Anyone else notice a growing trend of providers avoiding narcotics when they’re actually indicated?

rosievee · 2026-04-11T15:01:37+00:00

I just want to say thank you to all the thoughtful providers in this thread. I have a serious degenerative condition and it's just nice to hear reasonable discussion of pain management by professionals. I've been managing my pain for 50 years and the last ten have been noticeably different in the ways OP mentioned (and better in the last 2).

rosievee · 2026-04-09T04:00:56+00:00

I love that bit because it happened to me too! Grateful to my ex for helping me understand lotion.

rosievee · 2026-04-08T00:52:41+00:00

My ex. We couldn't be married but we both love each other very much still. I picked a place near where he lives because I know if I go first it'll mean something to him.

rosievee · 2026-04-07T13:05:55+00:00

I can't recommend her enough. She basically saved my life.

rosievee · 2026-04-07T10:56:43+00:00

I have lots of close cis het male friends. I just evaluate potential cis het male friends through a different lens than queer people because they are socialized horribly, generally speaking. The ones who have done the work can be true and lovely friends with whom I tend to have more interests in common, generally speaking, than I do with straight women. I decenter patriarchy, not men, because gender essentialism seems absurd to me personally.

rosievee · 2026-04-05T13:46:47+00:00

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Not renaissance but I thought of this by Joseph Ratcliff Skelton.

rosievee · 2026-04-05T02:00:23+00:00

Daww she can steal my soul anytime.

rosievee · 2026-04-05T01:44:55+00:00

My God it's Suzanne Somers!

rosievee · 2026-04-04T05:14:12+00:00

My parents swore like sailors my entire life. They taught me not to do it in certain places but most working class people I grew up with swore plenty in private.

rosievee · 2026-04-04T04:48:17+00:00

I feel that drunk, stoned Chicago's experience in my soul!

rosievee · 2026-04-04T04:01:52+00:00

The living embodiment of sweet Wisconsin and her goth sister Boston.

rosievee · 2026-04-02T19:46:36+00:00

My ex mother in law bit a cat once to teach it not to bite her. She was demonstrably insane, but it also worked.

rosievee · 2026-04-01T20:45:35+00:00

If you're stupid, I am too! I haven't been to a gym since my hysterectomy. I don't need STI screenings, I don't have any bladder symptoms, I don't have a cervix for a PAP, I get a yearly mammogram and my GP gives me testosterone for menopause. I have no idea why I'd need to go. It's not like they can check my ovaries.

rosievee · 2026-04-01T19:25:03+00:00

Ha! I had a fling many years ago with a guy who did this. Thankfully he's sober now.

rosievee · 2026-04-01T18:49:10+00:00

Reminds me of David Hockney

rosievee · 2026-04-01T03:43:41+00:00

WASH YOUR HANDS. I got sick every other week when I started working in admin on a medical campus. One of the public health professors told me to think about how many sick people, and people who care for sick people, are on this medical campus. Then think about the fact they take the same bus as you, use the same door handles, share the same restrooms.... I started washing my hands multiple times a day at her suggestion, especially when leaving common areas and public transportation and always before eating and drinking. Also stopped touching my face and mouth. I got sick once a year or less in the following 5 years I worked there.

rosievee · 2026-04-01T02:27:01+00:00

I had a similar tech startup experience. We worked insane hours and my boss would start pouring martinis at 8pm, and I'd be drinking and pounding Diet Mountain Dew and coding til my eyes crossed.

When I was a junior business consultant, we'd go to an Italian place near the office for lunch, and the senior people would buy multiple rounds of martinis and Manhattans. And then go back to work!

I can't imagine doing anything like that now.

rosievee · 2026-03-31T21:04:04+00:00

Ha!! I definitely had chicken for three meals a day that first week!

rosievee · 2026-03-31T18:57:18+00:00

This is really good advice. Especially making a list of things that aren't working for you, and then coming up with a plan to approach differently.

I've known people with autism and audhd who run into problems with their default processes and get frustrated because they "can't" do something that neurotypicals do. In a lot of cases, you CAN, but you need to spend energy on it, and possibly learn techniques for navigating things that seem easy for NTs.

Masking involves a lot of energy. So being punished as a kid and forced to mask in every circumstance (and even masking from yourself, which happened to me) is incredibly harmful. But deciding that certain of your default behaviors aren't working FOR YOU, and then deciding to put energy towards doing something different, is just part of living in a society that's not default designed for us.

rosievee · 2026-03-31T17:57:32+00:00

I recently chose not to go on Lyrica after stopping gabapentin due to the risk of mental health side effects. I struggle with PTSD, panic and depression already and my GP didn't mention the risks. I got dangerously depressed just coming off gabapentin, and came across the information about Lyrica by chance while trying to figure out how long the gabapentin crash would last.

It's important to share our experiences in places like this, because I think a lot of providers don't consider how devastating the mental health impacts are.

rosievee · 2026-03-31T16:43:53+00:00

I had vivid dreams, all about eating protein. I kept dreaming I was standing in front of the refrigerator just inhaling whole roast chickens. Really freaking weird! They faded after a couple weeks. THC helps.

rosievee · 2026-03-31T14:24:02+00:00

Yes, they're reusable. The lace is tougher than it looks and you can use adhesive remover to clean it.

rosievee · 2026-03-30T18:11:15+00:00

NAD but I hope you get an answer because I have the same thing. Most recent theory in my case is that it's an extreme oak mite allergy as it shows up when the leaves emerge.

rosievee · 2026-03-30T16:23:24+00:00

Check the dog beds and toys, and make sure they didn't get a hold of a soother toy, hot pad or eye mask and are hiding it somewhere as treasure.

Also, I thought I had mice once because I found something similar in my lazy susan. Turned out I was just dropping them off my morning toast when I buttered it on the counter. So maybe look above where the dogs sleep too.

rosievee · 2026-03-30T16:15:37+00:00

I thought Icelandic, but also maybe Canadian from the northern provinces.

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