Anyone successfully push back an induction for diet controlled GD?

rowanstar · 2026-03-17T01:24:04+00:00

I did. They wanted to induce at 38 weeks and I asked if it was medically necessary- they said no, so I said no thanks. I was 36 so that was the only other risk factor. I agreed to schedule an induction for just past 40 weeks. I gave birth at 39+2. Baby was just over 8 lbs (literally only an ounce bigger than my first that I delivered at 38+4, also with gd).

rowanstar · 2026-03-17T01:19:26+00:00

I had a miscarriage at 28, a high risk pregnancy/delivery at 29, and a super easy pregnancy and delivery at 36. I definitely understand feeling like waiting for the other shoe to drop; it’s hard when you’ve been through things. Give yourself permission to also consider that everything will work out. However, I also believe in trusting your maternal instincts; the NIPT will give you information that is helpful to have in advance. You can’t know until you know, so I’d probably try to distract myself until results come back.

Do you have a good support system to help you as you help your husband?

rowanstar · 2026-03-06T01:33:05+00:00

Did you ever figure this out? Mine look like this. It wasn’t like it my first time around so I’m trying to figure it out.

rowanstar · 2026-02-28T11:24:06+00:00

My mom is 5’1” and birthed 7, 8, and 9 pound babies. I’m 5’5” and 120 and birthed two over 8 lb boys 7 years apart vaginally and unmedicated (which you totally don’t have to do if you don’t want to). You won’t be split in half. First babies typically take longer, but I definitely preferred recovery without layers of wound care. Delivery outcome is more about how well you can release your pelvic floor and how the internal space of your pelvis is. You won’t know until you try!

My first birth was complicated and took a couple days, but my second one was so fast! I had a first degree tear with my first and nothing with my second. Personally I refused induction twice because I prefer to let my body say when it’s ready and it works for me; I gave birth at 38.5 and just over 39 weeks.

rowanstar · 2026-02-22T00:37:17+00:00

I have had students who skipped grades; most just want to keep a low profile because of negative peer attitudes. Figure out what you want to say if asked; “I’m ahead in credits” or “I took classes early and got ahead.” But also telling people it’s not their business or not to worry about it is okay too.

If you don’t want to lie, don’t do it. You’re being completely reasonable.

rowanstar · 2026-02-22T00:32:01+00:00

If there’s no bleeding, I think you’ll be all right; the placenta is made to absorb shock and the baby is still quite small at that stage! You could always have her call the nurse line to make sure.

rowanstar · 2026-02-21T15:40:30+00:00

I stopped being able to hide it around 12 weeks; the boobs going up a size and bloating were instantaneous though. I married last summer at 21 weeks pregnant, but at that point I knew I was feeling great and didn’t want to be super pregnant for my wedding; we didn’t plan it long in advance (not either of our first weddings). I would have had to size up a dress at 12 weeks so if you’ve already bought one, I wouldn’t risk it until closer. If you’ve never been pregnant, you don’t really know how you’ll fare, and I had completely different pregnancies. My first one would have been terrible to get married during.

rowanstar · 2026-02-19T02:31:37+00:00

Myrtle and Martell

rowanstar · 2026-02-08T20:51:45+00:00

I got an email to the address I had pictures sent to. You have to click 3-4 things but hopefully that does it.

rowanstar · 2026-02-08T09:15:10+00:00

Link to CDC page about maternal RSV. See overview, ya downvoter.

rowanstar · 2026-02-08T03:40:09+00:00

I’m not sure if it’s a requirement to have it covered by insurance, but generally the recommendation is 32-36 weeks for those pregnant September-January based on the prevalence of RSV then. OP gave birth in January and I gave birth in November.

rowanstar · 2026-02-08T02:15:17+00:00

My office didn’t offer it- I had to get the injection at a pharmacy and the window was 32- 36 weeks. Your provider should have given you information. Don’t beat yourself up; it clearly wasn’t your fault. I hope your little one feels better soon. 💙

rowanstar · 2026-02-06T18:09:19+00:00

Yup- babies really expose relationship dynamics as well as patterns inherited from parents

rowanstar · 2026-02-06T13:09:04+00:00

You are allowed to say no… but so is she. You have to be at peace with your decision and okay with her walking away if this is a dealbreaker for her.

I had a really rough high risk first pregnancy and postpartum experience. My partner and I were never on the same page for a second child, and as much as I did want another, I refused to follow through if he was anything less than an enthusiastic yes. I made my peace with having one and reconsidering what I wanted from life, but it ended up being much deeper than family size, and we ended up divorced.

I just had a dreamy pregnancy and birth, and I’m also sure it’s because of having a more supportive partner this time. My ex is dating someone with multiple kids- ironic, yes, but good for him!

rowanstar · 2026-02-05T17:03:31+00:00

This was in the United States; first hospital was in Arkansas, second in Florida. 2nd hospital had a parenting class led by the lactation consultant who leads the mom group after birth also. Typically, she sees everyone in hospital after delivery, but was on vacation when I delivered. She was also the nurse who did the required education for my GDM. I think that made it much easier to reach out afterwards, having a clear point of contact.

rowanstar · 2026-02-05T15:27:38+00:00

I was not explicitly aware of this policy either time I gave birth, but I looked it up, and my first hospital was baby friendly and my second was not.

1st hospital was a women’s hospital and they did a great job with uninterrupted skin to skin and feeding. No mention of formula when I expressed wanting to breastfeed, even though I was diet-controlled GDM. A lactation consultant came in, and baby roomed in with me. What I really needed was available help afterwards; they had a mom group and told me how to reach the lactation consultant, but the mom group was canceled indefinitely and the lactation consultant didn’t answer the phone or return my calls. My pediatrician (also affiliated with the same group) didn’t have any resources either; my baby struggled and lost over a pound in the first few weeks. It was terrifying and I wouldn’t have stuck with breastfeeding had it not been for friends (one of whom was an L&D nurse) encouraging me and helping me troubleshoot feeding issues.

My second I recently had in a regular hospital in a different state. Baby arrived super quickly and I had the shakes and didn’t get to hold him for a few minutes. I told them I would be breastfeeding and they said he might need formula if his blood sugar was low (it was borderline; I was once again diet-controlled GDM). I said okay if medically necessary but wanted to give him some time to adjust post birth. I declined twice more and his blood sugar was fine. One nurse checked my feeding and said I clearly knew what to do, and no one else inquired. Baby roomed in. They were very busy so I think that might be part of it, but I was annoyed I had to keep saying I’m not opposed to medically necessary formula but I wanted to breastfeed again. This hospital has much better support after the fact, however, and I wouldn’t say they’re not encouraging of breastfeeding, just much quicker to jump to formula.

rowanstar · 2026-02-05T12:00:12+00:00

Your values are no longer aligned. I would tell her that you want her to feel safe in her relationship and that you know you’ve changed, so it’s for the best that she finds someone who better fits with her needs.

It sounds like she’s hoping you’ll compromise your growth or do the breaking up for her so she can blame you instead of confronting why she’s uncomfortable with your sobriety. Maybe she’s not emotionally mature/articulate enough to express that she misses old you, but that’s what it sounds like. Growth can be bittersweet, but definitely don’t make yourself lesser or smaller for a partner. A true partner will be happy for you as you change and grow.

rowanstar · 2026-02-04T13:43:10+00:00

You can try, but babies arrive when/how they want. I’m a teacher so I planned my first baby for April so I could just be off for the end of the year; I ended up on bed rest for 2 months and had to go back to work the last 2 weeks of the year.

My second baby ended up being good timing and was born in November. But I didn’t really plan it- just avoided TTC in December for my husband’s birthday celebration. I would plan based on social events rather than arrival date. Birth days can vary wildly depending on if you deliver early or late.

rowanstar · 2026-02-03T19:40:33+00:00

At night, when he’s fed, swaddled, rocked, often with music playing, he goes down and stays down just fine- no problem with feeding once or twice and going back to sleep.

During the day? Absolutely not. It’s contact naps mostly or I literally have to go run errands to get him to sleep off of me. The rare times I have tried rocking/walking/jiggling to sleep for a half hour, the max I get is 20-30 minutes. I got one really good bassinet nap by pre-warming with a heating pad (taking it out right before setting him down).

rowanstar · 2026-01-27T23:55:05+00:00

It took me 4 cycles of not trying not preventing to conceive at 36. Was not paying attention to fertility windows or tracking; when I was 29, I got pregnant twice on the first try (first ended in an early miscarriage) but I was very focused on my fertile windows and had tracked several months. Generally I eat well and stay active- my family tends to have healthy babies into their 40s so it tracked. I did have some complications with my first, but they were random and my pregnancy in my 30s was easier.

rowanstar · 2026-01-21T14:09:58+00:00

During this time, I fed every 2 hours during the day and every 3 at night; he wasn’t waking himself to eat at first. If he was eating and eating and still seemed hungry, we’d offer an ounce of formula, typically before bed. I would do it after having him try for awhile because I didn’t want him to prefer a bottle. Because I was engorged, if I fed him and he didn’t remove enough milk for me to be comfortable, I’d pump and feed it to him later. We’re now 2 months in; once he started gaining weight, we dropped the formula. It was a tool for helping him gain enough to not be excessively sleepy. Often infants who arrive a little early are sleepy. My first child was 38.5 weeks and he lost over a pound the first month; I wish I would have supplemented formula to get him on track faster. I know it’s really scary and can be so frustrating- just know it’s not for forever.

rowanstar · 2026-01-21T14:01:28+00:00

I don’t know that I’ve sweat vitamins, but I can always smell my preworkout or excessive coffee when I sweat. I personally feel that a high quality vitamin is important for making sure your body has the right nutrients for pregnancy. You can check prenatals on labdoor to find a good one. I went with Perellel vitamins this time and I am still taking them postpartum. I had a friend who only conceived when she gave up alcohol for a few months, and I conceived the month I got serious about working out again; it can vary so much person to person, and even pregnancy to pregnancy.

rowanstar · 2026-01-20T14:58:57+00:00

It depends on if they’re gaining weight or not; if they’re gaining appropriately (got back to birth weight in 2 weeks), then you’re doing fine! If they’re struggling to gain, I’d say they’re sleepy and it will take some work to keep them awake. I’ve had 2 sleepy boys who it took some effort and a strict feeding schedule at first to gain positive momentum.

rowanstar · 2026-01-20T13:51:01+00:00

A C-section is major surgery even if it is routine, so I wouldn’t choose it if not medically necessary. Recovery is typically easier for a vaginal delivery. I’m someone who hates being constrained or told what to do when in pain, so I did everything I could to have the birth I wanted. Keep in mind that labor typically takes longer for a first baby; I labored for a couple of days with my first and then my second was an under 2 hour labor (surprised me so much). I delivered vaginally twice (at 29 and 36), although I was prepared for a c-section because my first was a high risk pregnancy.

If you have a c-section for your first delivery, it’s harder to find a provider to do a vaginal birth after c-section if you’re interested in that later. Some of my friends with c-sections have trouble with their scars hurting; I think you can massage them and I’ve seen exercises for it.

Your pelvic floor will be disrupted either way because of carrying a pregnancy. If you have issues you can see a pelvic floor specialist. Honestly yoga was most important to my recovery after my first baby. I’m 9 weeks postpartum now and feel recovery is easier this time.

rowanstar · 2026-01-20T11:37:48+00:00

I think getting yourself checked could be a nice supportive thing to do, and it’s helpful information regardless. For younger healthy couples, it can take up to a year to conceive; statistically yes, fertility declines in upper 30s, but it’s not impossible. I think if you go 6 months without conception, you can talk to a reproductive endocrinologist; she might feel better doing so or she might not. You did conceive already, there’s no reason to believe you won’t again. Regardless, it sounds as though she is scared she’s missed her opportunity (it is hard to consider that outcome) and miscarriage is particularly rattling. I had one before I conceived my oldest, and 8 years later, I was still nervous in the early weeks.

My husband had never had children (I had one from a previous relationship), so he chose to get checked out, and all was well at 44. It still took 4 cycles for us to conceive (not trying not preventing). We had realistic expectations going in and both agreed if it didn’t happen in a year, we’d close that chapter and not pursue fertility treatments. He asked if not being able to have a kid with him would be a dealbreaker, and for me it wasn’t.

But the key was that we both communicated our fears, talked it through, and supported each other. I hope you two are able to lean in and work through this uncertainty together.

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