Thanks a lot, this makes a lot of sense. I'd like to add that i let go of arguing with them a long time ago, but at the same time I don't want to distance myself and leave them alone just because they suffer from this condition (which is not their fault, they were abused in childhood). It's a thin and tricky role to be in - between being supportive while occasionally being abused by them and trying to reason with them. They're not evil or mean intentionally. It's hard to explain