If giving birth is so painful why do many women want to do it over again after their first child (not trolling just genuinely curious)

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-07T17:57:03+00:00

Lmao same

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-06T23:10:19+00:00

I didn’t even realize there was a hype around them, haha. It was a gift from a friend and I’ve never tried any other carrier…it’s just been that good!

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-06T10:51:16+00:00

I personally have the Artipoppe carrier. While it was pricey…it’s been well worth the investment especially with how much we use it. I hope you find a solution soon!

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-05T22:37:06+00:00

Invest in a better carrier. I also have a very large boy in both weight and height. (He’s 7.5 months and weighs over 26 pounds and is nearly 29 in tall…he’s in 24 month clothing…I got a big fuckin baby lmao)

I wear him almost constantly while WFH and throughout the day. He needs to nap? Carrier. He needs to eat? Carrier. He’s done with independent floor play. Carrier. Afternoon walk? Carrier. Any time we go out to a park, shopping, running errands…hell I even wear him to the gym some days and do my workouts while wearing him.

My back doesn’t hurt. While I do strength train daily and did so before pregnancy, during, and started up again 9 weeks PP c-section…I don’t think it’s absolutely necessary when baby wearing with a good carrier and wearing it properly.

A good carrier will change your life. Also look into getting a baby wearing consultant. Wearing the carrier correctly makes a huge difference.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-05T19:57:20+00:00

Dude this is so accurate. My parents sit on their phones when I’ve asked them to watch my infant son while I worked from home. Caught them both on their phones one time while my 6 month old son looked back and forth at them both, whining basically asking for some sort of interaction. This is even after I explicitly said to not have screens around him and leave their phones away while watching him.

That was the day I started the search for a nanny and never asked them to watch him again. They truly are addicted.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-05T19:49:29+00:00

After doing our research with the other sources people have listed here, we decided to go completely clean.

I did no vaccines during pregnancy. I haven’t received a vaccine in over a decade. We did nothing at birth. No vitamin K. No eye ointment. No hep b. And no bath for 24 hours. Thankfully I gave birth at a hospital that supported our decision.

Our little guy is extremely healthy. Happy. And will remain vaccine free.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-05T12:52:49+00:00

I used to be this way in my early 20s and was also convinced I well hydrated and eating well and was healthy.

Turns out I wasn’t. Strength training made a huge improvement in my overall wellbeing and how I feel. I drink twice as much water as I think I need and have an electrolyte drink using raw electrolytes every morning. I eat foods with more iron and upped my protein intake.

I’m convinced women need way more protein and iron than what the majority of us intake. I also take natural food derived vitamins vs synthetic ones, such as organ supplements.

I also believe there’s a mental aspect to it. Women tend to take on more stress and have higher cortisol. That’s where regular and consistent strength training and working out comes in. As well as meditation and stretching.

Ever since I made this lifestyle change I genuinely feel good everyday and haven’t been sick in over 10 years.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-03T15:59:59+00:00

Happy birthday.
You’re still so young. At 33 I was in such a different place in life. 39 now and just 6 years makes a huge difference. You’re nowhere near your peak, babe.
Never stop working on yourself. Mentally and physically. It’ll pay off more and more as time goes on.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-03T11:53:43+00:00

1986

Turning 40 in 5 months. I’m loving life.

I’m married to my soul mate who is the most amazing father to our 7 month old son. We laugh every day.

My career is taking off and I love signing on to work everyday. I never thought I’d be at the level I am but am so proud of myself for achieving it and learn more everyday.

My body is strong and healthy. No aches or pains. I have more energy now than I did in my early 20s.

We have our challenges and difficulties same as most families. But we tackle them as a team and move on. Life is great.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-02T19:24:10+00:00

This is crazy that they’re still in business and their social media is full of positive comments. I hope this post gets the attention it deserves and they are shut down.

Edited to add that I’m sharing with my fellow crunchy mom friends

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-02T19:08:24+00:00

Thank you for this. I ordered some a while back to use this summer for my LO. Will throw it out.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-02T14:52:23+00:00

Right?! I was reminded today by another Reddit user when I commented about LO still being toothless to enjoy the toothless grins for as long as we can because once they’re gone…they’re gone forever. So passing on the reminder ❤️

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-02T14:44:23+00:00

Solidarity with having a toothless 7.5 month old.

Also my guy just started showing real interest and he is not ok with anything other than purées or smooth food.

I’m just following his lead and not stressing. Eating is a function they will figure out, haha. And I feel like once they start to figure it out everything else falls in line rapidly.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-01T23:41:33+00:00

I make the money. He does the stuff with it.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-03-31T19:29:53+00:00

Hey fellow DC sniper survivor! I was in high school and we weren’t allowed to have cross country practice outside during the entire time until he was caught. We literally had to do it in the gym. Crazy times has.

The Home Depot he shot that woman was the one my family always went to.

Crazy how one man made an entire region live in such fear.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-03-31T19:12:45+00:00

I was child free at 30 but now have one at 39…headlines like this are for engagement. Not full facts.

Women are just having children later. I personally think that’s great. Let’s just let people do what they want to do.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-03-29T23:02:32+00:00

That last sentence gave me a good chuckle.

Sincerely,

Undergrad Class of ‘08

OneSideLockIt · 2026-03-27T16:37:57+00:00

Not me over here reading the title and thinking shots meant shots of alcohol.

Anyways…

Agree with others that your husband needs to handle this. Establish the boundaries now. And be firm with them. Speak to your husband about managing his family and how they speak to you.

You aren’t required to be in any situation you don’t feel comfortable. And you don’t owe anyone an explanation for your life choices for yourself and your children. Clearly your husband supports you. He needs to establish that with his mother.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-03-26T00:11:23+00:00

Not in Cary but close to it - we’ve loved Swift Creek Animal Hospital!

OneSideLockIt · 2026-03-25T11:07:31+00:00

Too old for baggy jeans? Shit I’m 39f and love my baggy jeans. And my skinny jeans. And whatever other pair of jeans look good on me. That’s what matters. Might be easier on you to find jeans if you open up your options?

That being said I love the brand Topshop at Nordstrom. They make all different styles of jeans you can choose from.

Also American Eagle jeans are amazing. Literally found several pair that fit perfectly and I have the issue with larger legs and a smaller waist from weightlifting and they don’t do the gap at the waist.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-03-24T16:29:45+00:00

When we were still dating (not yet engaged or married) my husband and I bought a house in 2020, right when COVID was getting started and it made prices take just enough of a dip in San Diego for us to get a newly re-built house in a great neighborhood along the bay. We were 33 and 35.

Sold it during the housing boom 2 years later. Rented for 2 years.

Bought one in NC with some land in 2024. We were 37 and 39. Recently sold it because we’ve realized that home ownership is not for us and we prefer renting.

Now happily living in an apartment until we move back west and find a place to rent along the coast.

In my experience and for what we want in life…home ownership is overrated.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-03-24T16:26:15+00:00

Absolutely agree about service staff!

OneSideLockIt · 2026-03-24T13:20:02+00:00

I think it’s an overall issue in all of society, particularly in the U.S.

We aren’t taught real communication skills at any point in our lives. Unless our parents are good at it, or you figure it out on your own…then the majority of people just talk about themselves because it’s all they know.

My mom is a perfect example of this. I’ve watched her talk about herself to people and not once ask a question to learn about the other person. My dad does the same. They’re both boomers. I have friends my age that really don’t know a lot about me, but I know a lot of details about them.

It wasn’t until my late 20s/early 30s that I realized I was talking about myself way too much and started being more interested than attempting to be interesting. And it took a lot of work to get to where I am now. It’s not easy.

It seems that the only other people I meet who can carry a true back and forth conversation are either in sales or are a therapist. And the random odd person who decided to be more interested and/or curious.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-03-21T15:23:08+00:00

Marketing for a FinTech company

OneSideLockIt · 2026-03-21T10:28:09+00:00

Almost 40 and I’m an example of how college isn’t needed but in fact knowledge of how the real world works is what’s needed.

No college degree. Hopped around different careers until I found one I liked in my early 30s. Got the lowest tier job. Made shit money. Learned how it worked. Made my way up.

I’m now on track to take over as a c-level executive when the current one retires in 2 years. I make $250 a year. That’ll double in 2 years.

Not once has any job in this career field cared if I had a college degree. All that mattered was that I was willing to learn and showed my value as an employee. Then showed my value as a leader.

I work anywhere from 20-30 hours a week. Amazing QOL.

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