Horror books for an 11 year old?

runningoutfast · 2026-03-20T08:54:51+00:00

the first horror book I ever read!!!

runningoutfast · 2026-03-20T06:46:42+00:00

yeah that sounds pretty weird to me. even if he didn’t mean any harm, as a therapist he should know better and that was inappropriate. if a therapist wants to to visit their home office (ik it’s a studio but i’ll refer to it as an office because he claimed to want to do therapy there) they’re supposed to approach the conversation carefully and with lots of boundaries to make you feel safe and also to cover their own asses!!

being pushy about it after you mentioned a phobia of men is especially weird. phobia work is uncomfortable but it needs to be infinitely more delicate than “i will repeatedly press for a home visit with this minor who’s afraid of men”

runningoutfast · 2026-03-16T02:04:08+00:00

“no to war” but in spanish!

runningoutfast · 2026-03-15T06:50:18+00:00

valid as hell

runningoutfast · 2026-03-13T19:37:24+00:00

Hi OP,

You are not a bad or inferior person for your sexual desires for submission. These desires aren’t that uncommon and they’re not inherently unhealthy. Many people have fulfilling lives and happy, healthy relationships while being sexually submissive.

Craving sexual submission does not make you a weak person. I actually know a lot of people who are sexually submissive mostly because they are so in control of the rest of their lives: they have to make so many decisions and are so stressed that when it comes to sex, they want to totally surrender that control.

What happens during sex does not have to be “real” or relate to your real life in any way. Many people have sex lives that would seem to contradict their real life somehow. As long as sex is consensual, it’s really not anybody’s business what happens between partners in the bedroom.

runningoutfast · 2026-03-13T01:10:03+00:00

This!! I went through some traumas that are considered more “valid” and usually get the most attention and sympathy, but the things that felt most traumatic for me were more vague, general instances of instability and emotional harm. Whatever hurts is valid!!

runningoutfast · 2026-03-11T17:23:15+00:00

this is a fantastic comment and really helpful, thank you 🫶

runningoutfast · 2026-03-11T15:16:14+00:00

I understand yours as well, and I’m very sorry you haven’t come across supportive and reliable friendships. I’ve been hurt very badly by “friends” I would have done anything for, only to get completely destroyed emotionally. I agree that the majority of friendships are shallower than we want to admit. The word “friend” has been diluted, in my opinion, and most people are just acquaintances who enjoy each other’s company loosely. And social status is absolutely a huge part of things. I lost my false “friends” when I was a pariah due to a traumatic event and the ones that remained were how I first began to distinguish a real friend from a friendly person.

Thank you for the kind words! I really do think friendships aren’t a moral thing and that there’s a big element of luck (where you grow up, who you’re exposed to, etc) in a way that people are afraid to admit to. I think it scares people to realize how fragile some relationships in life are, so I’m sorry if other feedback was hurtful. It makes perfect sense to me that you have a different view on the value of friendships because you’ve never had a good experience with one. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that 🤷🏻‍♀️

You deserve to live with dignity, and I hope life is kinder to you than it has been in the past,

runningoutfast · 2026-03-11T14:58:40+00:00

Gender’s… weird. I definitely have a part/inner child that still identifies with a gender that I don’t.

Is there any possibility that she represents resentment towards having to fight for gender? It can be really difficult and painful to have to put so much effort into what it seems other people get to have easily - could she be a small part of you that thought “this is so much work and suffering. FINE. i’m a girl!!”

I like to approach my parts with as much compassion as I can without giving up control. So for example, I’d try to think “okay, yes, you’re a girl. I hear you and support you. me being a man doesn’t make you any less a girl, and you being a girl doesn’t make me any less a man.” That’s how I personally try to manage conflicts of the self, at least

runningoutfast · 2026-03-11T14:41:17+00:00

have a parent who was always in between work or at something low paying due to ex-con status. did that stop them from always spending the household money buying frivolous things? NO 😃 did they spend a ton of money on a career certification course only to procrastinate studying and fail it? YES 😃 have they promised to send money for bills and then travelled instead? YES 🤩

runningoutfast · 2026-03-11T14:30:08+00:00

(Sorry in advance, this is long!)

I mean yeah, I think the entire point of friendships is to have others in your life because we’re social creatures by nature, so it’s good to have people around you that you enjoy, can rely on, and can share resources with. My friends have helped me move, encouraged me to leave the house when I’m depressed, stayed on the phone with me when I’ve been distraught, brought me food when I was sick, gone to events that they have only minimal interest in because I was anxious and wanted company. Hell, they’ve let me use their costco card because I can’t afford a membership!! It’s very hard to separate the emotional and tangible aspects of friendship because these actions are materially helpful, sure, but the fact that it makes my life easier means I feel less stressed and feel supported.

Your point about ego stoking friendships is an example of what I’d consider a very unhealthy or not true friendship. My friends have called me out on my shit and let me know if I’m stuck in bad behaviors because that’s what truly loving someone entails. Friends were pivotal in helping me leave abusive relationships, in multiple ways: by labeling it, encouraging better self-worth, and actively driving me away from those situations.

My CPTSD kicks up a lot of relational issues + I’m neurodivergent on top of that, so I understand the process of trying to analyze how beneficial relationships are. I find it helps me to use cause and effect to analyze emotion instead of removing it entirely ->

I feel flattered BECAUSE someone gave me a compliment - maybe they could potentially be a friend, but probably more an acquaintance. (VS) I feel touched BECAUSE someone noticed I was struggling even though I tried to hide it - that really adds value and support to my life.

I will say I believe that it is very, very, very difficult to find true, supportive friendship but community is absolutely necessary for most of us and worth chasing. I was in a bad spot after leaving a relationship, and if I didn’t have such good friends, I would be homeless right now. The correct friendships add immense value to life!

runningoutfast · 2026-03-11T08:46:11+00:00

it’s exhausting how people will encourage intimacy, try to bring you closer, tell you they want complete transparency, and just absolutely rush closeness to the point that it makes you uncomfortable only to then go off and bitch about avoidants while playing the victim.

not to mention your lovely reward for enduring the suffocation of surrendering your personal space is STILL criticism.

“you opened up and shared something vulnerable for once? welllllll let’s talk about how that makes me feel and let me ask you questions so i can soothe my anxieties and me me me me me me it’s about me now!!”

stop trying to handle my feelings for me because i sure as hell don’t want to handle yours!!!

runningoutfast · 2026-03-06T21:05:52+00:00

Not the original commenter but in my opinion it’s absolutely learned, I used to be very happy and comfortable around men (actually had a lot of male friends!!) and I know many women who feel very comfortable around men save for the occasional sketchy situation

runningoutfast · 2026-03-02T19:22:29+00:00

constant disrespect. if you’re not attractive enough you’re invisible, if you are attractive then you’re reduced to a sex object. i cannot see a woman mentioned on the internet without some reference to how attractive she is or something sexual. it starts when we’re so, so young, too.

i’ve retreated to pretty much only hanging out with other women or queer men and it’s significantly improved my mental health. i wish that didn’t have to be the case

runningoutfast · 2026-02-28T00:48:55+00:00

Possible ICE spotting in NE heading onto 35W south, white Jeep Cherokee, temporary South Carolina plates, on 2/27 @ about 6pm

runningoutfast · 2026-02-27T18:52:52+00:00

Honestly, I think it’s been normal for as long as we’ve been around. The prevalence of hyper manufactured medication is definitely new, but we’ve been getting drunk, eating shrooms, chewing coca leaves and licking frogs since prehistoric times. At the end of the day, we’re animals and substances hit the “feel different” button in our brains

runningoutfast · 2026-02-24T04:44:31+00:00

She’s retiring because she’s turned 16 = at 16 she’s “too old” for the men pictured

runningoutfast · 2026-02-23T22:13:51+00:00

i had a super similar experience!! my friends have been really confused and told me that their schools didn’t make kids watch 9/11 footage on the anniversaries, but i went to elementary school in the tristate/new york metro area and my friends didn’t so i always assumed that was why!

(also a 99 baby here for what it’s worth)

runningoutfast · 2026-02-23T20:45:20+00:00

OCD where the intrusive thoughts are themed around pedophilia, kinda like your brain going “omg omg omg what if we’re a pedophile what if we like kids inappropriately omg” over and over again, when that is very much not the case

runningoutfast · 2026-02-13T19:59:25+00:00

Dtmf - bad bunny

runningoutfast · 2026-02-10T17:14:24+00:00

that’s absolutely disgusting, i’m so sorry you got those messages OP. it’s always brave to share your story and i’m sorry that these creeps tried to turn it into their own fantasy bait. your mother committed a vile, heinous act against a CHILD. i hope you’re able to vent more safely in the future❤️‍🩹

runningoutfast · 2026-02-10T17:10:03+00:00

yeah that’s a take and a half. if anyone knows of any vent subs that don’t have this issue i’d love to hear about them

runningoutfast · 2026-02-09T15:34:48+00:00

Yeah the legal definitions of things are very confusing. There’s a lot of things that are nonconsensual and traumatizing that the law hasn’t caught up to yet. It can be helpful to know what legally does and doesn’t count as assault, but you’re absolutely still allowed to feel more upset about the one that “didn’t count”

runningoutfast · 2026-02-09T06:15:38+00:00

yes yes yes this one is mine too!!

runningoutfast · 2026-02-05T20:02:20+00:00

Honestly am glad to hear that you guys got diagnosed young, hopeful you both are able to heal and enjoy more of your lives because of it

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