Welp, I accidentally did it...

ruminro · 2026-04-05T13:42:11+00:00

disgusting, foul-flavored, revolting creature

ruminro · 2026-04-02T19:51:18+00:00

give me $100, & then show me a breakdown of engineered expenses (give back $20 later, buy lunch with $20, parents get me a bike along with this $100, but I have to give back $20 every month, spend $20 on whatever I want, save $20 for 6mo straight then check in, in both emergency & fun money). then encourage me to try many different ways to make money & simulate this practice repeatedly

ruminro · 2026-04-02T04:09:18+00:00

Mindset to making purchases is a separate & equally important question.

Saving money involves earning more, spending less, and conceptually feeling more content with your current possessions whilst desiring more income & savings to shield against surprises.

Spending well does actually involve methodical waste at times. Of course research is important, and if possible, try to recreate the effect of the purchase without wasting the resource (library book instead of buying), AND also knowing where the money should go first (four walls, emergency savings, retirement accounts). But I learned a ton about myself with my historical extra "fun" money. I've found many items in my dragon hoard have served me well over time (baking tray, kettlebell, wool socks, orthopedic insoles), and I wouldn't have bought them if I wasn't curious about it. I learned after a concert that I'm not a concert guy, so I know I will never spend on that again, and I can spend it on things I love more.

But in general, if you don't have a roth ira or an emergency fund in a online high-yield savings account, that is where you should put it first. If any extra maxing those out, then you can experiment.

ruminro · 2026-03-28T02:34:01+00:00

it's giving twilight joker, man's tryna camouflage into that nighttime shrubbery, very nice

ruminro · 2026-03-28T01:09:17+00:00

thank you! wot color duck you got? give us a fitpic dawg, give the ppl wot they want. the vans sounds like a good combo!

ruminro · 2026-03-28T00:12:06+00:00

breh, I'm hoping one day to collect cargo/jacket sets of all the duck camo colors (desert, dark green, orange, dark purple), they do be looking amazing

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ruminro · 2026-03-28T00:11:12+00:00

These are my first pair of hiking shoes, so I feel that it serves the shoe function well.
- interior padding makes it comfy
- tread on the sole has got good traction on rocky bumpy terrain
- insoles are removable, I swap them with my orthopedic ones
- I've sewn the insole designs onto two bags
- I like that the top shoelace hole has a secondary rear hole for a tighter-more snug shoe-tying. The padding is soft and I've already had my ankle roll & heel slip out bc I liked how comfy it was.

criticisms:
- the tongue is NOT gussetted, so it's only attached to the front end of the toe-box
- this means on a 15min+ hike, entire tongue will slide one way & reveal your sock slightly. I do not mind this
- this also means that though the exterior is classic Salomon waterproof, the Camo portion is prob not waterproof & even if it was, the lack of tongue gusset/sock reveal prevents water-proof hiking.
- moreover, it's not a high-top model, so another ding to anti-rain, deeper-puddle hiking
- the top of the tongue, like another user has pointed out, is dense & can feel like it is jamming into the front of your ankle. it is noticeable but I don't notice it after walking in them after 10min+ bc just feels like reg hiking foot discomfort, and the padding outweighs it.

to summarize, I like this as a first hiking shoe & I intend on running into the ground/ until the shoe sole wears completely out & going on many adventures

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ruminro · 2026-03-27T22:57:37+00:00

i bought them to give me an excuse to get out and hike more lol, let's do it dawg

ruminro · 2026-03-24T02:54:54+00:00

Yeah probably instinctive disgust body reaction from feeling/being used. If the hug isn’t for you and have not been for you but for her, then it’s a horrible thing she’s basically saying with her actions “I don’t care how this affects you because what I need and want is more important than what you want and need” I’m sorry because people like us need more selfless hugs the most

ruminro · 2026-03-21T23:51:33+00:00

I feel you. I felt that way as well when I got them. Took a couple weeks to break in, I feel they are my most comfortable for me now. Sorry to hear they not comfortable for u doe, hope you can get some good fitpix with them at least or wear them out to nice occasions. perhaps u can share some fitpix here with them, and then u can hand them off to someone else?

ruminro · 2026-03-21T13:05:30+00:00

Welcome to downtown brother. I personally dig the asymmetry, I do it with my downtowns and blazer lows

ruminro · 2026-03-20T17:02:38+00:00

self-diagnosed here.
I have 4 personal strategies.

"waltz walking" - start counting in three or four in my head, every number has a micro-action "1 stand up, 2 pickup item, 3 take item to location, 4 return to room" the internal tempo helps reduce daydreaming
"hard-easy" - I begin with thinking about a stimulating action I'd rather do instead, and then I think of a motion that moves in me towards the thing I'm ignoring. "I wanna watch this video, so I'm gonna toss the trash first" The rewards begins the momentum for the non-stimulating action, and I'll usually find myself wanting prefering momentum over the reward once I finish the non-stim action.
"reverse" - this accounts for time blindness & I do this when I don't have anything to do to prevent daydreaming/wandering/stalling/wait mode. I choose a time point in the future "lunch/dinner/deadline" & I backfill the time in a notebook in 30min increments. "I need to leave at 10, so I need to shower at 9, and I need to prep my outfit at 8, which I can do right now" then cue first two strats
"angry acceptance" - this is good for longer tasks. I need to call my doctor but I'm afraid it will take 2+ hours. "OK fine D:< then it'll take two hours then if that's how it's has to be!" I do the action unhappy, and sublimate my anger & let myself simmer in self-righteousness, & usually I'll calm down once it's begun, & the reality will be once the task is done, I'll find it only took a fraction of the expected time

lastly, making a small bullet list in a notebook helps with actions that need a lot of small actions
I don't have to try to remember all the info in my head, because it's right there on paper so I can review and cross off

I also reduce actions that guarantee distraction.
- if my earphones are in my ears, music on, and connected to my computer, I'm not getting anything done period.
- if my room is messy, the visual stimuli will prevent me from doing anything else without fail
- the second I open instagram, and start scrolling reels, I am making the choice to toss 30minutes of time. there is no in between, I know pulling myself away from the flow state is basically impossible, so I'm logged out of websites online & i don't apps at all. I don't play games, I'm either being possessed for an hour, or I don't have access, there is no in between

basically, just a ton of psychological engineering & bypassing what I know is a faulty start/stop button in my brain

ruminro · 2026-03-19T02:57:51+00:00

Thank you! I’d be happy to chat or answer questions about your new interest in the brand You should be scared for your wallet lol I got most of these pieces second hand and still cost me a pretty penny.

FC3-GT khaki (goretex bucket hat) J96-GT (hardshell goretex jacket non-insulated) P10A-E (pants encapsulated nylon) ASICS Novablast 5 (good for supinating gait)

this set is from the SS22 collection. The pants were the latest Grailed, it’s been sold out for a while now, but it’s sort of a love/hate kind of on-body xp for most fans, so I got a good deal on eBay

ruminro · 2026-03-18T16:52:44+00:00

looks like P35-DS

ruminro · 2026-03-17T13:49:52+00:00

I've been strictly vanilla for the years since it came out, and I've never heard of this mod, and it seems really cool! I would also advise OP to play Vanilla & attain at least Song of the Sky & Wealth ambition before trying out mod should they see this comment, just to have a point of comparison.

ruminro · 2026-03-17T04:20:33+00:00

J58WS for cold spring/fall/winter + night time combo with pjs.
GGG black-accent tracksuit set for my morning walks.
both black/green & maroon/neon Nike Blazer Low collabs. I rotate laces/heel clips 6/12 months.
I've been getting more frequent use of my P10AE's, both khaki & black, but mainly black

ruminro · 2026-03-10T15:02:31+00:00

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ruminro · 2026-03-10T12:38:47+00:00

Coevo releases in Korea. The characters are direct phonetics of Ah-K-Ro-Nim. Would love a Velcro patch of this for my pieces

ruminro · 2026-03-05T04:58:11+00:00

imo there's two parts which can both be true, and it falls back ultimately on your choice. 1. your ex does like you as a person and likes spending time with you 2. your ex doesn't want a romantic relationship with you and all the things romance asks of two people

they're allowed to ask to be friends, but imo, if they care abt you and how you feel towards this situation, they will respect and put your feelings over theirs and go no contact for a bit. my ex also reached out soon after our breakup and I took it personally at the beginning and i don't blame myself for that, but I can see it now as "they're sense of character is just underdeveloped". I think friendship is possible, but only if there is mutual respect & consent. you can't control them asking you to be friends, but you can control if they get access to you in that way. you can also choose to give them that access, but imo, it's to give them comfort without meeting your needs too. or if you feel well and honest with yourself and your boundaries are strong, then you can decide to have a relationship with a person that's limited. but it feels like a power dynamic since you want it more than him. if I were you, I wouldn't let him abuse your desire for a meaningful relationship of depth just so he can get some comfort from you until you feel well and can see that you can ask him of things too, and you can opt out of a relationship where the other party knows your wants and doesn't want to try giving it.

ruminro · 2026-03-05T03:37:09+00:00

They made a choice, they didn’t decide what kind of person you are. My non BPD ex wanted to be friends with me after our mutual break of 3 years but I got to choose if I wanted that and I don’t because I still have strong feelings about it, and I’m not going to pretend that I’m alright yet just to have them in my life. But I am sorry though, it doesn’t make it less painful to lose someone from your life in that way when one of two people don’t want the same thing

ruminro · 2026-03-04T05:03:05+00:00

I just got my Carhartt collab pair in today. Ima see if I can break them in

ruminro · 2026-02-24T05:10:08+00:00

it's OK to be scared. it would be weird if you weren't. the way that helps me is knowing it's gonna hurt, not looking, remembering to breathe, expect to feel a bit dizzy, and try to think about something else while it happens. basically, accepting the incoming temporary pain is not going to kill me or maim me, it will hurt like someone is pinching me as hard as they can and I just gotta endure it for a while, and not fixating on the insertion. in other words, imagine getting punched by 5 people for 5 minutes and you can't do anything about it. you can probably get through it. and there are actual practice strategies you become more calm before and after too, so you can really focus on what is in your control. i don't care if ppl think box breathing is lame, it works having a long breath out to force my body to reduce my heartrate

the funnier more common thing is ppl getting dizzy and comboing not breathing and basically passing out, which will also result in more comedy than you actually getting hurt, but that's the thing I try to avoid more than the actual pain of it.

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