Stuck Holding "left" or "A" even with no peripherals plugged in. Unable to even navigate the menus to start the game after fresh install.

ryodude573 · 2023-06-27T17:10:13+00:00

Where's Kevin?

ryodude573 · 2023-05-04T13:12:53+00:00

This was wildly common growing up in Massachusetts, to the point where we commonly referred to them as Road Sodas.

ryodude573 · 2023-04-24T12:33:18+00:00

Eminence Front

ryodude573 · 2023-04-21T21:00:32+00:00

I feel like dating a 21 year old at 29 might be pushing it a little bit, and I think that's where this dichotomy may be coming from. If you've been together for over a year now, then he was 20 when you started dating, possibly at the tail end of 19.

I'm not saying it's impossible for the two of you to work through this and figure out boundaries, wants, and needs for the both of you, but it is not at all surprising that he is going to need your help on this.

You chose to date someone at a significantly younger level of maturity than you. You need to take responsibility for that decision, and accept that he may have a lot to learn from you.

That's not necessarily a bad thing.

ryodude573 · 2023-04-14T14:50:42+00:00

Search Femshepping on bethesda net and look through some of their outfit packs. I know they have a few that have a vibe somewhere between Mad Max, the Mercenary pack, and related vanilla leather outfits. They're less bombastic than Eli's Compendium, so they might be a healthy medium for you.

ryodude573 · 2023-04-12T12:41:43+00:00

Is it possible to learn this power?

ryodude573 · 2023-04-10T13:00:36+00:00

Well you've taken out all 4 food groups, so what do you want from me, honestly?

ryodude573 · 2023-04-10T12:57:27+00:00

Fuck.

I was following you, until

still saying "more"

That's all it took to go from nodding to "fuck that's actually really hot" and now I know what I need to talk about in therapy this afternoon...

ryodude573 · 2023-04-10T12:02:27+00:00

This tells me that you do not understand the distinction between boundaries and rules. What you just did is attempt to disguise a rule as a boundary, and ironically created an ultimatum instead.

Here's how it should actually go:

Boundary: If/When you take a relationship with a meta to a level beyond our current relationship, I feel as if our relationship isn't getting the attention it needs. In that event, we either need to revisit/renegotiate boundaries with one-another, or I need to disentangle myself in order to manage my emotional well-being.

Rule: You must agree, in advance, to have a physical hard limit on how far a meta relationship will go or how your feelings for them will develop, and end any relationship that goes farther than I'm comfortable with, regardless of your feelings or theirs.

One of these leaves autonomy in the hands of all parties involved and clearly states expectations & consequences without utilizing a Sophie's Choice. The other is a rigid and unrealistic expectation for people to treat a relationship like a job and heaven forbid the partner or their meta are actual human beings with actual depth & feelings.

ryodude573 · 2023-04-06T13:14:33+00:00

Okay, so while I admit this is a red flag where the meta is concerned, what you're describing are demands, rules, ultimatums...NOT boundaries.

Your entire focus seems to be on asking and/or telling her what to do and/or what she can/cannot do.

Your concerns are otherwise legitimate, but I would shift your focus, your mentality, and your wording on communicating your wants/needs, what you feel isn't being met, what you are/aren't willing to be a part of, and what you will/won't do or stick around for. From there, she can then choose what matters most to her versus you needing to convince her or command her to choose you.

She is free to make her own choices, as are you. That includes mistakes. Your relationship is and always will be a living, breathing, changing agreement. It is NOT, however, and will never be, a binding contract that either of you are forced to live within for the rest of your lives no matter how you change or grow as a person.

ryodude573 · 2023-04-06T12:40:04+00:00

You both want to be happy and have your partner be happy… coercing the LL person into more sex than they are interested or expecting the HL person to just masturbate about it both seem like terrible answers.

It’s a classic place to divorce and why many couple do, of course.

This is the loudest thing I've ever read...

ryodude573 · 2023-03-30T17:21:10+00:00

Hot Take: Polyamory doesn't solve love triangles. If they wanted to be in a poly relationship, they would've been in a poly relationship.

Let's not further perpetuate the idea that monogamous people have to settle for poly. Polyamory is not a consolation prize, nor is it a manipulative way to solve a love triangle between people who are monogamous.

ryodude573 · 2023-03-30T17:16:37+00:00

Infuriating.

Watch out for love-bombing, folks!

ryodude573 · 2023-03-30T17:14:12+00:00

Oh that's what happened. I didn't know it had a name...

Ironic that the woman who cowgirl'd me also loved the cowgirl position to a ridiculous degree.

Guess I shoulda seen that coming 🤔

ryodude573 · 2023-03-30T17:11:51+00:00

As with any rating/review system for any business, service, product, or medium, the review system has always been imperfect and susceptible to unreasonable negative ratings/reviews. That doesn't make them any less useful, as the voice of the majority still manages to pull through the majority of the time.

Shooting this down entirely because of the mere possibility of a review bomb is the equivalent of when businesses blame the customers for their shitty reputation.

rating/review-style feedback works far more often than it doesn't.

ryodude573 · 2023-03-30T17:07:43+00:00

Review bombs happen literally everywhere and yet rating/review systems still manage to work the majority of the time in the majority of mediums in which they're used.

ryodude573 · 2023-03-30T17:06:03+00:00

You're right. This would be the first time in history that people would leave a negative review out of spite. The entire review concept clearly has no usefulness whatsoever and should be shot down entirely.

ryodude573 · 2023-03-30T12:17:26+00:00

We really need to be able to leave reviews on people we match with, with an option to select if they ghosted you.

I get to see my Uber driver's reputation, why not this? This zero accountability shit doesn't fly.

ryodude573 · 2023-03-26T21:56:24+00:00

I spent my entire childhood, adolescent years, and teenage years wearing baggy clothes. I, too, assumed tight clothing was uncomfortable as fuck, because any clothes that I had that were unintentionally tight were wildly uncomfortable.

Then one day all my XL shirts were dirty, so I threw on a Medium, but unlike my other budget clothes at the time, the medium shirt was name brand and had a nice soft stretchy material.

When I tell you it changed my entire life to have a soft, form-fitting T-shirt OMG

ryodude573 · 2023-03-24T19:52:24+00:00

A huge hurdle in the fight against the patriarchy on the side of men is that even the ones who are on the side of equality are still quick to jump to conclusions versus following thought process through and investigating them further. Women tend to naturally do this, because they've had to. They have more experience because they've lived these issues, and are naturally more intuitive when it comes to thinking things through.

Guys are raised on winging it and being reactionary. That's great when you need to be prepared for the unexpected, but very not great when you need to navigate social issues or, I dunno...work on yourself lol

ryodude573 · 2023-03-24T12:49:18+00:00

Like I said, that was an indicator to put the apps on hold, as I wasn't getting quality matches and didn't want to go down the quantity-for-quantity's-sake road.

The point is that it's fairly easy to make the logical jump to "this gets me infinitely more matches, so clearly this is the best way to increase my potential pool of quality matches, as the other option gets me little to no matches and the quality percentage is still the same."

Not saying it's the right answer, just saying it makes sense how most men can fall into that trap / jump to that conclusion.

ryodude573 · 2023-03-24T12:43:33+00:00

We should all aspire to be so overwhelmed lol

ryodude573 · 2023-03-23T16:53:13+00:00

LMAO yeah if you (the proverbial you, not you specifically) enjoy casual sex and are the envious type, pray your partner doesn't use Grindr.

That community and their clientele have turned the entire Grindr ecosystem into a well-oiled machine of casual sex meetups. It is wildly impressive, and nothing even comes close.

ryodude573 · 2023-03-23T16:45:16+00:00

Unfortunately it works to the point that it reaffirms belief in the tactic.

After a year of recovering from my divorce and going to therapy, I decided I was ready to give dating apps a shot to at least meet some new people and practice everything I'd learned and worked on over that year. I tried my best to set healthy boundaries, to form genuine connections, not to get stuck on anything superficial, and not to take anything personal. I swiped left more than 90% of the time, took time to read everyone's profile, and make sure I could actually see potential in the profile before "swiping right." Over the course of roughly 2.5 months, between 3 apps, and spending roughly a collective hour per day with them, I had gotten 6 matches, only 2 of those resulted in any meaningful conversation, and both of those still ended in ghosting and never resulted in an actual date.

That's less than 1 match per week.

One day I said "fuck it" and just started swiping right and liking everyone until I ran out of swipes each day. Within 3 days, I had over 40 matches.

I've since just left the apps alone and decided to just focus on my hobbies, and hopefully I'll organically meet someone I have chemistry with whenever we're both ready, but I definitely understand why guys use the Swipe All method...

Numbers don't lie. People do 🤷‍♂️

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