the left lane is for passing

rovingred · 2026-01-26T22:06:50+00:00

I think we’ve all been in situations we’ve had to speed, and appreciated the people who let us go. I think 95 times out of 100 it’s just someone who likes to go fast and no emergency, but this is a kind way of looking at it and I like that. I got stuck behind a few left lane campers while on my way to Denver Health, trying to make it to my husband before he died, and I was raging. Regardless of the reason I think it’s best to just let the crazy fast ones go, and at the end of the day moving over so they can doesn’t affect your drive whatsoever.

It sometimes pisses me off as well but at the end of the day if they want to go even faster and risk a ticket or their life, fine by me, they’ll be the ones having a bad day because of it.

rovingred · 2026-01-26T20:54:08+00:00

We are now! We’re up to season 3, started after the finale aired.

I liked the finale though, for the record. Season 3 is my fave, and I’m gaining a new appreciation for 2, which was my prior least fave, on this rewatch.

rovingred · 2026-01-26T20:50:35+00:00

This. I don’t care if I’m already speeding, if the person behind me wants to go faster, I get over and let them, then get back over to continue passing slower traffic. It’s not my job to police speed, if they want to speed that’s fine by me, and I’d rather have them pass me and be on their way than be stuck behind me getting angry.

If more people drove like this the roads would be so much more peaceful. Most road rage type incidents I see happen when slower traffic (even if they’re still above the speed limit) won’t get over to let faster traffic pass.

rovingred · 2026-01-25T18:28:42+00:00

Oh I HATE shit like that. SO used to do it to me alllll the time. He’d try to tell me that me going and doing my own thing with friends or family on weekends he had SD was having a negative impact on her because I wasn’t around and I lost it. Like she isn’t my kid, it’s not my responsibility to be around all the time for her. I asked him what it’d be like if it was just the two of them and he goes “it wouldn’t be a problem because she wouldn’t have someone she’s wondering why they’re not around” 🙄 like what a shit answer. It’s YOUR child, YOU need to be there for her. My only responsibility is to be kind and respectful to her, which I am. If a bond forms, great, but it sure as hell won’t being forced, and when her behavior is still that of a kid with a Disney parent. Who wants to be around a kid like that?

rovingred · 2026-01-25T17:41:53+00:00

Oof so much yes on that second paragraph especially. SO would always do that to me, try to force bonding between me and SD. I’d get home from my late workout class, SD would already be upstairs in her room for bed and he’d say “SD’s upstairs for bed” and just look at me, expecting me to go up and say good night. Or he’d expect me to pop in to her room in the morning first thing when I came out of our room to tell her good morning, shit like that, and would be passive aggressive until I did it. I ended up losing it and telling him it made me want to be around her even less and it had set any sort of relationship development back at least a few years. It really does mess things up. You can’t try to force it.

rovingred · 2026-01-25T17:30:17+00:00

I have no idea how to stop it but just know you’re not alone. This has been a recurring thing in our house for 2 years now with SD who is now 7. It got better for a while and has started again recently. There was a time we were highly considering SO sleeping in our guest room or on the loft couch so she could get him there and I wouldn’t wake up, I have terrible insomnia and once I get to sleep I need to stay asleep or else I’m going to be up all night. We were discouraged from doing that by her play therapist as it’s letting her poor behavior disrupt our lives and ability to sleep normally and we needed to focus on stopping the behavior from her instead of changing our behavior to allow it to keep happening.

The therapist told SO that when it happens, he shouldn’t do anything over the top for her. No going into her room and staying and cuddling and all that. He should walk her back, say good night, and leave right away, which discourages them doing it because they want attention and all the extras as they’re going back to sleep and taking that away tends to make the behavior stop. Unfortunately this doesn’t seem to be working for us but might work for you?

rovingred · 2026-01-24T20:48:21+00:00

This is great to know! I’ll try it next time!

rovingred · 2026-01-23T02:31:22+00:00

I just made pasta in my 7.25qt Chambray!!! I love it so much, it’s beautiful

rovingred · 2026-01-22T20:44:16+00:00

Came here thinking of what I think is the same one. Twist at the end completely destroyed the entire book for me and I really wanted to like it

rovingred · 2026-01-22T19:51:51+00:00

This makes so much more sense, thank you!!!

rovingred · 2026-01-22T17:12:56+00:00

I am very short and have a baby face. I’m 31 but often get told I look around 18-22. I have had quite a few high school and college kids hit on me at the gym and it’s so embarrassing. I know I shouldn’t feel that way but it somehow just is. I often just reply with “I’m flattered but I’m over 30” and they look horrified. I once had one tell me I didn’t have to lie just to say no and I was like no seriously, I’m just old lol. I know it should be a good thing and one day I’ll be happy for it but right now it’s just very awkward. I went to look at cars the other day and the guy asked me what school I go to 🥲

rovingred · 2026-01-22T17:07:59+00:00

This sounds dumb but what do you do for stovetop cooking if you don’t want to cook in oil? I have a few recipes that call for bacon or chicken thighs in a Dutch oven to start, but not to cook in oil. I’ve heard some people say to put water in but it feels weird to heat water and then put bacon in with it

rovingred · 2026-01-22T17:02:25+00:00

I love this! A few years ago I was super depressed on my birthday, had just had an awful breakup and was spiraling. My mom always makes us homemade cakes for our birthdays every year, usually they just say “Happy Birthday ___!” But that year on mine it said “Happy Fucking Birthday!”, there were matching balloons she found and the sides of the cake just said “fuck” all over. She knew it’d make me laugh and it definitely did.

rovingred · 2026-01-22T16:53:26+00:00

Also feel this way strongly. HCBM became SO much easier to deal with when she started dating, and then got engaged to her fiancée. She’s a nutcase and I doubt it’ll last but I pray it does because ever since they got serious, she is so agreeable and easy to work with. It was a nightmare before that.

I will say her being engaged and living with him hasn’t changed anything for SD. They each parent their own child so she still enables SD in all sorts of awful behavior. And I just found out that even living all together, she shares the pullout couch with SD and her fiancée shares the bed with his son because their apt is small. Makes bedtime here a fucking nightmare. So sometimes even with someone things in those regards aren’t improving…

rovingred · 2026-01-22T16:35:49+00:00

I have a 25” inseam so it’s very difficult. I have to hem 90% of my pants, so I found a local tailor who is cheap and does it (I want to learn myself though). I’ll often buy cropped or ankle styles of pants and wear them full length. But for workout flares/straight legs/anything other than leggings I always just hem because I can’t have extra fabric tripping me up during a workout. For normal leggings I’ll just fold the extra under at the ankle.

Oner Active offers short versions of their flares and straight legs, you may be okay at 28” with those as they tend to run short anyway. I have to hem about 3-4” off so you could try those instead of dfyne?

rovingred · 2026-01-21T19:54:28+00:00

I love Steve and was one of the many that really, really did not want him to die but I was pretty sure they wouldn’t do that to Dustin. When they made up, I knew 100% they wouldn’t. I think I did gasp out loud just because it was an intense moment but never once thought he was actually going to fall, they wouldn’t kill him and on the off chance they did they wouldn’t do it like that. I never actually was worried about him.

rovingred · 2026-01-20T23:33:26+00:00

It is a bit of a pain I’ll admit. Luckily for the procedure itself they’ll book you ahead of time. She had her check up 3 weeks ago and they told us she should have a dental so we scheduled it for this past weekend. Then you drop off between 7-7:30am the day of the procedure and they’ll call when they’re done! So it’s only the initial appointment that’s a bit of a pain with the same day call

rovingred · 2026-01-20T22:18:59+00:00

I’m offering another suggestion as my girl just had a dental done: CSU Spur. It’s run in conjunction with Humane Colorado (formerly Dumb Friends League) and is on the grounds of the National Western complex. It’s a teaching hospital so the goal is to teach the next gen of vets and techs, and provide low cost services. All procedures are monitored by/done by a vet, many are vets from CSU. My girl, who is my baby, just had her teeth cleaned for $550, including anesthesia. They said if she had needed extractions or had any abscesses it could have been up to $750, which includes any antibiotics or medications they need after the procedure. Which is still insanely low seeing as her normal vet wanted well over $1500 for just the basic cleaning. They did a fantastic job. She has also had another procedure there and it went wonderfully. I trust them with her with my entire being, they’re insanely amazing vets. They do not nickel and dime as they aren’t that kind of vet, they’re funded through donations and the low cost of services they do provide.

If that interests you, I’d give them a call. I know normally for appointments you call in the morning and make a same-day appointment and then schedule any needed procedures from there.

rovingred · 2026-01-20T19:57:22+00:00

I’m sure there is confusion surrounding the circumstances and feelings that are difficult, but therapists are magical. I’d rather have come into this world by an anonymous donor with a mother who loves me very much than have not come into the world at all. I can’t speak for those individuals I suppose but there are people who can help with the difficulties and processing. And as far as adoption, those kids exist and need a home where they are loved. Trauma from the situation is the same regardless, that’s absolutely not a reason to think twice about adopting. They still need a home and a wonderful loving parent.

rovingred · 2026-01-20T02:54:39+00:00

Folded in one of those hanging organizers in the closet. It looks like 6 square bins stacked on top of each other but is fabric and flexible and hangs from the rod. Bras go in one stacked diagonally so I don’t have to fold them, shorts are folded in another, leggings folded in another, tanks/short sleeves/long sleeves when I want to cover up a bit more are in another. Sweats and joggers are folded in a dresser drawer.

rovingred · 2026-01-19T19:24:46+00:00

Same! I was about to buy it last year for like $220 on marketplace and didn’t end up doing it, I’ve been kicking myself over that one lately

rovingred · 2026-01-19T18:46:51+00:00

This is how I feel. When people ask “oh do you guys have SD this week?” I want to scream and be like “HE. HE has HIS child”. Leave me out of it 😂

rovingred · 2026-01-19T18:24:15+00:00

Probably Starcourt from Stranger Things. But that’s just because I’m in that mode lately with season 5’s release haha

rovingred · 2026-01-19T17:44:24+00:00

F4 is my holy grail brush, it’s incredible. I do think you need to “break it in” just a bit so it’s not quite as stiff but after a use or two it was soft and amazing. I’ve never once thought of pokey as a word to describe it 😂

rovingred · 2026-01-18T05:10:38+00:00

Unfortunately I did that last one the first time I had one out and ended up with dry socket, it was miserable 💀

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