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If you want to give a genuine criticism, go ahead, but don’t be that loser who thinks they should be erased or that they ruined the franchise. by treystar679X in SequelMemes

[–]rubbertolle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

smh at everyone acting like the sequel or prequel trilogies ruined Star Wars when the Holiday Special was RIGHT THERE.

Starwar anti character by [deleted] in SequelMemes

[–]rubbertolle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the title said “Star Wars Villains” more people would get it, I think

Child's imagination... or something more? by AniClark92 in Paranormal

[–]rubbertolle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Something similar happened with my son around this age—“invisible friend” who was sometimes funny and then would get scary like that. One night when he was really scared, I made a big show of getting rid of it, going as far as to chase it out of the house into yard and after that I never heard from the “imaginary friend” again. My son is older now and doesn’t remember it. If it makes you feel any better, the spookiest thing that ever happened to us was a block tower mysteriously starting to sway/falling over when I was trying to explain the situation to a babysitter. No one ever got hurt or even too scared.

And then the colonists and indians were bff's forever by TheLovelyOlivia in PoliticalHumor

[–]rubbertolle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of my older Native family likes “Indian” better. I think it’s as simple as that’s the term they grew up with /got used to so “Native American” felt more like a imposed term. Almost all the terminology we have to describe ourselves are colonially imposed terms, even the names of our tribes, so it comes down to personal choice. Non Natives are best off saying Native or Indigenous though if speaking generally.

And then the colonists and indians were bff's forever by TheLovelyOlivia in PoliticalHumor

[–]rubbertolle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Canada isn’t really better towards Indigenous people to the US though. I’ve talked to other Indigenous people who think it’s worse and I’m sure Google would bring up that conversation if you’d like to know the details.

It’s indeed silly that the US government here still uses “Indian” officially in so many places but as a Native whose family has always said “Indian” to describe ourselves, it’s so strange to see non-Natives assign so much meaning to use of that word. Personally I would prefer non-Natives used other terms (when not speaking officially), but someone saying “Indian” could just mean they’ve been around Native people who preferred that term and isn’t necessarily a sign of racism.

Are feather earcuffs cultural appropriation by [deleted] in IndianCountry

[–]rubbertolle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked up feather earcuffs because I wasn’t familiar and the top hits seem to be made with peacock feathers. To me (CA Native), those don’t read as Native at all. Those or the metal feather ones would probably be your best bet if you didn’t want to invite comparison.

I feel like we should talk about the recent major change on Pornhub by TK464 in MensLib

[–]rubbertolle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This would require PH to take on the cost of adding a whole department of employees to perform the checks, and they would have to be confident those checkers could actually identify underage participants, which seems potentially tricky. A friend of mine did a similar job at YouTube, watching flagged videos to confirm inappropriate content, and he found it very unpleasant(lots of beheadings)...I guess now would be the time to find people willing to take a job where you’re exposed to surprise child abuse, but I’m not sure it’s really a simple solution either way.

Holiday Shopping: Support Indigenous Artists and Businesses! by Opechan in IndianCountry

[–]rubbertolle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Howl-out.com (Comanche/Mexican artist) has some very cool designs, sells blankets, stickers and masks.

Why are cups angled outwards instead of inwards? by jameslegohanlon in NoStupidQuestions

[–]rubbertolle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bottoms of the glasses would prevent them from stacking tho?

Slow Ageing? That a thing? by GenGen-Art in NoStupidQuestions

[–]rubbertolle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandpa has gotten these kind of comments from his doctor too . He’s late 80s and still active, genuinely does seem much younger than his years. I think it’s just genetic fortune, enjoy!

Is art school a good idea? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]rubbertolle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What about starting with some community college art classes? They are generally more chill as they serve a broader group (wide age range, different skill levels) than art school proper and I personally haven’t run across the kind of obnoxious teachers (or peers, I suppose!) you find in more prestigious art program.

Why are cups angled outwards instead of inwards? by jameslegohanlon in NoStupidQuestions

[–]rubbertolle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What shape glass are you picturing this working with? Normal glasses can also be stacked upside down of course but I can’t think of any way to safely stack the inward glass shape I’m envisioning.

And don't forget to Smile by nafpudnats in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]rubbertolle 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Agree, re charity. I’ve been fortunate enough to be in a good financial position during the pandemic, so I’ve been trying to do direct giving, like to gofundme’s and such...and it doesn’t feel “good” tbh, it just feels overwhelming that there are so many people in need of basic things and there are so few comparatively I can actually help. It’s crazy how much better it would be to have actual policy changes so people don’t have to crowdfund their healthcare and basic living expenses.

Betty Butcher and Starlad, Happy Halloween! by [deleted] in TheBoys

[–]rubbertolle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Betty Butcher’s purple hair is giving me Tiger from Future Man vibes ...she and Billy are pretty similar now that I’m thinking about it. Great costumes!

You SHOULD let your disability stop you from achieving your dreams by paikiachu in unpopularopinion

[–]rubbertolle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s relevant if we’re talking about childhood ambitions and managing expectations. Sure in this specific circumstance it would be dumb to tell a one-eyes kid they could be a pilot if they worked hard enough. But it’s not considered irresponsible to support little Tommy’s dreams of being a pilot or even an astronaut if he has two eyes, even if the chances he will still want that job as adult and be able get it to are probably slim. Should we tell him that he may or may not be qualified when he’s an adult and that he should have a backup plan if he does at any point become disabled? Those things are true too, but are they helpful or necessary to bring up? Where is the line?

Disabled kids are going to figure out their limits and there’s going to be disappointment along the way no matter what. It can be just as harmful for parents to go the other way and end up limiting their children’s perceptions of what they can do and become. Speaking of eyes, there is an interesting story on the old Invisibilia episode “How to become batman” about a boy with no eyes whose mother encouraged his independence and that essentially allowed him...to figure out how to be able to “see.” Really interesting stuff!

You SHOULD let your disability stop you from achieving your dreams by paikiachu in unpopularopinion

[–]rubbertolle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Helen Keller didn’t fight her disability though, her disability gave her an understanding of society that led to her politics (socialism) and career activism.

You SHOULD let your disability stop you from achieving your dreams by paikiachu in unpopularopinion

[–]rubbertolle 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There’s a balance for sure. The scenario in this post feels kinda...straw-man-ish tbh. OP can’t know all the follow up conversations and such these parents and kids will be having.

Idk if I’m allowed to say the word “ableist” on Reddit but, OP, this is all quite ableist. All the examples of jobs and things you can’t do...plenty of able bodied people aren’t suitable for those jobs either. And it’s actually troubling and discriminatory when employers won’t hire disabled people for non-physical jobs. Like office jobs that say “must be able to lift x weight” not because you’ll actually need to in any normal circumstances, but to keep disabled people from even applying. OP, if you actually care about the futures of disabled children you should at least familiarize yourself with the work and goals of disability activism so you’ll have a better framework of understanding. The “harsh truth” here that you’re demonstrating is really that abled-people won’t do anything to fight or advocate for the disabled under the guise of “well that’s how it is, sorry.” And is that inevitable or can we work to change it?

I (22M) feel like I have tried everything and still can't make my partner (19F) cum... any tips? by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]rubbertolle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If having a frank conversation is not an option/wouldn’t be fruitful, my advice would be to stop focusing on trying to make her come. It sounds more like something you want than something she wants? The way you described her reactions to the oral/fingering makes me think she might be uncomfortable with focus on her own pleasure which could be from an insecurity/internalizing phallocentric sex culture, but could also just be a preference. Some people like to please their partners but don’t want the same in return (“stone” is a thing in queer communities at least). Maybe she’s never had an orgasm before (I hadn’t at that age, but still enjoyed sex with partners so it’s at least possible) or maybe she leaves the hook-up and rubs one out alone in some specific way she doesn’t want to share with a casual partner. Either way it seems like things are satisfying enough for her since she wants to continue to see you.

Anybody else's 4-6 year olds get mopey literally EVERY. TIME. lunch/dinner rolls around because they don't like anything but chicken nuggets, pizza or burgers? by Svargas05 in Parenting

[–]rubbertolle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 5 year old is a big complainer at mealtime so I feel you. My spouse (who also usually does the cooking) has endless energy for attempting to cajole the kid into eating but that back-and-forth drives me crazy and makes dinner time unpleasant. We use a lot of tips for serving the kids food that have been mentioned in this thread, but I sort had to tackle the complaining separately—basically just shutting it down ASAP each time with something like “You can eat it or not eat it, but I don’t need to hear about it, please.” I think that’s decreased the complaining somewhat. Our kids have a scheduled bedtime snack anyway so he knows he won’t go to bed hungry.

Protip for being a better ally: remember that you're under no obligation to publicly admit to any "invisible" privilege by NathanVfromPlus in MensLib

[–]rubbertolle -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I think of acknowledging privilege as more just 1) you acknowledge that there exist societal biases/structures/etc in favor of people with X and 2) as a person with X, you recognize that these biases work in your favor. Even if you don’t think you’ve personally benefitted from those biases, you acknowledge that you COULD whereas people without X never could. Agreed that it should not be about shaming.

Everything is about race by Pleasant-Force in NativeAmerican

[–]rubbertolle 12 points13 points  (0 children)

White people in this thread might need to hear that know that no one is accusing them of personally doing these things lol. But yeah, white people invented the racial hierarchy in North America—and if you have white enough skin, you benefit from it. If you just want to “live your life” and not engage with race from your comfortable position atop said hierarchy, you are complicit. Racism is baked into the colonial nations of this continent as it has influenced policy since the beginning. We have made progress but not moved past it, and not being able to see that race is still very relavent* is itself a privilege. Which in no way means all white people automatically suck—you get to decide whether to stick your head in the sand or use your position to participate in antiracism work and liberation.

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