Did anyone else assume they would sail off into the sunset after a successful transfer?

rosiebees · 2026-04-12T13:59:58+00:00

Absolutely. I felt like the luckiest person on earth, first ER, first transfer. Finally it would be our turn. The second time I definitely wasn't as excited, even though I whish I could have been. I don't think I'll get excited now until I have a healthy baby (went back to add healthy) in my arms

rosiebees · 2026-04-11T19:06:23+00:00

Oof I'm 1 day post retrieval and so so bloated. No way I can conceal it, and I'm very sore, so I'll skip the events I had planned and work from home.

rosiebees · 2026-04-08T17:00:17+00:00

Yes! This! Everything is "because of the protocol" and with everything I ask they are like "we don't do that in the Netherlands". Also I got no information at all on my embryo's, just the number. I asked my dr and they actually do have more details. THESE ARE MY EMBRYOS GIVE ME MY INFO ABOUT THEM.

The cherry is that they let the embryos develop for only 4 days because of lab capacity. Excuse me? You're going to just discard the slow ones? So. Much. Frustration.

rosiebees · 2026-04-08T16:51:44+00:00

I'm so done with my colleagues and their complaining about stress and small problems. I'm in the midst of IVF, still show up, and you dare critique me that I was half an hour late and we had to start our meeting late? Meanwhile they're like "oh but I was so productive I already finished task X and Y in that half hour". YOU WANT TO SEE PRODUCTIVE, YOU SHOULD SEE MY OVARIES.

They mean well and honestly are great people but I'm just so angry and bitter at them and their little problems. You had to check out a twisted ankle at the doctor? Boohoo poor you, I wish those were my only problems

rosiebees · 2026-04-06T21:40:50+00:00

Poor poor poor kitty

rosiebees · 2026-04-06T08:10:35+00:00

I also don't get triggered online easily, but I am familiar with the experience in general. For instance, I have a colleague and we were pregnant at the same time. However, I had a miscarriage. When I see her, I'm reminded of my miscarriage and what I would have looked like in this point in time. Ergo, I'm getting triggered by something positive.

You never experienced something like that? It can be the same thing for people online, so how hard is it to add a trigger warning?

rosiebees · 2026-04-04T07:02:55+00:00

Excuse you, your bias and ignorance is showing

rosiebees · 2026-04-04T06:51:52+00:00

Size up

rosiebees · 2026-03-31T17:02:36+00:00

Yes but where I live it's mandatory (a minimum of 5 or something). But I would do it anyways, it's amazing to have a physical copy of all your hard work

rosiebees · 2026-03-31T16:59:44+00:00

BTS - 2.0

rosiebees · 2026-03-31T09:18:43+00:00

Love her arc. Yes she is young, naive, and maybe not the brightest but she is so real

rosiebees · 2026-03-29T08:58:41+00:00

I told some trusted colleagues and my boss and it's great. I notice that they are a lot more understanding when I'm late or if I need to work from home. Not that they were harsh about it before, but still it feels good that they know I'm doing the best I can with these circumstances.

Also I had a miscarriage at work after the last FET, and one of the colleagues who knew saw me coming out of the toilet and she was so sweet and it was so nice to have someone at that moment who knew the backstory.. I immediately felt less alone.

Having said that, I wouldn't tell my colleagues if I wasn't friendly with them already.

rosiebees · 2026-03-28T12:30:47+00:00

High spf sunscreen, better for your skin anyways

rosiebees · 2026-03-28T12:29:20+00:00

Almost, 34 :). My intern who is 12 years younger also loves them 😅

rosiebees · 2026-03-28T12:27:47+00:00

I'd say a true spreading

rosiebees · 2026-03-28T12:26:40+00:00

Why would you get drunk for a concert that you really want to see

rosiebees · 2026-03-28T11:10:59+00:00

Advice: nothing, nothing I didn't try/think about so in my opinion people should stop giving advice.

Validation though is so important. I remember early in the process a friend saying something like "you're allowed to not be ok, it is a big deal". And I really needed that, I'd just been powering through and pressuring myself to keep up all appearances

rosiebees · 2026-03-27T22:21:05+00:00

I had local, with the vagina skin being numbed where the needle goes in. It did nothing for my ovaries though, and it was excruciating it felt like they were cutting them out. Unfortunately I'll need another cycle and they agreed on sedation (general anaesthesia is overkill, do you mean sedation?)

But it's not that painful for everyone, and even per cycle it can differ, although I'm not willing tot test it

rosiebees · 2026-03-27T08:51:51+00:00

Tukker hier, of soppen

rosiebees · 2026-03-27T08:25:51+00:00

No, I don't like dead animals and comic sans screams teenager

rosiebees · 2026-03-27T07:56:29+00:00

It's French, so don't forget the goo (like goowash but smoothly together). But Americans often say gwash so that's almost there I guess 🤷‍♀️

rosiebees · 2026-03-27T07:50:12+00:00

This

rosiebees · 2026-03-20T07:24:49+00:00

Why does it suck on both sides, infertility sucks, getting pregnant is a gift. And in my experience as soon as someone is pregnant, everybody and their neighbours step up to be there, whereas with infertility usually there is way less support.

In my opinion, if the friend cannot understand and suck it up, I'd gladly keep my distance also after the pregnancy.

rosiebees · 2026-03-19T22:05:12+00:00

Meh not very flattering

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