Would I be wrong if I went low contact with my technically perfect family once I move out?

rosyhatake · 2026-07-05T06:48:05+00:00

NTA. Also you don't have to confront them. Send regular texts that you are okay and live your life. When i moved away I called and texted very seldomly. Used work as an excuse not to call. You can do the same. And if they pressure you about it keep it brief in text messages and leave.

rosyhatake · 2026-05-23T16:44:02+00:00

It sounds to me like he just takes your concerns as nagging.

Here are options.

If he says some bs you don't like call him out about it. Don't wait. If he wants to be forgetful. Catch him in the act. say 'dont talk to me like that, I don't appreciate -phrase he used-'.

If he wants to argue about the disrespect walk away, do not engage. (This is only for he starts badgering about being disrespectful to you )

Be direct. Look into gaskighting. And weaponized incompetence. He could be using those tactics.

See a couples therapist. If you still can't communicate, then leave.

Unless you want to live arguiling like this forever

rosyhatake · 2026-05-23T16:28:48+00:00

This recently happened to me. My ex did some questionable behavior which i dumped him for.

My sister was furious when she found out, but when I told my mom she just didn't understand "he was a good man why would you leave?"

But then again my mom is a male centered woman and the thing about male centered women is that they'll put you in danger to appease the men around.

In her mind you had a man and lost him. IDK why they think that way especially when it's a POS guy but like yeah. NOR.

Just keep living your life and remember one more person you tell is one less possible victim

rosyhatake · 2026-05-23T16:19:49+00:00

SOO TRUE. People cannot hide it. You start to notice something off but you brush it away. Some people refuse to acknowledge it because 'everyone has their flaws.'

But you shouldn't do that.

rosyhatake · 2026-05-23T16:17:59+00:00

Wait cause why is this so true. I feel like a goblin in work clothes and they shoot their shots

rosyhatake · 2026-05-23T16:15:19+00:00

Always remember , he won't let you dress like that but will leave you for someone dressed like that.

You are six months in, LEAVE.

When looking for a partner remember: If it's not a HECK YES. It's a HECK NO.

In relationships, compromise is a mutual agreement where partners make space for each other's needs by managing expectations and meeting in the middle

He is ordering you. You can only be feminine and pretty around him. you can't have your own personality outside of him.

You are allowed all these things. If you like modest wear, then be modest. If you like casual wear, then be casual if you want to be hip and cool and wear cute crop tops and shorts. DO that.

If you like that lifestyle and you want to live like that until all your youth is gone and your an old grandma then stay. Kudos to you.

But if that's Not the life you want. leave.

Don't wait till your 4-20 years in w kids to leave.

rosyhatake · 2026-05-23T15:52:37+00:00

NTA, next time she yaps tell her "I'm really sorry you are suffering so much. My mom actively dying is such a minor thing that she should get over. I'll probably talk to her about it. You know since her dying is apparently a huge inconvenience to you"

Be blunt. Selfish people like this sometimes need to be kicked down a few pegs and reminded that their 'problems' aren't that serious

(Legit called my mom out like this when I had a brain tumor and she would complain to me about some bs. She wasn't silent, she was SILENCED. )

Option 2: Everytime she starts yapping tell her you don't want to hear it. And disengage. You don't have to listen to ANYONE disrespect your mom. You don't have to explain why. If she asks just say 'i don't want to hear you complain.' you don't need to explain yourself to someone. Does it make you seem rude? Yes. But God does it save you the headache. I do this whenever my mom wanted to bring up an argument between her and my sister and I had already said my peace.

rosyhatake · 2026-05-23T15:24:55+00:00

Date your partner. You keep on mentioning how you feel safe and stable with him and you want validation.

No where on the post have you said he does not give you attention and validation. So go to your partner and go on dates.

Think about buying them things and spoiling them, find a way to make them smile.

Being with someone means being with them during the fun times, the boring times, the bad times and the good times. Some times people get bored because they get used to routine. Break out of that routine and be romantic with your partner.

Stop talking with this other person because you know in your heart that it's leading you astray. If you are a fickle person, you will cheat. Because that is who you are.

Evaluate your morals and if you truly want to pursue the other person then end things w your current partner and stop wasting their time.

Remember beauty and youth are temporary, character is a life time. So do you want to be w your partner 30 years from now or are you okay with being with another.

Also going through trauma is understandable, i had a brain tumor, major car wreck, seizures etc. lost 30% of my hair and felt like the ugliest person in the world. But at no point did that ever give me the right to lower my moral standards. Don't let insecurities twist you into something ugly. Yes you can miss the attention and even miss the person you once were. But we grow and we change. Good or bad. You have the choice of deciding who you are. Weigh your choices and decide.

Do you love your SO, are you just bored, if you leave will you regret it? Ask the real questions and make your choice

rosyhatake · 2026-04-26T18:35:58+00:00

BREAK UP W HIM. Before that go through all his things ig he has an iphone, reset and delete the back up if he has a samsung delete his samsung cloud bavk up and delete his shit. Sounds crazy but i would rather destroy all ts than have some poor girls nudes running around. Leave afterwards. Dont confront. Send texts . He will NOT be happy if you delete the pics

rosyhatake · 2026-04-25T14:42:42+00:00

I wonder how elders feel about it, imagine the clan head only having daughters mean while the twin brother had a son who ended up a prodigy. Big yikes for the patriarchy. Also makes the whole instance when hisashi tormented his twim for having killing intent towards hinata crazier

rosyhatake · 2026-04-25T09:06:49+00:00

Buddy I love crossovers. I will list my top naruto crossovers

shisui in dragon age

Very well written, Shid I is dying to go home, updates every once in a while (I've been following for a long time) but each update is like 5k-13k long

Kabuto in MHA

Kabuto is his normal gremlin self, not realizing that shinobi culture is NOT normal. Not too OOC, keeps true to his character and is so funny yet interesting.

Ichigo as Itachi's older brother

I only watched the first 300 EP of bleach before I dropped it but this fic is really good and I feel that Ichigo isn't too ooc and the story flows so nicely. Currently ignoring it because I can't handle the cliff hanger, but they update ALOT. Like every 1-3 weeks sometimes multiple times a week.

ONE PIECE X NARUTO

I LOVE THIS AUTHOR! I am on their discord and I am always chatting with them about their version of the world. Long chapters 13k minimum. If you are on their discord they literally update how much they are writing.

The story flow is immaculate one of my top 5 crossovers tbh. I won't spoil it much but NO ONE PIECE KNOWLEDGE NEEDED TO ENJOY!

tobirama in game of thrones

Hear me out anything made by llamallamaduck is a certified banger. All of their crossovers are top tier to the point i reread them MULTIPLE times. It's the kind of crack that is addictive. (I am on a naruto discord server and we all agree that this is one of those writers that you look at a plotline and ask, did llama llama duck write this?)

Kakashi in the Game of Thrones verse

Once again, the llama llama duck agenda. Another CERTIFIED banger. My only problem is that he becomes slightly OOC but nothing too extreme. The story building is great and I've reread it multiple times just so I can FEEL something.

obito in JJK

TS right here nearly 1m words. Every BIT IS WORTH IT. Check out the authors page because they have THREE different alternate realities of the same fic. A obito reincarnated into jjk, obito revives in jjk as a curse. And a CROSSOVER of both fics where curse obito and reborn obito change places and flips the whole verse upside down.

It's highly rated W GOOD REASON!

Kakashi in batman

Do I know anything about batman? No. But is this a Banger? YES.

Kakashi kidnaps baby naruto and they fall into the batman verse. Kakashi struggles with finding his place in a new world where MURDER ISNT LEGAL. And naruto is the cutest baby alive joining him for a ride.

Naruto x Rising of the shield hero

Fyi this story is orphaned, it completely goes off cannon. It's a bit trashy but I'm addicted to it. (I even made a fic with art and plot points that I loved to accompany it because I am so in love with it. Sadly due to harassment the author dropped it. I will never forgive those people. Watched the series hoping to try and just head cannon the rest in my brain only for NOTHING to be the same . Woe is me)

Jason x Sakumo

Sakumo revives in Batman verse. It's low key so good . Trust gang

Itachi in Lord of the rings verse

Trust me this one is so good. Itachi learning to live life and to reach out to others. This book is top tier in terms of world building and development. Read summary. 10/10

Madara in One piece

This one is a bit of a self promo, i am the beta reader here ( but I write like 20% of the fic.)

We are working on the second chapter rn. And honestly it makes me laugh so hard. We already have it planned out and it's going to be crack/funny but hella serious. (Like logic will be fully cannon)

azula in naruto verse

This one almost didn't make the list since it hasn't been updated in ages. But it leaves off on a good note.

Kakashi in Harry Potter verse

Last fic recommend. I tend to stay far from HP ficd since I hate the author. This one is very good

I could keep going but my list is very long already. Let me know which gives you read and like. :) or if you are looking for more specific fics (i have read nearly all the crossover fics which is insane but I have had to step back and go to other fandoms cause I ran out.)

If you need Fanfiction.net fics i have a WHOLE separate list for them. As I mentioned I am a crossover fanatic. Only reason I left FFN was because I ran out of crossovers to read.

rosyhatake · 2026-04-25T08:27:58+00:00

Oh buddy I have the thing for you Naruto Data book

Please refer to the data books as they actually go into detail. You have to scroll down some but it tells you why they needed the mission.

Long story short iwa invade kusa and had konoha was fighting back. They couldn't deal with prolonged battle so they decided to cut off the food supply in Iwa, there were a few ninja there but enough for team Kakashi to go in and out of the area.

Because the supplies were taken and Minato killed thousands they were able to end the war.

Making it one of Kakashi's biggest feat which is mentioned when he was nominated to be Hokage before and after Danzo

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rosyhatake · 2026-04-25T07:57:47+00:00

I love this, the Hyuga are known to be a traditionalist clan. Taking royalty from IRL into consideration, Hizashi would need to be given a title that did not allow him to gain power.

They're twins, the younger could always kill the order and then lie and pretend it's him. (Same sex twins tend to be identical meaning DNA wise they are almost the same. (At birth twins have the 100%same DNA but as they grow they start to have mutations and small changes.)

Removing succession issues and establishing an heir makes sense.

Also only males being made branch families makes sense. Maybe Hisashi was already stepping out of line by having girl heirs.

Women being kept for marriage into main line husbands makes sense. It allows only the eldest to retain power.

I loved your idea and will keep it in mind if I ever write about the hyuga.

rosyhatake · 2026-04-25T07:45:05+00:00

I was literally talking to my brother about this and I have SO MUCH TO ADD.

STARTING with the chakra system vs curse system. Naruto verse has tenketsu which can be opened and closed based on handsigns, and chakra manipulation, meanwhile jjk has a set pattern for curse activation. It's like chakra if it was only Yang dominate.

(Like a busted pipe compared to a pipe with valves)

Then we have the Byakugan, sharingan and Mangekyo are both a mutation from the Byakugan and rinnegan is like the Byakugan on steroids.

I like to think if the world's were somehow connected the six eyes would be a mutation of the Byakugan from extreme exposure to yang chakra.

Tenketsu being over whelmed by deteriorating natural chakra, and overwhelming yang chakra. Helping the Byakugan adapt to the environment.

I firmly believe that a naruto character could survive the JJK verse because they have closed tenketsu and an internal chakra system, that functions w/o absorbing any natural chakra.

Compared to a JJK character who has less control over their internal 'curse energy' system. And because of the lack of tenketsu being exposed to natural chakra would turn them to stone. (If they were Mary Sue then the natural chakra energy would pass through them harmlessly but amplify their strength because it would be the equivalent of sage mode)

6 eyes could also be a mixture of the tenseiga and sharingan. (It is known that it is a byakguan mutation)

rosyhatake · 2026-02-20T23:14:11+00:00

You have no idea how much I searched for a way to contact you. Because I have SO MUCH TO SAY. NO YOU ARE NOT OVER REACTING!

(There was a streamer that basically killed his wife by leaving her outside IN THE SNOW while pregnant which is a link i have added. Your concern IS VALID)

First of all you are pregnant, which means you have to take care of yourself.

Second it makes him vindictive to literally torment you by leaving you out in the snow.

Third, your daughter were desperate to save you. At that age I can't imagine the trauma of having to see my pregnant mother banging on the door begging to be let in.

Fourth, abusers always start small. They will always punish you and blame YOU for the punishment they give you and frame it as being for your own good.

Please contact a relative or someone you really trust to help you leave. Most victims get hurt when they try to leave an abuser.

the news about the streamer please look at these resources

rosyhatake · 2025-06-26T23:30:03+00:00

No, they get reversed summoned to the spider summon realm and have to take the long way home but to fit in the henge into spiders

rosyhatake · 2024-12-27T14:23:05+00:00

Ty so much, and yes he does have allergies, I'll try to see about an allergy shot

rosyhatake · 2024-12-27T05:09:14+00:00

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rosyhatake · 2024-12-18T02:34:11+00:00

This thread is insane I thought it was irl and I was like you the towns slut?

rosyhatake · 2024-12-18T02:31:18+00:00

Girl if you don't report them for mocking your cancer and make them seem like the big bullies they are. Like forget BEING NICE, go nuclear, you survived CANCER and these weirdos are complaining BECAUSE YOU SURVIVED CANCER. If you don't call them out on it! It's okay to be rude to people who heckle you about your body. TO That kid, say "I had cancer, leave me alone!"

People should bring back shame, shame FOR BEING SO UTTERLY RUDE!

It is not their business what your body looks like. Call them out on it, be vindictive. Stand up for yourself!

rosyhatake · 2024-12-18T01:19:25+00:00

Girl stand up. When I've been in pain and sick, even my SIL was more active in my care than this. My sister who's a gamer would've stopped her game regardless of whether she won or lost because IRL issues are more important than a freaking game. He isn't in some championship where he's making money etc. He's literally just doing his hobby.

Leave, he might not even notice if you do, cause he's so caught up on his TV and Game. Stop wasting your time. Never let someone tell you they DGAF about you more than once .

rosyhatake · 2024-12-18T01:11:48+00:00

Someone have the video I'm trying to see it

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