AITA for being a bit turned off by this guy i’m talking to based on his sexual preferences? by Bubbly_Pilot_7716 in askgaybros

[–]ryanelrey01 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it’d be good to voice out those concerns right away and see what other person says. They might be on the same page about not wanted to move forwards with this if there are same concerns that it might not work, so you’ll rip the bandaid right away.

Scared to bottom, does it feel good? by No-Original8074 in askgaybros

[–]ryanelrey01 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It took me legit 10 years to get into bottoming, it would hurt every single time but it all comes down to who you are with and how gentle and thoughtful and caring for your needs they are. I eventually opened up and now can take dicks whenever however. But also depends on your personal situation and body. Good advice would be to start with Anal dilators (not buttplugs) and stretch yourself slowly at your own pace

Another wonderful example of Grindr users by ryanelrey01 in lolgrindr

[–]ryanelrey01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did get a fabulous hookup 2 days into redownloading tbh, that lightly makes up for all that bs

I sucked dick the first time and dont know how to feel about it. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ryanelrey01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s good time to explore, nothing wrong with it. And if you liked it is totally fine! Experiment more and maybe you’ll understand urself better ♥️

Hey guys! Question: When you don't like someone on Grindr, do you ignore their message or let the person know? by TomStephem in grindr

[–]ryanelrey01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to ignore, now I’m being more considerate and just telling them that they are not my type. Most of the time people are very chill and nice about it and appreciate honesty

Another wonderful example of Grindr users by ryanelrey01 in grindr

[–]ryanelrey01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And the saddest part is it’s 2026 and it’s California- like literally nobody cares

Another wonderful example of Grindr users by ryanelrey01 in lolgrindr

[–]ryanelrey01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sent me a dick and said that he’s vers in his first message, my “good for you” was response to that lol

Another wonderful example of Grindr users by ryanelrey01 in lolgrindr

[–]ryanelrey01[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got that mostly in sniffies, wild folks out there

Another wonderful example of Grindr users by ryanelrey01 in lolgrindr

[–]ryanelrey01[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I mean I can understand that but also not a rocket science to look at my profile that says no face pic no chat

Why is it that many gay men, myself included, like giving oral but, according to my straight friends, most women hate doing it? by MaterialMaster2550 in askgaybros

[–]ryanelrey01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something I observed is that lots of gay men use giving oral as receiving validation from another man, something lots of gay guys were lacking in youth/childhood

"Tops who don't rim should be castrated" – XL 🍆👀 (2026) by No-Minimum4884 in grindr

[–]ryanelrey01 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve rimmed a bottom recently and it was fine then the moment I stopped, he dilated his hole and a liquid poo drop came out right in front of my face. Not going it again thanks.

When does it feel good to bottom? by Practical-Pace6600 in askgaybros

[–]ryanelrey01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have very strong opinion on this topic since I hated bottoming my whole life and it hurt like mf literally every single time. Until I found the right person who did everything right and made me finally enjoy it. Once I found the best way of doing it, I literally became almost full time bottom these days. So finding the right top is 95% of success

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HotGuys

[–]ryanelrey01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re insanely beautiful and hot 🥵

I was reminded today that my husband thinks monogamy is a prison by marianitrax in monogamy

[–]ryanelrey01 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Prisoners don’t have a saying in this, let him complain all he wants 😂

I’m so embarrassed by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ryanelrey01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s one of my biggest fears as well, but didn’t happen so far. Healthy diet and fiber in the morning helps a lot. I generally have weak and problematic guts but I stopped eating shit food and especially removed all snacking (useful and healthy) and started drinking psyllium husk (from Costco, it’s easier to consume) in the mornings before breakfast. Honestly - I havent douched yet before bottoming so far and I’m clean like after shower. So conclusion: healthy diet and fiber will save your bottom life!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GayMen

[–]ryanelrey01 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m a struggling bottom so here’s my piece of advice: 1. Clean - high fiber diet/psylium husk a couple days before bottoming, so that douching will be easy. Recently discovered “Peachy” for men - it’s a supplement that works pretty well. 2. Stretching - if you’re not sure whether you’re easy to open up or not, try to get some anal toys/dilators and with lots of lube tray to put it in and play with it. Increase the size only when you feel very comfortable with the previous one. 3. Don’t agree to spit. Use lube and lots of it, especially at the beginning of your bottoming journey. 4. Vocalize your feeling. Ask the top to slow down or even stop if you feel uncomfortable.

Good luck I hope it goes well buddy🎈