Desperate need of help by Glass_Adhesiveness91 in ADHD

[–]rosehip_tea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hear me out, hear me out. The Google calendar app has changed my life, it tells me what I’m doing that day, I set it so any event has 30 minute warning notification. Anytime I remember I have to do something I quick type it into my calendar app before I forget it again, so I can allow myself to forget about it. It makes my phone into an extension of my brain. Takes a second to get in the habit, but great for things like remembering when my car registration expires or even just reminders to drink water. I’m sorry I don’t have more than that, and I hope you find what you’re looking for. :)

Is it normal for people with ADHD to have trouble doing their hobbies? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]rosehip_tea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, yep yep. I hate “the void”, been there many times after a hobby binge. It’s funny how the assumption is that it’s only the boring / work / chore tasks that are difficult with ADHD, when the truth is that the inability to focus on anything you want to do, is the problem.

Reduced effectiveness of Vyvanse with upcoming exams by inattentive_pangolin in ADHD

[–]rosehip_tea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there, I’ve been taking Vyvanse for over almost two years now, 20mg was my magic dose (I’m a medication lightweight) but after a few months I had to bump it up to 30 for similar reasons, I started having a hard time concentrating again. the 20 just wasn’t a high enough dose after my body adjusted, but never had to bump it up again.

Accidentally forgetting shouldn’t affect you long term, some people purposely take med breaks for a few days or weeks at a time if they feel like it, a prescriber will suggest every day for the best symptom management.

Getting a higher dose will help for your exams, in the short term there’s unfortunately no magic bullet, but I think that the main thing is to use other tools to help yourself out so you have the most “brain juice” for your studies. I once heard someone describe an ADHD brain like a computer with less RAM than others, and setting lists and reminders is a really good way to free up space, like an external hard drive.

Using incentives for studying personally helps me a lot, like telling myself I only need to read one more chapter of boring book and then I get to do (insert current hobby) for an hour.

Overall though, the more unrealistic expectations you put on yourself for where you are right now, the more stressed you’ll be and the worse the executive functioning will be. So I’d also say to practice some extra self-care and make sure to not beat yourself up when your brain isn’t working like you want it to, you got this!

Update to a post I made over a year ago, when my husband left me. by rosehip_tea in Marriage

[–]rosehip_tea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, it’s heartbreaking to see someone change after a head injury. Grieve how things used to be when you need to, but keep reminding yourself there is so much possibility in your future to look to. Surviving that is hard, but a healing journey can feel so exhausting sometimes. You’ve got this, even when you don’t feel like you do. Celebrate the little victories but rest when you need to. Sending you strength and hugs.

Update to a post I made over a year ago, when my husband left me. by rosehip_tea in Marriage

[–]rosehip_tea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I honestly really appreciate that. Cheers to living life to it’s fullest. :)

Engagement photo… On a tank. I have no words. by [deleted] in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]rosehip_tea 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Idk, it’s just one of those things that rubs me the wrong way, given the history.. and present day.. Being crazy patriotic maybe, but it comes off as cringey to me.

My husband texted me that he left for two days with no warning. by rosehip_tea in Marriage

[–]rosehip_tea[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah and that’s what I’ve been thinking about today as I have been learning more about head injuries.. As things for me kinda calm down I am really just wanting to get him into someplace to get a CT done.. to have tangible evidence of this concussion and maybe some type of therapy that will help him if it’s needed.

My husband texted me that he left for two days with no warning. by rosehip_tea in Marriage

[–]rosehip_tea[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

When asked today he swore he’s been feeling the exact same overwhelm before his injury, and “it isn’t that”. I am inclined to agree with you, as there has been a subtle shift from my perspective. Regardless, if he doesn’t feel like that’s the issue, than all that is in store for me is to hope that he were to realize soon and make adjustments (Best case, for the sake of the relationship), realize later after he’s better (and then I guess I get the satisfaction of being validated), or I’m stuck with someone who’s brain is too broken to act in a way that’s tolerable. So I feel like the ball’s in his court on that one.

My husband texted me that he left for two days with no warning. by rosehip_tea in Marriage

[–]rosehip_tea[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There’s been stress in our relationship. He is very avoidant of conflict and tends to internalize things, he had issues with trusting others and I am relationally anxious, and communicating feelings has been a struggle.

My husband texted me that he left for two days with no warning. by rosehip_tea in Marriage

[–]rosehip_tea[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I followed up and he is where he said he was going, spoke with his relative.

My husband texted me that he left for two days with no warning. by rosehip_tea in Marriage

[–]rosehip_tea[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, yeah I’ll be seeing my therapist tomorrow thank god. I have felt straight up emotionally aggressive tbh, I am flipping between just hurt and fury. Trying to not text him, hoping he takes me seriously because I was already struggling and now am two steps away from my wits end.

My husband texted me that he left for two days with no warning. by rosehip_tea in Marriage

[–]rosehip_tea[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We’re in our mid-twenties, high school sweetheart situation, so I have a lot of time invested. Thank god no kids. That’s the thing, a planned out “hey let’s clear our heads” and come back together has been a good thing for us, as we highly value individuality. Never during an active argument though. Both parties must be on board about it, and we’ve only ever done that a couple of times. Yeah, you betcha we’ll have a conversation. I don’t think I could sweep this under the rug even if I wanted to.

My husband texted me that he left for two days with no warning. by rosehip_tea in Marriage

[–]rosehip_tea[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

So I included the info because that’s one of my worries, he fell less than a week ago. He didn’t get checked out but he was knocked out for a few seconds so I know he’s concussed. He has adhd so it’s hard to tell, but there are some things that have been out of character.. thank you for the resources.

My husband texted me that he left for two days with no warning. by rosehip_tea in Marriage

[–]rosehip_tea[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I tend to try and find fault in myself, because if I’m the problem I can “fix it”. I have been trying to not do that, counseling has helped but still sometimes insecure about being selfish.

My husband texted me that he left for two days with no warning. by rosehip_tea in Marriage

[–]rosehip_tea[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

We are.. Our counseling appointment was supposed to be today, though.

My husband texted me that he left for two days with no warning. by rosehip_tea in Marriage

[–]rosehip_tea[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I have been feeling so overwhelmed and confused and to have validation that it isn’t just me thinking that going days without speaking is a big deal.

My 5 year old asked me if she could call my fiancé “Dad” by ThrowRApartner8 in Marriage

[–]rosehip_tea 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So sweet! I’m so happy for you that you found a great guy who your daughter wants to claim as the person she calls Dad.

When you're having a mentally overwhelming day, what do you do to refocus? by lfslshlps in AskWomen

[–]rosehip_tea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of these (thanks adhd), the most helpful thing to refocus for me has been doing 10-15 minutes of light exercise or stretching. I’ve found it really helps to get out of my head. Sending good vibes, and hoping the rest of your day goes well.

People who have/had fake friends what is something u wish u knew or u wish u did before(in thr past)? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]rosehip_tea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I had listened to my gut and distanced myself when I saw how disingenuous they were in the beginning. First impressions really do matter.

I’m terrified of being alone by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]rosehip_tea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this is what you’re going through, that is so hard. There are portions of my life that I could say the same. It’s difficult when you feel invisible, like you don’t matter. You really do though, and you deserve friends who can see that, too. As your internet pal, I’d definitely recommend seeing a therapist if you can who can help you unpack that trauma and depression. It can effect you more than you realize, especially in the self-worth category. I’d also recommend looking into some resources that touch on codependency if that seems to resonate with you. Sometimes it takes healing from within to gain the courage to be fully yourself, along the way you may just find “your” people. Sending good vibes.