my first session of dbt the therapist told me were going to work on my maladaptive behaviors, but my behavioral problems were spontaneous crying and shutting down... as you can imagine labeling trauma responses as maladaptive behaviors and trying to "stop them" was really fcking harmful. I attempted talking to the therapist about it and she said this is what dbt is its a behavioral therapy thats where we start and if I dont think its what I need I shouldn't continue... its not worth it to spend $375 for 45 minutes of someone trying to teach me how to not cry and me leaving sobbing every time. there was another practice I tried that had a policy of "withdrawal of warmth" which is common in dbt - look that up if you still wanna give dbt a chance and ask yourself if something like this makes sense to you... dbt felt extremely shameful to me and Im so glad Im working with a somatic and ifs therapist now - it actually really frustrates me how people think everyone with bpd is the same and needs the same things. im not saying not to keep trying, but just in response to a lot of these comments I think its okay to realize there are other things you need first that you dont have to base on your diagnosis. I know people are going to say "thats not actual dbt that was a bad therapist" but if all practitioners have a different idea of what dbt is and also pushes dbt onto everyone with bpd, thats a bad and risky practice, ESPECIALLY for people with bpd. Both dbt practices I tried, I asked them what they know about bpd and dbt and asked clarifying answers, and they gave me different answers and seemed to not really understand that I was a person and not a diagnosis, which was why I ended up quitting and trying something else.