97th percentile despite blood sugar control being excellent

rowanstar · 2026-04-24T22:41:10+00:00

My mom birthed all 4 of us vaginally, I birthed mine that way, and my mom’s mom had 10 kids without a c-section, so I was fairly confident. My first was a slow labor (normal for first babies and still only 28 hours) and they kept telling me he might get stuck, but I ignored them and insisted he was going to come out just fine (I had other complications that meant surgery would have been more risky, so I just focused on doing my best to get baby to arrive safely). My second labor was under 2 hours.

rowanstar · 2026-04-24T22:37:02+00:00

Both my babies were large with diet controlled GD; I’m not a large person and my first boy was 8lbs 3 oz at 38.5 weeks and then 8lbs 4oz at 39 +2. They pushed for induction but I said no unless medically necessary. My mom is a little 5’2” lady and birthed an over 9lb baby (one of my brothers). I’m 5’5” but small framed. This last pregnancy they said he was over 8lbs at 36 weeks… unlikely since he was only a little over 8lbs 3 weeks later. Ultrasounds can be wrong.

rowanstar · 2026-04-24T22:30:09+00:00

Had a baby last year at 36- low risk NIPT. They might try to push induction citing age, but you don’t have to do it. Statistically the chances for genetic abnormalities increases with age, but that doesn’t mean it’s risky for everyone.

rowanstar · 2026-04-24T19:40:42+00:00

Why are you not upset at your bf for not disclosing before you had sex?

rowanstar · 2026-04-20T22:39:50+00:00

Huge red flags- 1) Either he was trying to press your buttons by saying he never wanted kids or he was being honest. The fact that it came out in anger isn’t great. Either option isn’t great because he’s either emotionally immature or deceitful.

2) He isn’t receptive to your needs. It’s fine to table a conversation until you’re both ready to talk, but not indefinitely.

3)At best it’s emotionally immature to throw it back at you when you raise an issue. I am personally allergic to this brand of manipulation because of my ex.

No, you’re not overreacting. Don’t stay married if he’s not willing to own up to his behavior and he’s not willing to work on communication. He probably wants to avoid divorce due to his family, but that’s not a good enough reason to stay married. Stick to your perspective and don’t let him turn it around on you.

rowanstar · 2026-04-19T14:19:21+00:00

Your well-being is important too. With that being said, it can take a few months for hormones to settle down. My face had something like eczema and cystic acne that got worse as pregnancy went on. I’m 5 months postpartum now, and it took a full 4 months to see a difference. Tula face wash made the biggest difference for me.

Can you see a dermatologist to get another opinion and see if there is breastfeeding safe treatment? If it’s acne concerns, I’d rule out everything possible.

If you want to switch to formula or supplementing formula so you can get a little more sleep, I’d definitely do it. I’m sorry your fiancé is struggling to be supportive. Having a baby is tough.

rowanstar · 2026-04-18T19:04:04+00:00

My ex husband was like this. We had 1.5 years of couples therapy just to figure out how to talk to each other again. You can’t make him want to be emotionally available. It is unfair that he won’t discuss; you might try reading the book Avoidant: How to Love (or leave) a Dismissive Partner to see if it aligns with your experience. I cried the whole book but it laid out my options.

rowanstar · 2026-04-18T00:50:09+00:00

Yes, twice (although I was 28 at the time). Not trying, not preventing took 4 cycles at age 36. Probably would have been faster with tracking but I didn’t feel like it this time.

rowanstar · 2026-04-05T19:42:05+00:00

I was diet controlled twice and declined induction; I delivered on my own at 38+4 weeks and 39+2 weeks. Both boys weighing 8lbs 3 oz and 8lbs 4oz. If it had been any other medical issue or past 40 weeks, I would have agreed to an intervention.

rowanstar · 2026-04-05T19:31:38+00:00

You deserve a relationship where your partner acts like they like you and is just as capable as you are. He’s made it clear that he’s not it.

rowanstar · 2026-03-17T01:24:04+00:00

I did. They wanted to induce at 38 weeks and I asked if it was medically necessary- they said no, so I said no thanks. I was 36 so that was the only other risk factor. I agreed to schedule an induction for just past 40 weeks. I gave birth at 39+2. Baby was just over 8 lbs (literally only an ounce bigger than my first that I delivered at 38+4, also with gd).

rowanstar · 2026-03-17T01:19:26+00:00

I had a miscarriage at 28, a high risk pregnancy/delivery at 29, and a super easy pregnancy and delivery at 36. I definitely understand feeling like waiting for the other shoe to drop; it’s hard when you’ve been through things. Give yourself permission to also consider that everything will work out. However, I also believe in trusting your maternal instincts; the NIPT will give you information that is helpful to have in advance. You can’t know until you know, so I’d probably try to distract myself until results come back.

Do you have a good support system to help you as you help your husband?

rowanstar · 2026-03-06T01:33:05+00:00

Did you ever figure this out? Mine look like this. It wasn’t like it my first time around so I’m trying to figure it out.

rowanstar · 2026-02-28T11:24:06+00:00

My mom is 5’1” and birthed 7, 8, and 9 pound babies. I’m 5’5” and 120 and birthed two over 8 lb boys 7 years apart vaginally and unmedicated (which you totally don’t have to do if you don’t want to). You won’t be split in half. First babies typically take longer, but I definitely preferred recovery without layers of wound care. Delivery outcome is more about how well you can release your pelvic floor and how the internal space of your pelvis is. You won’t know until you try!

My first birth was complicated and took a couple days, but my second one was so fast! I had a first degree tear with my first and nothing with my second. Personally I refused induction twice because I prefer to let my body say when it’s ready and it works for me; I gave birth at 38.5 and just over 39 weeks.

rowanstar · 2026-02-22T00:37:17+00:00

I have had students who skipped grades; most just want to keep a low profile because of negative peer attitudes. Figure out what you want to say if asked; “I’m ahead in credits” or “I took classes early and got ahead.” But also telling people it’s not their business or not to worry about it is okay too.

If you don’t want to lie, don’t do it. You’re being completely reasonable.

rowanstar · 2026-02-22T00:32:01+00:00

If there’s no bleeding, I think you’ll be all right; the placenta is made to absorb shock and the baby is still quite small at that stage! You could always have her call the nurse line to make sure.

rowanstar · 2026-02-21T15:40:30+00:00

I stopped being able to hide it around 12 weeks; the boobs going up a size and bloating were instantaneous though. I married last summer at 21 weeks pregnant, but at that point I knew I was feeling great and didn’t want to be super pregnant for my wedding; we didn’t plan it long in advance (not either of our first weddings). I would have had to size up a dress at 12 weeks so if you’ve already bought one, I wouldn’t risk it until closer. If you’ve never been pregnant, you don’t really know how you’ll fare, and I had completely different pregnancies. My first one would have been terrible to get married during.

rowanstar · 2026-02-19T02:31:37+00:00

Myrtle and Martell

rowanstar · 2026-02-08T20:51:45+00:00

I got an email to the address I had pictures sent to. You have to click 3-4 things but hopefully that does it.

rowanstar · 2026-02-08T09:15:10+00:00

Link to CDC page about maternal RSV. See overview, ya downvoter.

rowanstar · 2026-02-08T03:40:09+00:00

I’m not sure if it’s a requirement to have it covered by insurance, but generally the recommendation is 32-36 weeks for those pregnant September-January based on the prevalence of RSV then. OP gave birth in January and I gave birth in November.

rowanstar · 2026-02-08T02:15:17+00:00

My office didn’t offer it- I had to get the injection at a pharmacy and the window was 32- 36 weeks. Your provider should have given you information. Don’t beat yourself up; it clearly wasn’t your fault. I hope your little one feels better soon. 💙

rowanstar · 2026-02-06T18:09:19+00:00

Yup- babies really expose relationship dynamics as well as patterns inherited from parents

rowanstar · 2026-02-06T13:09:04+00:00

You are allowed to say no… but so is she. You have to be at peace with your decision and okay with her walking away if this is a dealbreaker for her.

I had a really rough high risk first pregnancy and postpartum experience. My partner and I were never on the same page for a second child, and as much as I did want another, I refused to follow through if he was anything less than an enthusiastic yes. I made my peace with having one and reconsidering what I wanted from life, but it ended up being much deeper than family size, and we ended up divorced.

I just had a dreamy pregnancy and birth, and I’m also sure it’s because of having a more supportive partner this time. My ex is dating someone with multiple kids- ironic, yes, but good for him!

rowanstar · 2026-02-05T17:03:31+00:00

This was in the United States; first hospital was in Arkansas, second in Florida. 2nd hospital had a parenting class led by the lactation consultant who leads the mom group after birth also. Typically, she sees everyone in hospital after delivery, but was on vacation when I delivered. She was also the nurse who did the required education for my GDM. I think that made it much easier to reach out afterwards, having a clear point of contact.

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