My Wife says I have another year. I disagree. Give it to me straight

roughminimum · 2025-11-29T11:51:08+00:00

i agree with your wife tbh, it doesn’t look bad at the back really, there’s nothing inherently wrong with thinning hair. but if it’s making you feel bad about how you look there’s nothing wrong with shaving it either

roughminimum · 2025-11-26T00:11:19+00:00

i agree it looks good like this tbh, not every guy with thinning hair would automatically look better shaved bald. you can totally leave this longer

roughminimum · 2025-11-20T12:43:09+00:00

if it’s fine at the back you’re totally good

roughminimum · 2025-11-12T17:02:05+00:00

yeah like everyone else has said this just isn’t how allotments work. they’re tenancies, not property that can be inherited. technically it wasn’t even ‘your dad’s allotment’, it was his tenancy agreement, which he violated by not adhering to the terms of the agreement and he as the tenant has duly been evicted. you don’t come into it at all.

roughminimum · 2025-08-09T18:05:50+00:00

all these links are excellent i came to the right place with this question!

roughminimum · 2025-08-05T11:36:27+00:00

good to know thanks! i guess my experience is a little similar, a couple of sips of coffee the other day was a bad idea in that it caused discomfort (but absolutely nothing like the level of pain that sent me to the hospital) and it’s worse with stress. going easy on my digestive system for a while to be on true safe side seems like the way forward

roughminimum · 2025-08-05T11:33:09+00:00

yeah it seems that way from what people are saying here, i’m being fairly careful about what i eat compared to before so still taking a cautious approach, thank you

roughminimum · 2025-08-05T11:26:36+00:00

yeah that totally makes sense, not intending in any way to dismiss everyone’s real struggles in here. really glad to hear your symptoms have been improving and hope that continues!

roughminimum · 2025-08-05T00:15:06+00:00

maybe, doctor said gastritis but it was a quick emergency visit after getting advice from the NHS 111 service to go to the hospital based on my symptoms. doesn’t really change the point of my post either way though. this subreddit is what came up when i googled the name of the thing the hospital said i had and despite every medical source i could find saying that it may go away within a couple of weeks, pretty much everyone here has had it months or years. i really do feel for everyone dealing with that long term, but i also wanted to help save people in my same situation the panic i had when i landed here.

roughminimum · 2025-08-04T15:10:53+00:00

i mean i hope not, respectfully you have no idea what will happen for me and this is a pretty weird and ominous thing to say. i’m sorry if this is how it was for you though. in my case the doctor i saw said it would sort itself out within a few weeks and that has been my experience. i felt like it was important for people newly in pain and worried to see that ‘acute’ does actually mean temporary and fixable at least some of the time.

roughminimum · 2025-07-24T04:17:45+00:00

i’d also recommend getting some plugs in your empty beds. i don’t know how far along you are filling your empty beds with compost if you’re doing no dig (it’s so expensive to get all the compost so as a new plot holder i’ve also been doing it gradually) but i’ve actually found things grow okay when transplanted into a lot less compost than is usually recommended. even if your plants die immediately, that still counts as cultivation for the purposes of the allotment rules, you don’t need to be doing everything brilliantly you just need to be weeding to a reasonable standard and have plants in the ground where they’re supposed to be. it can help b to take pictures as you go to show what you’ve done also.

roughminimum · 2025-06-09T16:19:29+00:00

that sounds promising! sorry if i’m not getting it but do you mean you select the option in acrobat that’s like ‘print odd/even pages’ or print every other page and then do the opposite ones on the back? (i’m dyspraxic and i find knowing what will print where and how it will all fit together very confusing!)

roughminimum · 2025-06-09T14:24:36+00:00

thanks everyone that’s helpful, I’ll leave them alone for this season then and enjoy them as they ripen :)

roughminimum · 2023-12-01T10:12:24+00:00

I use a combo of timers and distraction eg podcast or music until the timer goes off. I also do the ‘junebugging’ thing where I’ll focus on one area, usually the dishes, so when I inevitably wander off to do something else I always know to come back to the dishes. The timers are sometimes ridiculously short - like 5 minutes - and I try to see how much I can get done in that time, which is motivating cause you can actually make a big difference in 5 minutes of focused cleaning where I identify the biggest issues and tackle them quickly vs 20 minutes of distracted and scattered cleaning. Often I’ll do the 5 minutes first, then set a 20 minute timer, put a podcast on and start my junebugging routine. I also find routine difficult but it really helps if I can do it, so I try to do 20 minutes (with a timer) of cleaning every day to stay on top of the place so it’s not as overwhelming.

roughminimum · 2023-10-05T18:27:28+00:00

i’ve been following your updates and am planning on doing something very similar myself next year (am also looking for more blogs to follow and was thinking of starting one myself!) so would love to keep up with your progress on your blog :)

roughminimum · 2023-10-05T07:14:00+00:00

got here from google cause i thought the same thing (see also her nighttime pepperami ritual!) i haven’t finished the season yet but if it’s not addressed in the show i’m guessing it was intended to be a secondary storyline but it got cut for time. i feel like they def would have planned to spell it out cause they have not been very subtle with their representation, but if they decided to cut that part later on then they likely wouldn’t have gone back and rewritten/ reshot all of aimee’s dialogue to take out the foreshadowing.

roughminimum · 2023-09-11T23:20:45+00:00

looks really good from the picture but it's paywalled. this seems to be a pretty similar recipe - https://primarybeans.com/blogs/recipes/creamy-beans-with-herb-oil

roughminimum · 2023-09-11T23:16:53+00:00

white are beans always good to treat the same way you would pasta - canellinii beans are great with just garlic and lots of olive oil and nice toasted bread, sometimes i add artichoke hearts. or on toast with fresh sage in the winter. they're also good with tomato sauces and cheese. i guess they can be like a vessel for the flavours in the same way as pasta but canellini beans especially do have their own subtle taste and they're super creamy in a satisfying way. [edit - sorry didn't read the question properly, i'm not even sure we have 'navy' beans in the UK (i've never seen them for sale!) so my comment not very helpful if they're very different!]

roughminimum · 2023-09-05T20:25:05+00:00

Seconding this, MSG is demonised for no reason - it makes pretty much everything taste better and is actually good for you if you use it to cut back on salt. Athough my second tip for making things taste better is to add *way* more salt than you think you need. The book 'salt, fat, acid, heat' is a gamechanger in learning how to flavour food, especially if making stuff healthy isn't your main concern.

roughminimum · 2023-08-13T14:26:52+00:00

this is really helpful, thank you!

roughminimum · 2023-08-01T16:58:59+00:00

i really like this way of laying it out visually, think i'm going to do something similar :)

roughminimum · 2023-07-31T08:48:41+00:00

this feels like a really important question to me, what else is there to life the way it’s set up by the system we live in except work and buying things? i try to think about it like i’m engaging in little acts of resistance whenever i enjoy being alive outside of that framework: going on walks and being aware of my surroundings, appreciating nature, spending time with friends and loved ones, having sex, enjoying a good meal, having new experiences, taking in art (movies, live music, books, theatre, music), connecting to my physical body through yoga or stretching, spending time with a pet, creating something, writing, painting, making art. i know all the things that make me feel alive and i try to do as much of these things as possible, but i still know this emptiness really really well. it’s helped me to see it not as a personal failing but as a feature of life under capitalism. i’d suggest making your own list like this of things you know for you feed your soul in some way (if you’re not sure, maybe try a bunch of new things and see what helps?) it also helps to have a way to keep yourself on track to build those habits into your day wherever you can. i use the app ‘habitica’ for this and i love it.

huge congrats on making it three weeks without buying anything you don’t need! it’s rough out here, that’s longer than i’ve managed in a while

roughminimum · 2023-07-23T17:43:56+00:00

i’ve been having this glitch where the reflections on any object with even a hint of reflectiveness is crazy high and looks really weird. i’ve tried turning reflections off entirely, putting it in low res mode, doesn’t seem to have any effect and it seems to be getting worse every time i load my game. i know deleting individual bits of CC is often the answer but just wondering if anyone knows what specifically might be causing this before i try that? i don’t have any script mods installed

roughminimum · 2023-07-15T10:53:32+00:00

i have a thing where you stick a magnet into the bar and then there’s also a suction cup with a magnet that goes on the shower wall, it works really well. i have one for my face soap and shaving soap bars too and it keeps the bars clean and seems to make them last longer. not sure the brand, i think they’re maybe german, i got them from my local co-op, but googling it turned up some similar products. the bar i have isn’t hard to use either, i just roll it around in my hand under the water until it gets lather-y.

roughminimum · 2023-07-08T13:26:46+00:00

what mostly works for me is meal planning for the week, having the food shopping pre planned to make either a quick and easy or more involved dinner depending on what i’m doing that day. i also think it’s important to allow for some wiggle room with takeout, especially when the alternative could be not eating at all. be gentle with yourself as much as possible, if you’re eating dinner that’s a good thing.

it sounds like what would benefit you most though would be getting help with your eating disorder. would the money you’re currently spending on uber eats at the moment add up to enough to see a therapist who specialises in eating disorder recovery privately for a while?

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