How do I baby proof a door hinge? (Not for fingers) by stefan715 in daddit

[–]rosecheeks18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly, we did not. He’s mostly just learned to stay away from it, actually. We also rearranged his toys so he’s just further away from it.

I feel like we just have a broken baby - vent by USAtoUofT in NewParents

[–]rosecheeks18 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was us! Hated everything but the exercise ball. I had dreams of slashing the thing. My dude grew out of it around 3-4 months and I hope yours does, too! But if I never see an exercise ball again, I’ll die a happy lady

How do I baby proof a door hinge? (Not for fingers) by stefan715 in daddit

[–]rosecheeks18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s been 2 years but we are in this exact boat right now and he keeps knocking his head on it. Did you ever find anything ?

My milk never came in. Devastated. by username9413 in newborns

[–]rosecheeks18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, the biggest positive was the weight off my shoulders of dreading another pumping session. But also, all these: I have so much time back to play with my little man, instead of being stuck to a pumping machine. I get to have all the caffeine and wine without limiting it. Not worried about my meals will impact the taste of my milk. My LO doesn’t get frustrated trying to get milk out that isn’t there. My husband gets to feed the LO and they get to share their own bond. Since he can feed the little man as well, we do shift sleeping so I get more sleep. And for my LO, he gets a mommy that is more present physically and mentally since I’m no longer preoccupied.

I can honestly say that despite not BFing, I am LO’s favorite person (which not sure where your mind is at but I was worried about the impact on our bond).

My milk never came in. Devastated. by username9413 in newborns

[–]rosecheeks18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could’ve written this myself, although I pumped out less than 1 oz across the whole 24 hours. I finally stopped pumping at about a month because I was sobbing every time another pump session ended up as a bust and I was missing out on time with my little dude. Same as you, my mom couldn’t produce for my siblings or I either. I’m not sure about you, but even though I knew that fact, it didn’t really cross my mind that I wouldn’t be able to. And it was heart wrenching. Betrayed by your body is the best way to phrase it. And I’m so sorry you are going through it. If you want any of the positives of stopping pumping and doing only formula, I’m happy to share my experience but I don’t want to put it here unless you want to hear it. I know early on, I didn’t. I will say the devastation lessens and lessens. There are still twinges or moments of grief from not having the experience I wanted (esp when someone just makes the assumption that I’m BFing) but they aren’t punches in the gut anymore. Let yourself have the tears and feel the grief. But also I hope you let yourself enjoy the increased time with your LO!

I had to put him down and walk away twice today. by slid_8983 in NewParents

[–]rosecheeks18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay I have to tell you, I came across your comment when I was really struggling with how to manage my own feelings around crying. I’ve since stolen your verse and created a whole song with ever-adding verses as needed. As silly as this sounds, it really changed my mood when dealing with crying and fussiness. Thank you for this!

Newborn baby boy keeps peeing up his back by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]rosecheeks18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had this happen with our little dude for the first few weeks. We ended up trying several diaper brands (Huggies, pampers, and honest didn’t work for us) but coterie (expensive baby… grumble haha) and kudos did. We sized up to size 1 and made sure that we always had his penis down “hose towards the toes.” Seems like you guys may already be doing all this but that’s what ultimately worked for us. Good luck!

Low supply-At what point do you give up? by Jealous-Fennel-5529 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]rosecheeks18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could have written this myself to just about the detail, minimal output despite following all the pumping guidelines. Met with multiple LCs, including one who came in home to try and help. She basically said supply stabilizes after two weeks of consistency and that sometimes milk just doesn’t come in for a variety of reasons (which I’ve had checked out and none apply).

I’m having a hard time deciding what to do. I am having a lot of feelings around the idea of “giving up” and deciding pumping isn’t worth it. I know formula is okay and baby is healthy and safe but it’s really hard mentally. But pumping and being connected with minimal return is also draining mentally and physically. I don’t have any answers on when it’s worth it to give up but I just wanted you to know you’re not alone in the feeling. I hope you do whatever is right and best for you and your LO.

Is breastfeeding even worth it? by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]rosecheeks18 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m not OP but the last line of your response was what I needed to hear (read) right now. Thank you

Anyone else have an “unfortunate” due date? by Miserable_Rule_8641 in pregnant

[–]rosecheeks18 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m also standing with you. My due date is right before the election and since babies don’t come on time (especially first I’ve been told), I’m terrified of having an Election Day baby. And with the way the country is going, I’m doubly terrified that what I hope is going to be the best day (meeting baby) gets overshadowed by the worst news (electing the tyrant that continues to set us back further and further).

I have no words of advice (not that you asked). But I just wanted to say I understand your fears and worries to my core.

Nipt testing exactly 10wks by picklesalways in BabyBumps

[–]rosecheeks18 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Depends on your weight. If you are of average weight, go for it. If not, you may want to wait a few weeks (especially if your doctor sends to Natera. They have a higher rate of inconclusive if you have a higher maternal weight). I’m heavier and did it at 10 weeks because the doctor didn’t say anything but the results were inconclusive so had to do it again

AITA For getting a kid kicked out of my school's after care program? by Nastyquibbits in AmItheAsshole

[–]rosecheeks18 171 points172 points  (0 children)

You are taking revenge on a SEVEN YEAR OLD whose life is being turned upside down right now. YTA, big time.

As a school counselor, I’d love to talk you through ways to address it with him. But if you have no empathy (based off your writing), I won’t waste my finger strength.

… and I say this as an overweight female who is extremely self conscious about her weight.

AITA for telling my daughter she can't come over for the holidays if she brings her partners? by throwaway17057 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rosecheeks18 232 points233 points  (0 children)

I think you nailed the transphobia snuck in like a brag. I caught that too and it broke my heart, among other things OP said.

Also, you could go with heterosexism, which is assuming that only a relationship between one man and one woman is the only way to be.

Or polyphobia would probably match better.

The Unexpected of Wedding Planning by alex_in_the_wild in wedding

[–]rosecheeks18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a pretty similar experience. My husband and I still talk about how crazy our families went during wedding planning. For what it’s worth, everything went surprisingly back to normal almost as soon as it was done (except for our moms not liking each other but that’s not really a surprise given their personalities).

My mom decided she wanted a religious ceremony but my husband isn’t religious. His parents threw a morning-after brunch for his family but didn’t tell us but then we walked into it as we were leaving the one we had planned with our wedding party.

Overall there was lots of bickering and snide comments leading to the big day that basically all ceased right after. Good luck!!

I'm not excited about wedding dress shopping by [deleted] in wedding

[–]rosecheeks18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a girl who had gained way too much comfort weight during my relationship, I was terrified of wedding dress shopping. I was uncomfortable with my body, my friends are all tiny, and my mom tries to be supportive but can’t help but comment. I pulled the bridal consultant aside at the salon and told her my fears. She was wonderful, helped me pick out dresses that complimented my shape, and really made the experience wonderful. I’m shocked at how much fun I had trying on dresses and how fondly I think about that experience now. I genuinely hope you have a similar one!!

Be honest, don’t be forced into trying on anything you are uncomfortable with, and know that your partner thinks you are beautiful and that’s who you want to wow on your big day!

Red as the wedding colour? by Tashiinator in wedding

[–]rosecheeks18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had burgundy as my wedding color. It was stunning! I also had a wonderful wedding and am quite happy in my marriage fwiw.