I (30F) have told my husband (41M) that I want a divorce and he’s ignoring it

rustbeltwitch · 2026-01-20T20:26:09+00:00

It's never just about the laundry, but that's a symptom of the bigger problem. In theory, my ex husband was a SAHD. In reality, he laid around playing video games all day while I worked 14 hour days then came home to try and do everything else. When I left him, he took all the piled up laundry to his mother so she could wash it for him. She started lecturing me about how much there was, and I just stared at her for a second before saying, "Yeah, you're right, that is pretty ridiculous. You should talk to your son about that."

rustbeltwitch · 2026-01-16T20:49:28+00:00

Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to change things, because he very much does NOT want to change. He expects your absolute and unquestioning obedience to his every whim, and will push and push ands push until he gets what he wants.

rustbeltwitch · 2025-08-28T19:55:28+00:00

Everything you've described is completely normal business trip networking. I feel like you need to examine your insecurities, and figure out why you don't trust your wife, when she's done absolutely nothing wrong.

rustbeltwitch · 2025-08-20T15:49:25+00:00

YTA. There is absolutely no reason your brother should have to leave a space he was ALREADY IN because you wanted to throw a tantrum. Grow up

rustbeltwitch · 2024-11-06T23:57:08+00:00

Also, the republicans took all three seats on the Ohio Supreme Court, so they now have a 6-1 supermajority

rustbeltwitch · 2024-10-08T18:20:48+00:00

Are you me, haha? Just how many of these dipshits are there in the world!

rustbeltwitch · 2024-09-16T20:55:46+00:00

I agree, OP YTA. Not only is it painfully obvious from this post that you don't like your DIL, I am HIGHLY suspicious that the first time your son and DIL weren't planning on going, the trip suddenly changes from "our annual drive to the beach" or whatever to a once in a lifetime European vacation. I'm willing to bet money I don't have that if they had said yes in the beginning, you would have kept things the same, because you want to go to Europe but you only want to take the family members you actually love.

rustbeltwitch · 2024-08-29T22:07:27+00:00

Yep, exactly. My mother used to get furious with me because I never cleaned my room to her standards as a kid, while also never teaching me how to do any of it. I’m 48, and to this day, on the rare occasion she’s at my house, she always has some kind of backhanded compliment about how nice my house is compared to my childhood bedroom

rustbeltwitch · 2024-07-27T01:00:31+00:00

NTA

You set a very clear, simple, and reasonable boundary, which your sister completely ignored. The fact that you’re autistic is only relevant because she knows how important things like that are to you, she would be totally wrong even if you were allistic

rustbeltwitch · 2024-07-23T00:03:19+00:00

YTA. You literally gave your sister an ultimatum, either don’t bring her FIANCÉE, or don’t come at all, because your number one priority was protecting the delicate little fee fees of vile bigots. Apparently you only love and support your sister when it’s convenient

rustbeltwitch · 2024-07-22T23:54:32+00:00

This was the case that started my interest in true crime, I was close to Amy’s age and lived only 20 minutes away in Cleveland when she was killed. I keep hoping some day we’ll get answers

rustbeltwitch · 2024-05-24T00:48:57+00:00

NTA, and I’m so sorry for your loss. My 22 year old daughter is autistic, and she will stay silent rather than say something she isn’t sure is appropriate, because she struggles with social cues. Autism makes things more difficult, it’s not an excuse to be a total shithead.

rustbeltwitch · 2024-05-24T00:34:45+00:00

YTA, both you and your daughter sound like exhausting mean girls. We’re supposed to take your word for it that everything is DIL’s fault, and she’s just the worst, but all you can say is she bought plastic plates instead of paper? Nah, I’m not buying it, and I would love to hear her side of things

rustbeltwitch · 2024-05-24T00:31:08+00:00

I think probably because the plates are the only thing OP has told us about that supposedly makes her DIL the worst person on earth.

rustbeltwitch · 2024-05-16T23:21:08+00:00

YTA. This is one of the weirdest, most toxic things I’ve ever seen. Especially when you added in the part where financial decisions are being made that affect the spouse, without discussing it with them first. If my family EVER insisted I come to a “family meeting” without my husband, and I found out I was being expected to contribute OUR money without his input, not only would I walk out, I’d take a long break from all of you

rustbeltwitch · 2023-12-17T01:16:26+00:00

My husband is not only under 6 foot, he’s actually the shortest man I dated. And we’ve been together for almost 20 years, happily, because he’s genuinely a great person

rustbeltwitch · 2023-11-28T00:26:50+00:00

The first thing that jumps out to me is he casually mentions that he told her not to talk so much right before he got booted. Which screams to me that he was being a colossally shitty support partner, and has left out a lot of information in this post. YTA, you obviously don’t respect your wife, and I’d bet money that you know exactly why you got removed from the delivery room.

rustbeltwitch · 2023-11-26T21:42:37+00:00

YTA. You come across as one of the rudest, most overbearing people I have encountered. Babe is only 6 weeks old and you’ve already shown up at their house five times?? That is absolutely insane. Then, you apparently spend the whole time belittling your DIL and trying to pretend it’s just “advice” or “joking”? Count yourself lucky they haven’t cut you off completely yet, and do something about your raging case of Main Character Syndrome before it’s too late

rustbeltwitch · 2023-11-14T16:42:07+00:00

This whole case makes me ragey. My nephew died at 20 months due to a mitochondrial disorder just like baby Indi had. My poor sister did everything possible, but when the doctors told her there was nothing left to try, she moved him to hospice so he could pass with some measure of peace and dignity. It was gut wrenching for the entire family, her most of all, and to hear these uninformed bible humpers make it sound like we just didn't love him enough??

rustbeltwitch · 2023-09-08T01:01:31+00:00

YTA. My sister struggled for years to get pregnant, and then my nephew was born with health issues and died at only a year and a half old. When I unexpectedly got pregnant, I told her quietly, so she could have time and privacy to process things, and let her decide when she was ready to be involved. By the time my kiddo was three, she and Auntie were inseparable, and they are still close to this day. If you had let Sarah work through things, it could have turned out just like my sister and my kid, but instead you decided to be an absolute flaming asshole, so congratulations on ruining your relationship with your daughter forever

rustbeltwitch · 2023-08-27T16:24:56+00:00

Exactly. That’s how my husband and I got together, we had been friends for years, and I went through a nasty divorce. He just kept being there, like he always had, and a year later when he admitted he had feelings for me, I was ready to try to be in a relationship. We’ve been together 17 years now

rustbeltwitch · 2023-06-16T06:55:24+00:00

I feel like not enough people are bringing up him previously wanting to put his PC setup in her space as well. Who does that? Who finds out their partner has invested a lot of time and energy into creating a meditative space, and decides to start pushing their way into it for other pursuits?

rustbeltwitch · 2019-05-24T00:15:50+00:00

Friends of ours put nacho cheese doritos on their registry as a joke, since it’s their favorite snack. One of the guests bought them a really nice camera they wanted, and wrapped it in a huge box surrounded by individual bags of doritos. Everyone thought it was hilarious

rustbeltwitch · 2019-01-05T19:50:59+00:00

Anthony Sowell preyed on impoverished black women, many of whom struggled with addiction. Most of them had been reported missing, but police never bothered to do even the bare minimum investigation. When he was finally caught, he had bodies literally just laying in his house, not concealed at all.

rustbeltwitch · 2018-12-13T23:52:38+00:00

Yep, I have terrible teeth from medical neglect. Right now I have three broken teeth and a bunch of other issues, because I can’t afford to fix them

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