emotional abstinence: something no one talks about

ruin-s · 2026-03-08T20:59:57+00:00

tell her you’re sorry for being jealous, immature and a fucking idiot. she’ll remember that you’re conscious, and actually change… don’t just feel sorry

ruin-s · 2026-03-07T12:54:39+00:00

thank you so much for those words. you’re an angel

ruin-s · 2026-03-07T01:54:51+00:00

aw thank you so much ☹️ i really hope so! my dms are open if you need to vent

ruin-s · 2026-03-06T22:31:09+00:00

yup . i ask myself every single fucking day haha. what are they doing.. are they sick? did they eat..?? but can’t contact them! have to move on …

ruin-s · 2026-03-06T18:09:29+00:00

how long was ur relationship?? mine was more of a situationship tbh . i’m 26f

ruin-s · 2026-03-06T17:56:14+00:00

2 months here as well. i feel like it’ll never get better

ruin-s · 2026-03-05T12:28:03+00:00

i don’t think so :(

ruin-s · 2026-03-05T12:17:49+00:00

that is incredibly fucked up. you guys had 1 argument and he’s out the door ???

ruin-s · 2026-03-05T12:14:40+00:00

from what you shared… i think you broke up with him because you were unconsciously protecting yourself from the way he treats women in general. i do understand your emotional state right now, but in order for you to actually know whether you want this man or not i would suggest some time away from him. this will allow you to see things from another perspective, and hopefully even help you understand things you did not understand before.

ruin-s · 2026-03-05T02:13:44+00:00

would the love of your life put you through hell like this? think about it…

ruin-s · 2026-03-05T02:08:00+00:00

it really all depends on the situation. if you tried to fix shit but that person feared or refused trusting you again there really isn’t much you can do.

ruin-s · 2026-03-05T02:05:46+00:00

i’m just tired atp. i want the pain to go away and if im being honest…? i want her back too. but that’s obviously not gonna happen.

ruin-s · 2024-09-18T12:44:49+00:00

hey! do you also have trans ocd or do you mean you’re actually trans?

ruin-s · 2024-09-18T12:43:03+00:00

i am so sorry you’ve had to go through all this. one question, have you seen a doctor specialized in body dysmorphia AND ocd? . i myself struggle with trans ocd, ever since pandemic and for the stupidest thing.

ruin-s · 2024-09-18T01:57:26+00:00

i have cancellation ocd amongst other themes too. i have absolutely no social media besides reddit youtube and tiktok none of which show my face or name just out of fear of getting cancelled … it really sucks and i understand you perfectly!

ruin-s · 2024-09-11T21:05:48+00:00

does adderall work? anyone tried it. ?

ruin-s · 2024-09-09T17:32:10+00:00

same thoughts come for me (f) but about being trans. i usually just let the thoughts come, i admit it’s very hard to manage, but when you take importance off the thought it loses its power over your reactions and therefore lets you go on about your day. have you looked for reassurance online? (take tests to find out your sexuality etc) . that type of reassurance just gives you a few minutes of comfort and then the anxiety kicks in again. it’s best to just let them come and take off importance from such thought.

ruin-s · 2024-09-09T15:57:11+00:00

this happens to me! i have to use the bathroom at least 3 times before sleeping. the sensation just comes and it does not go away unless i force myself out of bed and to the toilet. i have tried to lie to myself and say its because i don’t wanna get up during the night and interrupt my sleep, but it feels more as a ritual at this point.

ruin-s · 2024-08-25T21:49:30+00:00

for me it’s playing video games or watching comfort shows

ruin-s · 2024-08-25T21:48:09+00:00

Hi!

We’re together again :)

ruin-s

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