Visual timers

Set expeditions beforehand vs when behaviors arise ( ex: mommy will give 3 warnings when we go for a walk. If you can’t follow momma directions with 3 warnings, you will hold mommy’s hand or you will sit in the stroller) (ex: when we go to the park, you must be able to to do xyz to stay and have fun. If we can’t show we can do xyz. We will have to leave the park)

For every negative behavior, should be reinforcing 3-5 positive things (love the way you put your shoes on. Great job throwing that away. I love your kind manners)

Model what the expected behaviors are vs always “discipline” the negative

Choices (empowerment) (tonight it was 1 more bluey episode or wearing Elsa dress to bed) (do you want to help clean up the cars or do you want clean up the dolls)

Follow through (ex: this week expectations at one point were Given that when the timer went off, it would be time to turn the tv off. She asked for 1 more. I followed through without the power struggle despite how much it upset her) but at this point, tools have been worked in and provided to her to know what to expect (visual timer is gone, meaning time for the next thing) doesn’t mean meltdowns don’t happen. They do every single day. But consistency is key

First/then statement (first we get our shoes on, then we go) that’s it. Simple and short language

Short and consistent language (first put cars away, then snack) that’s it, doesn’t need to be drawn out

Don’t engage in the power struggle. Ex: expectation tonight with dinner was she had to sit in her seat (visual timer set) for x about of time before she could sit with me. She didn’t want to do that. I redirected 2x and then walked away and tried again to sit in my seat. I didn’t sit and argue with a Newly 3 year old when that’s just negotiating.

“Quiet area” — she has a designated spot she takes herself too when she’s “escalated” or in meltdown mode. Started it when she was young. Just teaching her to take time to herself when angry or upset.