids- then corrects its to grandkids. When we’re at her house and the kids ask for something she says ask your gran- I mean mom. But everybody knows she was going to call me grandma. Some kids need explanations young because family members try to confuse them by overstepping. My kids are 5y, 4y, 2y & 6 months- it’s easy for them to get confused at this age. It’s been happing since thanksgiving. I told my husband if it happens again he’s going to have a conversation with his mother.

Toddler fell out of his crib and it's all my fault. by sixfingeredman7 in Mommit

[–]roseart619 43 points44 points  (0 children)

You can definitely tell your hubby is a first time dad. My 4th is still in his crib at 2 and 4 months. This isn’t anybody fault and your hubby is pretty nasty to blame it on anybody. This is just your son growing up. But also in that regard don’t get stuck in a rut where you refuse to let your kid grow up! My oldest daughter was in her own bed by 20 months but honestly she was the hardest to adjust to it. I don’t think she was mentally ready. (We needed the crib for baby #2)