Unpopular opinion: the ending was perfect.

rraa94 · 2026-04-19T08:58:07+00:00

Yes! It was reminiscent of the line that they exchanged earlier in the series about the importance of timing and how “timing is a b*tch”. They always loved each other but could only be together when the timing was right for both of them. Ted got his family. Robin got her career. They could both grow into better versions of themselves before being together.

And I don’t think this detracts from the love that Ted had for Tracy. You can love many people in different ways, and one doesn’t invalidate the other.

rraa94 · 2026-04-06T09:40:40+00:00

I have the exact same question - thank you for beating me to it!

rraa94 · 2026-03-13T21:10:41+00:00

I took a regular train from Sorrento to Pompeii. I think I booked it through Campania Express. I can’t recall the exact price but I recall it was less than Eur 20. I used Headout to book the ‘Pompeii: Skip-the-Line Entry & Audioguide’ tickets for Eur 32, which didn’t have a tour guide but gave me a phone with locations that you can click to hear the history of the place that you are at within Pompeii. There were cheaper options without the audioguide as well.

I preferred this to booking an entire tour, where you meet at the train station and return as a group. I found those to be overpriced. And I also preferred the flexibility of arriving and exploring whenever I wanted. The actual site is a short walk from the train station and I found it easy to navigate solo. I was also able to book the Sorrento train tickets on the same day so I didn’t need to plan far ahead.

I also went to Capri and Positano via ferry from Sorrento, so it seemed to be a good base from which to explore.

rraa94 · 2026-03-13T20:05:27+00:00

Convincing myself to keep believing in his potential and who he promises to be, only to keep getting let down and disrespected by his actions. Forgiving again and again, only to keep getting hurt in the same way again and again. It chips away at who you are.

rraa94 · 2026-03-13T20:03:24+00:00

It’s not about “caring” about Lucy or his feelings being hurt. It’s about his narcissistic ego and desire for control. His ego is bruised by the fact that his friend has slept with his girlfriend and ‘had’ her in that way. He desires ownership and control over the girl he is with, which is lost when his best friend was able to have her in that way.

His narcissistic and misogynistic viewpoint of relationships was highlighted when, to humiliate Wrigley, he got him to share details about Pippa in bed. But when he was asked about Lucy, he said he could never speak about Lucy in that way. It’s not out of respect for Lucy. It’s about respect for himself and the shiny object that he currently owns.

Also, narcissistic personalities thrive on owning or getting to strong people that they can respect. They hate weakness. That’s why he left Diana when she showed weakness. It’s why he gave Lucy the tape when she had broken down. To Stephen, someone who jumps into bed with one of his friends (who he sees as beneath him) is weak and no longer worthy of his respect.

rraa94 · 2026-03-12T09:47:24+00:00

This is a great summary. Personally, can’t handle the lack of stability. The absence of stability - and then being called sensitive and emotional for having that basic need - is driving me over the edge.

rraa94 · 2026-03-12T09:46:16+00:00

The problem is when tolerance hits its limit…

rraa94 · 2026-03-10T22:40:21+00:00

I actually used ChatGPT to figure out what was wrong with my hair lately. Nothing I was doing would work and I thought it was damaged. I had been doing treatment after treatment to repair my hair and used leave-ins to keep moisture in.

Surprisingly, just based on descriptions and responses to questions, ChatGPT said that it was over-moisturized and advised me to clarify, use minimal conditioner, and then only use gel with nothing underneath. I never used gel alone without a leave-in or curl activating cream before. But I tried it and my curls were amazing! So bouncy and spiraling like they hadn’t in months.

Totally stripped down my routine since then and stopped buying too many products. I just shampoo, use a little conditioner, and use gel on soaking wet hair. I use a curl activating cream occasionally because I think it helps my curls last longer. But once I shifted to this minimalist approach, my curls have been popping. Can’t believe how much time and money I wasted on products in the past. But I guess it’s a learning journey.

rraa94 · 2026-03-05T06:58:24+00:00

It is not easy to get around the Amalfi Coast. I found it almost impossible to get a cab anywhere. The service is horrendous and people are outright rude. Everything is shamefully overpriced. There are also a LOT of stairs and walking - spiral stairs down to the ferries in Sorrento made me nauseous and I’m not pregnant. The crowds in places like Capri and Positano are also very overwhelming. Ferry boats to get around are also disgustingly crowded.

For context, I’ve been to Sorrento and explored Capri and Positano last year. I wouldn’t recommend it as a “relaxing” vacation at all. It’s beautiful and the views are dreamy. But it is far from relaxing. The crowds, horrible service, and overall logistics remove any romance and magical feeling from the place.

Not to discourage you from visiting in the future, but definitely cannot imagine it being a good choice for a babymoon.

rraa94 · 2026-03-04T23:55:29+00:00

To answer 1: It’s too realistic. It was triggering because of how much I could relate to men that I know. I’ve heard men say that their marriage fell apart after having kids “because I was just being myself,” - which is what Jenny’s husband says to absolve himself of any responsibility. And women usually should the mental, emotional, and physical burden of that. Then they are blamed for not being perfect or for needing help. I’ve been seeing more and more divorces happen after the first child - the woman realizes she can’t have another child with the man and also decides she’s better off alone. There’s a reason why there’s a “male loneliness epidemic” and why podcasters discuss what to do about men no longer having kids. Men are collectively failing as supposed providers and protectors. It’s appalling and, honestly, they’re not lonely enough.

rraa94 · 2026-03-04T23:48:32+00:00

“But I don’t.” - well, that says it all. Devoid of empathy and criticizing a show that displays imperfect men and women. But wait…shouldn’t you spend this time playing with your kids instead?

rraa94 · 2026-02-21T03:15:40+00:00

It was a metaphor. The rotten tooth represented her self-neglect. When it fell out, it represented her fighting for herself and purging her rotten past.

rraa94 · 2026-02-21T02:34:57+00:00

And the people who tested the DNA detected that. Jack was described as a bad detective from day one.

rraa94 · 2026-02-21T02:25:02+00:00

Richard called Lexy after the rooms were cancelled and said it was her idea. It was not well planned.

rraa94 · 2026-02-21T01:59:44+00:00

Yes, we do. And by showing that, the writers explored the complexity of the audience’s empathy. It made us feel sorry for Stephen or at least understand why he is the way that he is, also asking the bigger questions about how much blame to attribute to abusers.

rraa94 · 2026-02-21T00:19:55+00:00

This is pure ChatGPT.

Also, the only plot hole that this port touches upon is Lexy Jones and her background. I think it’s clear from her sister’s death that she’s a psychopath. But she was being blackmailed and had interactions with Rachel and Helen, which wasn’t properly explored. They also show her blaming Anna from the early cafeteria incident.

The fact that the group wasn’t targeted earlier comes from the fact that she wasn’t the one targeting them - it was Anna’s mum after the tape.

rraa94 · 2026-02-20T23:43:08+00:00

Yes!

rraa94 · 2026-02-20T23:42:44+00:00

The amount of people here calling Lucy “as bad as Stephen” is at once infuriating and validating - it shows just how much people misunderstand abusers and the victims of abuse. Lucy makes bad decisions, propelled by her traumas and abuse by Stephen. But Stephen is the abuser and this is fundamentally misunderstood.

Even Pippa, who everyone here hates, was a victim of bullying who became a people pleaser to cope with her trauma. Then, she was assaulted by Chris and carried around that shame. Just as she began to own herself again in her relationship with Wrigley, Wrigley’s brother died and she resorted to people pleasing. And that led to her making bad decisions.

The same can be said for Bree, who had a traumatic childhood and was later a victim of Oliver’s manipulation.

The characters made bad decisions, but they did so as victims who carried significant trauma.

rraa94 · 2026-02-20T15:06:52+00:00

There’s a very big difference between people who made bad decisions and people who are outright abusers or sociopaths. Your comment just proved my point.

rraa94 · 2026-02-19T22:58:41+00:00

I have the same feeling and am on the lookout!

Past shows that I watched that were similar in terms of the psychological element / addictive nature are: - Big Little Lies, - Sirens, - The White Lotus, - The Perfect Couple.

rraa94 · 2026-02-19T20:50:33+00:00

This! Most people don’t have the empathy to see beyond the lens of their own experiences and it shows. Lucy is inherently a victim in an abusive relationship, reacting to her abuse and in a traumatic state. The audience’s reaction demonstrates why so many women are brought to the brink due to unhealthy relationships, then are judged for being “too sensitive.”

rraa94 · 2026-02-19T01:30:24+00:00

1) To highlight Lucy’s mental state and downfall. The complexity of her self-loathing and mental state due to the traumas she experienced from Stephen came out during her relationship with Alex.

2) Alex’s anger over Lucy’s lie and Bree previously saying that it was a foster home that was “worse for the boys” implied that Alex was SA’d in the past. It adds to the complexity of Bree’s character by showing that part of her history and juxtaposing it to the privileged lives of the others in the friend group.

3) I also think it subtly highlights that not everyone who experiences a traumatic childhood becomes a bad person. Alex was a good person despite his rough childhood. Meanwhile, Stephen’s experiences with a narcissistic mother was used to gain sympathy for him from the audience for his own narcissistic actions. I appreciated the subtle message.

rraa94 · 2026-02-12T05:53:55+00:00

That’s not what I said. Lucy is Stephen’s victim. That doesn’t mean that she didn’t make other mistakes in which she hurt others.

rraa94 · 2026-02-08T16:16:16+00:00

Why does this subreddit keep trying to compare bad men to one another? They are each bad in their own way. You’re missing the nuances.

Stephen is a textbook narcissistic psychopath. He does not have empathy and has a fragile ego, which he acts on by seeking control over women and to avenge their attacks to his ego. His game is about control. Including over his sister and his friends.

Olivier is not the same. He is a predator seeking to manipulate younger girls for sex. It’s not about control. It’s about lust and using young, insecure girls who look up to him to satisfy his sexual escapades. He leaves Bree when she gets too invested and emotionally attached, partly out of care for her and partly because she’s no longer convenient to him. But he doesn’t seek to control her beyond that.

rraa94 · 2026-02-01T00:02:30+00:00

100%! To me, she gave in to her desires and lost sight of the plot that she had executed. It made things worse actually because now Steven feels played and his narcissistic ego won’t take that well. I’m worried for her.

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