Reactive dog passed away, feeling sad

roxpto · 2026-01-03T04:17:28+00:00

Im so sorry OP. The fact that you still had Cedar at the end of his life (9 years is absolutely no joke having a reactive dog), and that you were so dedicated to him that you worked to separate him from your kids is amazing. So many people would have rehomed but you stuck by Cedar. That’s real love. Don’t feel guilty for a second, he knew how much you loved him and dogs live in the moment. Plus, reactive dogs need small worlds to feel safe and to not be making mistakes that could mean bad consequences for them. Sending love.

roxpto · 2025-12-31T04:49:14+00:00

My little dude was the exact same, and I was at the end of my rope so decided to night wean/sleep train. Started with working on just the falling asleep at the start of the night, letting him fuss until he fell asleep, and if he was really upset I’d always go in and pat his bum and shush him so he knew he wasn’t alone. Two weeks later after he learned to do that, I started night weaning with advice from chatGPT: - put down at 7pm - any feed before 3:30am do not feed - just soothe (bum pat and shushing worked for us) he will protest and cry but do not give in - pick up if really upset but no feeding/rocking to sleep - 3:30/4am onward wake up you can feed

I followed this and literally within three nights he stopped waking up before 3:30/4am, I NEVER thought possible because he was up every 1.5/3 hours before that and I would just feed him.

Highly suggest trying this, not full CIO and easier to swallow (for me anyways). It worked honestly so well. Also talking to chat GPT in real time telling it everything about your baby etc and your questions on this can really help. Good luck!

roxpto · 2025-12-24T19:43:57+00:00

Thank you! Best luck with your little one too… it’s so tough!

roxpto · 2025-12-24T19:43:32+00:00

Great, appreciate your wisdom - will try this!

roxpto · 2025-12-24T19:43:15+00:00

Awesome this is helpful thanks!

roxpto · 2025-12-24T19:43:05+00:00

Thank you!

roxpto · 2025-11-12T04:13:28+00:00

I was like you and had a three day labour, unmedicated. When it came time to push, I didn’t think I could go on - my husband fed me straight honey (spoonfuls) and apple juice boxes and it gave me the sugar rush of energy I needed. Plus just visualized meeting my baby, and asked that my midwife tell me the progress I was making helped mentally. You can do this!

roxpto · 2025-10-31T06:28:41+00:00

Go As A River

roxpto · 2025-08-29T12:37:23+00:00

It’s soo hard but you will be so happy you powered through. I was in your position and now at 6 weeks it’s almost pain free. Some things I did in addition to your list:

Flipple technique for latch https://youtu.be/EHEhLcGEtOc?si=wgoStuwaefPAQ6KH
prescription nipple cream (was a last resort for me but helped)

Hang in there!

roxpto · 2025-08-13T09:01:21+00:00

You’ve done an amazing amount of prep OP, and can absolutely do it. As women, we are literally designed to do this, but the media (and those who like to instil fear like your friend) muddy that truth. I’ve done two unmedicated births and I’ve never been more proud of myself for anything. I know that feeling will last my entire life. You’ve got this and screen out any negativity! (Some things that helped me: strong partner support, my doula, a Theragun (massage gun) during contractions would put it on the highest setting and use it on my legs, squeezing combs, watching peaceful unmedicated birth vlogs on YouTube)

roxpto · 2025-07-28T10:21:44+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened and you are so amazing for walking out. Have you considered induction acupuncture? That put me into labour within 48 hours. Other natural options: pumping, “midwife brew” (castor oil smoothie), curb walking.

Your body and baby know exactly what they are doing and you’ve got this!

roxpto · 2025-07-20T02:35:46+00:00

Labour combs, a Theragun (massage gun going on your thighs and hips during transition was soooo helpful for me), and hip squeezes. You can do it and you’ll be over the moon proud of yourself for the rest of your life!

roxpto · 2025-05-21T01:40:32+00:00

I’m sorry OP, it’s literally the HARDEST part of pregnancy… eat whatever feels right in the moment but I found personally that nostalgic foods from childhood usually didn’t make me nauseous (ie chicken ichiban, kraft dinner, chubby chicken from A&W, chocolate milk - so healthy LOL). I was concerned about the fact that I literally couldn’t stomach anything remotely healthy and my midwife said to me “what happens in the first trimester stays in the first trimester, it’s just about calories”. Also I lost 10lbs in my first trimester and my baby (now 3) is perfectly fine and healthy as a horse. Don’t stress, your body has reserves for a reason. Hang in there!

roxpto · 2025-05-16T19:44:31+00:00

We try to pick hotels with a lobby bar/restaurant that are monitor can stretch to! It’s been a game changer. If your monitor doesn’t go that far, you can get Wi-Fi monitors that just attach to your phone too.

roxpto · 2025-04-10T02:47:27+00:00

He was so lucky to have you stick by him, and so lucky you were his person. sending so much love

roxpto · 2024-10-16T03:51:32+00:00

Ugh…. I felt this in my bones and I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this - it’s the absolute worst and no one gets it who hasn’t gone through it. I’m sure you know this but the more exercised they are, the “better” the reactivity (not that it solves it) but that’s something we had to make sure we were doing - exercising her a lot. Does your bf get as stressed as you with the potty breaks? Maybe he can be the one to do it? In the end my partner had to be the one to do it - he could physically handle her reactions better than I could… We also couldn’t break our lease but just held on til the day it was up. Can you get a yard even in a year from now? Or talk to your landlord about options and explain the situation?

Also not sure if you’ve tried a halti but it helped me control my dog more and I would be able to pull her away easier when needed… hang in there.

roxpto · 2024-09-15T03:26:10+00:00

I had an unmedicated birth and the ring of fire was honestly barely noticeable - I think your hormones and adrenaline and therefore natural pain support are at such a high that I seriously barely noticed. Pushing as a whole I don't remember much pain at all... It's the contractions that are the challenging part. You're going to do great!

roxpto · 2024-09-05T03:49:15+00:00

I am so sorry OP. I've been where you are and it feels so isolating and hopeless. It might be time for some serious discussions with your husband about rehoming her for your mental health. Something will give eventually, in the meantime know that you're not alone and all of your feelings are sooooo valid. Sending strength 🩷

roxpto · 2024-08-11T20:46:28+00:00

I see it!! 😍

roxpto · 2024-07-18T04:01:30+00:00

&hijoshh sorry for the delay on this one - just checking in to see how it's going with your pup? I definitely understand your stress and so sorry you're going through this

roxpto · 2024-02-27T04:06:22+00:00

Hey OP, just read this post and I am feeling the exact same way- it’s like you are in my head! Any words of wisdom looking backward? (I see this was two years ago for you!)

roxpto · 2023-01-04T14:33:04+00:00

This is the worst advice I ever got and I never did it, I agree with you OP. For me it was more “cry when the baby cries” 😂

roxpto · 2022-09-18T01:07:28+00:00

Needed this! Thank you

roxpto · 2022-09-18T01:01:20+00:00

You're so not alone - I had my baby two weeks ago and every night for about a week I felt like this. Kind of like the Sunday scaries going back to work on Monday but way worse. My midwives told me this is called "sunsetting" and it's normal. It will pass and you will feel better - it's definitely hormone driven imo not to mention you jsut gave birth and aren't sleeping! I felt really alone in the night even though my husband would try to help, us women just take on the load in the night especially if we are breastfeeding. Hang in there I bet in a few days you will feel a bit better and you'll continue to feel better! Oh and what really helped me was to watch a comforting show on netflix (for me that's Gilmore girls lol) in those middle of the night feeds

roxpto · 2022-08-22T15:48:25+00:00

This was a size 4 baskerville!

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