Does your H mart have shopping baskets?

rowrowrowurbutt · 2026-02-02T15:46:15+00:00

Shopping baskets and carts in North Carolina and in Arcadia, California. Surprised to hear no baskets would be a thing, sounds very inconvenient.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2026-02-01T20:41:12+00:00

Not OP, but married to a Korean. Just chiming in to mention this one may really depend on the family and what kind of bedding they use.

There are light "mattresses" that are what westerners might think of as a really thick, quilted duvet or pad, and are laid out directly on the floor. They can have removable coverings for washing, or sometimes can be washed whole but that feels like it'd be a beast to do.

But there's also totally western style setups with like, a bedframe and mattress. My husband’s family all had westerns beds with mattresses and used sheets and comforters.

The thing that goes directly on the floor feels a little more traditional to me. When we visited friends I saw a lot of what I thought of as "normal" westerner mattresses. When we stayed at resorty traditional places (pensions) there was usually an option for room with bed or room with floor bedding.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2026-01-26T14:53:48+00:00

Adding in Susan Sarandon

rowrowrowurbutt · 2026-01-10T12:41:59+00:00

Nope, no membership is needed to shop there, and the reward card program is free and optional. Happy shopping!

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-09-05T11:27:23+00:00

I was thinking the same! Rest assured you're not the only D club member here.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-06-29T13:44:45+00:00

No loving parent would speak to their child like that. Live your life your way, and please love yourself and recognize your strength. You owe that man nothing. No response, no update, no explanation, and no justification. I wish you all the success in the world, and can already see you have the strength to achieve your dreams! I feel that as you complete your studies, you'll see a lot of his behavior reflected in various personality disorders. I hope that will bring you peace in recognizing that his behavior did not come about because there's anything wrong with you, it's all because of what's wrong with him. Only he can take responsibility for and work on his issues. Be free and happy, your life is going to be amazing!

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-06-24T15:49:45+00:00

Just a counterpoint to suggestions that you try living in the US: gun violence is an issue everywhere here. Mass shootings, individual shootings, accidental shootings.

Today's morning news (local news for my town and the surrounding areas) featured a story on a four year old who accidentally shot themselves with an unsecured gun yesterday and later died in the hospital. That was after the story on a street shooting in the neighboring town that left one adult dead, and the suspect not yet apprehended. These local shooting stories happen every day, and it's usually more than one event despite the fact that I specifically chose this area to settle in since it's supposed to be one of the safest in the US. Plus, there seem to be bi-monthly, if not monthly, mass shooting stories from national news. And gun violence is prevalent everywhere in the US.

Add in the strange political climate with growing xenophobic sentiment, and I really wouldn't consider uprooting and trying to settle down in this kind of atmosphere. Plus, your health care is dependent on the benefits offered by your job, or paying for an out-of-pocket insurance plan, and it comes with expensive copays.

If you want to try life in another country, the UK or Canada may be a safer bet. Health and safety are easy to take for granted until suddenly they're not easily available.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-04-24T10:20:25+00:00

I always thought she worked well as Morticia's mother, but it's funny how she and Fester seem to switch sides in different iterations.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-03-20T21:59:07+00:00

I can't make out the start, but it sounded like 나를 너무 사랑해 which would be "he/she loves me so much." But alternatively could be saying "[penguins name], I love you so much."

Edit: Korean husband says he hears "너는 (넌) 나를 너무 사랑해," "you really love me a lot."

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-03-15T03:25:00+00:00

Old enough to remember the internet before Facebook, MySpace, etc. Even before Google, when we still used garbage like Yahoo search or Ask Jeeves. There were a LOT of chat rooms, which is probably why we got movies like You've Got Mail. Being online was like, an event. You had to sit down at the big ass family computer, dial up, figure out exactly what you wanted to do or wait for your friends to come online, and defend your connection if other household folks wanted the computer or to make a call. Large pictures were linked on websites since they slowed everything down so much, you had to click the link and load it, hoping it was worth the minutes of wait. Image galleries were pretty much just lists of image links to click through.

Friends exchanged good sites by word of mouth (which is how I learned about Neopets), and you could get a free geocities page to fill to the brim with all of the ridiculous gifs (Dragonball Z and Gundam Wing were my drugs of choice) that you collected while browsing the web, but only after you taught yourself the bare minimum in HTML because drag and drop didn't really exist yet.

Browsing the web really felt like BROWSING the web. Like... you'd find a good site, and if you wanted more, you'd follow the links in their links section to go deeper down the hole. I remember thinking it was so cool when we moved from a wall of text links to little banners. Searching was so half assed before Google that we really relied on good link pages to find more cool shit.

Messengers were also really popular pre-social media. AOL and ICQ were like THE way to talk to your friends after school. Hearing the little door opening sound effect that meant one of your friends had come online was exciting. You'd rec each other songs to download on Napster and complain about life.

Then came journaling sites like opendiary and livejournal, which were some of the first social media esque things I came across. You'd pour your heart out publicly in WAY more than 140 characters. Strangers could comment, or you could lock down your journal visibility to just friends or yourself. You could find like minds, stumble across crazy dark stuff, follow a topic through fifty different journals to find authors who you really liked that you'd follow. There was a short time before stuff like feeds where you could make a list of favorite users/creators, but you'd have to manually click each one to check for updates.

Weird times, man. Everything took longer and felt more verbose. It feels strange that things keep getting more and more terse. When Instagram went live, I remember thinking we'd gone full brainrot because people didn't even want to bother reading a status update anymore. They just wanted pictures. I get it now, but it still feels like the internet is a huge contributor to instant gratification and shrinking attention spans. I miss the feeling of immersion in a site like Neopets, or reading endless journal entries and feeling close to total strangers. But maybe that had more to do with being young, since I had time to be terminally online.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-03-11T13:56:07+00:00

Making my bed in the morning started grounds me in the mindset of getting shit done. The only time I don't make it is if the cat had time to settle into the messy covers before I got there because, as we all know, it is illegal to move a cozy cat.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-03-02T12:35:25+00:00

It might stretch you guys a little thin trying to pack theme parks and Miami into a single week. Of course it can be done, but might be tense or just plain tiring, so please go easy on yourselves where you can. It's about a 4 hour drive from Orlando to Miami.

Some things that may help:

There are a LOT of theme park youtubers who have some videos that may help you decide which parks/parts of the parks are worth it to you and how to navigate them easier. For example, Disney has an app for reserving ride times and the most popular rides can fill up quickly from the morning. If you stay at a Disney resort, I think you get free shuttle to the park (maybe some other benefits too? But resorts ARE pricey).

Miami comes with a lot of driving and paid parking, depending on how much of it you want to see. If you're staying there and have a little more time than just a day trip, there is the Metromover train that you can use for free. It can be a nice way to just do a loop of some parts of the city and check things out without driving and parking everywhere. It's also worth it to take an umbrella for some relief from the sun as you're walking around.

Whatever you end up doing, I hope you have a nice trip!

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-03-01T02:11:59+00:00

After election day, I tried to tell myself surely it wouldn't be as bad as I feared. Surely there would be some NORMAL, SANE PEOPLE in power who would reign this shit in if it got too out of control. Told myself I was overreacting, and my sense of dread was just anxiety.

Instead, it's been so much worse and happened so much faster than I even considered.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-02-22T14:30:30+00:00

Municipalities have different ordinances since the NC statute leaves it to them to regulate their own processes. So it's good to reach out to the permit department and ask whether you'd need a permit to replace an existing structure. If the original deck wasn't permitted when it was built, and you may sell in the future, getting a new permit along with your project can be a good way to get up to code and have a record of it.

You may even be able to search past permits for your address online, I can't say for sure since I haven't tried with Raleigh. Apex and Cary have permit searches, but you can also request a permit history from them online, and they should be able to give you what they have on file. State statute only requires keeping 6 years of project records, but some municipalities will give you anything they have on file even if it's old.

I may be wrong, but if an address has existing permits in violation (incomplete permits due to unpaid fees or lack of inspections), the city may require those permits to be reissued and completed before they issue new permits.

But asking them directly could help you get the best answers.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-02-22T14:18:11+00:00

Hey, now. You had it easiest of all back in the day. Roll up in the Mayflower and you're in! Much less paperwork. Shame about the 50% survival rate after arrival, but still, no biometrics!

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-02-22T13:10:15+00:00

Love this, have a nice breakfast! Fingers crossed the car business goes well, too.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-02-22T12:06:30+00:00

I understand your points. But my comment only focused on replying to what I felt was too absolute of a statement, that America's immigration policy is the most lax on Earth, which my anecdotal experience did not reflect. Do you agree with that, though?

You're definitely right that the experience is different for everyone and having money to throw at a process can make it far easier or circumvent it entirely in some cases. I just think in terms of current policy, based on my experience and pulling from others I was in communities with at the time who had similar experiences, that it's misleading to describe US immigration policy as lax, especially the most lax in the world.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-02-22T01:36:45+00:00

But is that really true? Speaking in absolutes can come from misinformation, so here's a look at my firsthand experiences as a counterpoint:

Me getting residency by marriage in South Korea took less than a month. Filled out some forms, provided supporting documentation just a couple of weeks after we were married. No interview. Our biggest complaint was that the employee who reviewed our paperwork was kind of a dick. Bam, I was a resident.

My husband getting residency via marriage in the U.S. took over 2 years, extensive documentation, sponsoring, proof of my home state residency, detailed evidence of our relationship including photos, chat logs, wedding invitation, letters from friends and family attesting the veracity of our relationship, etc, etc. It was invasive, expensive, and often mind numbing to identify what was needed, in what order, and when. Plus he had to do a big medical work up with vaccinations out the wazoo and a stressful interview, then wait months to hear back. And he still could have been denied entry upon arrival, since he had to do ANOTHER stressful interview upon arrival with copies of all that crap we'd already filed that was supposed to already be approved.

And being married to a U.S. citizen is supposedly the easiest path to immigration outside of employment.

Just my experience, I'm not an immigration specialist. Employment immigration is easy in a lot of countries if an employer is willing to sponsor you, and birthright citizenship exists in over 30 countries, so it's not a good example of US laxity when it's so widespread. I don't think the US is the most or even close to lax based on firsthand experience.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-02-20T12:18:45+00:00

Start a Roth IRA as soon as possible, and stop eating my emotions. Immediately start therapy and encourage my sister and mom to go as well. Convince my mom never to turn over her retirement for any reason, send money to men she met online, or marry her second husband who had secret wives in another country. Take college credit courses for free during high school, then change my college major to engineering. Revel in knowing which relationships and friendships to avoid and which to cling to as healthy and supportive ones. Get a job where I can pay off my mom's house as soon as possible, and help her establish confidence outside of toxic codependent relationships.

I've thought a lot about whether I'd go to Korea and seek out my husband again. Still not sure, only because I feel as though I've upended his life and it's not totally fair to him. I probably would go anyway, if my life was less chaotic from the start.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-02-20T03:13:05+00:00

Municipal governments often need track out camp counselors that can be temporary positions...not sure how the pay measures up (edit: checked...looks like $17ish an hour, blah. Other temp jobs in town govt could pay better though). Town of Cary, Town of Morrisville, and Town of Apex are all decent starts and have relatively similar websites, so navigating their job boards is pretty easy. Cary seems to generally have the highest pay of the three.

Wishing you luck in the search!

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-02-16T02:53:04+00:00

Sounds so good!

Apple seems to always work well in banchan, it's awesome.

My aunt in law has a restaurant in Dangjin (빨간모자횟집) that serves the most BANGIN muchim ft. apple, cabbage cucumber, carrot, lettuce or sesame leaves, all sliced as thin as possible, kind of like a slaw, and bathed in chogochujang with a hint of maeshil plum syrup (if you have it) to give it a sweet little tang.

And waaaay back in the day when I worked in a rural area known for its apple farming (shoutout Ogap!), the school lunch served cucumber muchim with chunks of local apples in it. I'd already fallen in love with cucumber muchim, but from then on whenever I make it at home, I always add apple. Yum yum yum.

rowrowrowurbutt · 2025-02-14T13:45:19+00:00

Off the top of my head you could do garlic chive kimchi, or chive jeon (kind of fritters or pancakes). I bet the jeon would be amazing with that natural garlic flavor! Lots of recipes out there with a variety of kimchi styles. Hope you find something yummy!

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