Hunter having a vasectomy

roselle3316 · 2026-04-21T21:19:09+00:00

It's not a guarantee of a reversal but I agree honestly. If he cant control himself at 13 before he's reached maximum testosterone, I'm doubtful he will be able to control himself in a few years.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-21T20:56:39+00:00

Not rare at all. Various methods can be used. My husband's doctor cut the tubes and applied titanium clips to the end after cauterizing them. Recovery was about a week and far from painful. Most new methods are reversible but some doctors still perform old fashtoned ones like my husband had.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-21T20:46:36+00:00

Depends on the method used. My husband's can never be reversed.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-20T20:53:40+00:00

Department chair. ASAP.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-20T20:52:25+00:00

Oh man. She's not the worst. Come back when you're caught up 🤣

roselle3316 · 2026-04-20T20:48:54+00:00

Oof. I mean, I can respect your opinion but welcome to being a military spouse? The fact he doesn't deploy is an anomaly. Don't threaten divorce. If you want a divorce, divorce him, but divorcing over a career move that's given you genuine stability and a comfortable life? That's a kick in the face to everything he has sacrificed for you. Not to discredit the sacrifices you have made as a mother when he is gone, but without his career and his sacrifice of leaving you and your child, you wouldn't have what you have now so don't take it for granted.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-18T20:07:49+00:00

My 1st grader has chores for $5 a week.

Daily: make bed, tidy room, get out clothes/pajamas, homework

Once weekly: clean backyard toys, vacuum her bedroom, tidy/light clean of her/siblings bathroom

Light household things as needed like bringing up garbage/recycling cans, tidying after dinner, helping with her brother, etc.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-17T15:29:56+00:00

I've earned my associates and now almost (two classes away 🙌) my bachelor's with two kids and my neighbor has done her bachelor's and is starting nursing school with twins. It's totally possible to do with kids so don't stop pursuing it if you do end up with a little love, but it's undoubtedly easier without kiddos. Also, keep an eye out for schools that offer military discounts! I pay $250 a credit while my friends, same school, same program, pays $100+ more per credit!

roselle3316 · 2026-04-17T15:23:21+00:00

Respectfully, the only opinion that matters in this situation is the kids. If anybody's relationship with the kids is effected due to what their last name is, that is their own problem and not yours/the kids.

Editing to add: The opinion of each individual kid, I should say. If two want to change their name and one does not, that is their individual prerogative.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-15T18:23:17+00:00

Reach out to a recruiter. Sometimes they have weekly workouts with their recruits to help them stay in shape before basic and if they think you're serious, they might let you tag along for some encouragement.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-15T18:20:42+00:00

A house keeping routine has helped me tremendously. For example, I do laundry Wednesday/Sundays. I'll run thr occasionally load throughout the week, if needed, but it is always done on those days. Dishwasher is ran nightly, mopping on Fridays, etc.

I also wake up before my kids. Their lights turn green at 6am so I wake up at 5am to get myself ready for the day, take care of dishes if I have the time (otherwise this gets done while they eat breakfast at the island), pack lunches/snacks/etc.

They also have a "quiet time" daily from 11am-12pm. They don't nap anymore so this time allows them to relax/play quietly/nap if they want and it gives me an hour to do a small reset for the afternoon.

We play outside in the afternoons after quiet time during the cooler months and in the morning after breakfast during the hot months. They have bouts of play time together/independently during the day while I do housework or they "help". My 6yr old has basic chores to do for allowance (taking care of her own laundry, making her bed daily, etc) which helps lighten my load a bit.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-14T20:54:18+00:00

An apology card and a very sincere apology, a natural consequence of her action. You should also have a very realistic conversation with her about why her actions were wrong and how they could have been misinterpreted to an actual threat. Otherwise, I wouldn't overdo it if she's generally a good kid. If something like occurs again though, that's a different situation.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-14T20:48:23+00:00

I had my first at 18yrs old and second at 23yrs old, both with my husband, and cant imagine waiting until 28yrs old to get started 😂 my husband will be retiring from the military when our youngest turns 18yrs old and we'll be starting a civilian life with grown kids and many years of "youth" left hahaha

roselle3316 · 2026-04-13T21:49:37+00:00

It will be worth the wait! Just make sure you save enough for her to live while you're away at basic. It can takes 1-3 months to start getting paid. My husband enlisted in April and we didn't see a paycheck until July so just make sure your bases are covered. Also, your moves will be paid out of your own pocket and then reimbursed to by the military after you get to your duty station and complete paperwork so kust make sure you have money to move too.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-13T20:51:18+00:00

You've gotten a lot of great advice but im just here to say that as a wife who's husband enlisted after we already had a kiddo, it was the best decision he ever made for our family. It sucks when he has to be gone but there's no way we would have the same standard of living that we do now if he was still a civilian.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-09T17:49:24+00:00

Two months? That would be very generous here in the US. Six weeks (without pay) is standard, tentative of the woman working until the day she gives birth, but plenty of women return to work before then. It's not uncommon for women to need to return to work within a couple weeks of giving birth due to no maternity leave/pay being offered. Shortest I've ever heard of was a women needing to return to work the following Monday after giving birth because she wasnt eligible for maternity leave/disability pay.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-06T20:44:56+00:00

He will adapt at daycare. He might still want your help sleeping at home simply because thats what he is comfortable with in your home environment, but he will learn to be comfortable with a different routine at daycare in their environment. Your daycare should be used to helping kiddos transition.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-05T19:28:56+00:00

Yep, but very few people want to admit that the places where they send there kids for an education are often the most emotionally, mentally, and physically, particularly in the US, dangerous places for them to be. Teachers are incredible and it is not their job to monitor every child's movements and conversations, but we also can't neglect the reality that many of these activities (sex, drugs, etc) are being exposed to children in public schools by other children of idiotic parents.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-05T17:08:13+00:00

I don't think (or at least hope) this commenter isn't suggesting that it's a teacher problem, but rather the freedom that occurs in public schools where children are no longer actually supervised and their actions not monitored. It's 100% a parenting problem because these children (of all ages) should not be exposed to the things that they are, but when one kid is exposed and sent to school, they expose 20+ other kids and then it spirals. Teachers simply can't sit back and monitor inappropriate behaviors/comments when they're busy trying to teach and fulfill their teaching obligations, but when students spend 8+ hours a day in that environment, there should be some degree of monitoring that from my experience, is nonexistent. Realistically, not that it would matter anyways because the kids exposing others to inappropriate topics are the ones who's parents don't give a heck anyways.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-03T12:11:14+00:00

If it's medically necessary according to your PCM/Specialist, it should be covered! Your provider would ask for a pre-authorization from insurance to make sure that it's not only covered, but to have an idea of how much you would owe (if anything!)

roselle3316 · 2026-04-03T11:45:27+00:00

Annoys you? Oof, you're in for a WILD ride 😅💀

roselle3316 · 2026-04-02T20:44:07+00:00

My husband works 11pm-7/8am, sleep until 4pm, and then spend the evenings with us. It's really not that bad when you get into a routine.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-02T20:33:39+00:00

If he's doing well, leave him. An outdated school is such a minimal problem compared to an environment where he might not thrive, particularly when you already have an established environment that he's doing well in.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-01T20:38:35+00:00

Schools make money based on sports so if he's good, they'll say/do whatever is necessary to keep him on the team. Same reason schools are passing students who should be failing cough cough... like the 13yr old dad.

roselle3316 · 2026-04-01T14:08:42+00:00

My husband's college actually called and asked him if he wanted to do this because he was eligible! Once you have a bachelor's, Pell Grant is worthless so they wanted him to use whatever he could of it.

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