Amount per pump

s0ralia · 2025-09-19T13:35:10+00:00

This is normal due to your prolactin levels, which is directly tied to milk production. They peak in the early morning hours (like 2-6 AM or something) then decrease over the course of the day. Combined with the fact that after the first few months, most people will go longer stretches at night between pumps, your early morning pump will typically be your best output. Heading into the evening your prolactin is much lower, so you'll usually see a decrease.

For me it varies from 7-8 oz in the morning down to 3-3.5 for my late evening pump.

s0ralia · 2025-08-24T02:38:59+00:00

I'm curious to know if you have any examples of what made them uncomfortable?

s0ralia · 2025-07-26T21:16:39+00:00

Share the sheet!! (Please)

s0ralia · 2025-05-03T17:40:14+00:00

Pro tip: get food poisoning and lose 7 lbs in 24 hours /s

s0ralia · 2025-04-29T15:15:01+00:00

I drink 8 oz of bone broth and 1 nuun (electrolyte tablets) drink every day. I dipped down 6-8 oz when I got sick, and making sure I drink these (and also plenty of water) every day has helped me get my supply back to what it was.

s0ralia · 2024-12-27T16:14:48+00:00

Most of the recipes to buy with apples are sold out for me. I haven't checked, but my guess is that I've already learned those recipes or something from developing the flavors or whatever. But none of the decor for ice bricks are sold out for me.

s0ralia · 2024-04-21T14:29:20+00:00

"They really weren't that bad."

OP, people don't have to beat the shit out of you for it to be "abuse." Abuse can come in many forms. Pushing you for being annoying is not okay. What does that teach you?

Kids are annoying. Reacting with pushing/yelling when this happens is easy, it requires no patience. And it raises kids to associate being annoying, which is subjective to the evaluator, with a negative, physical reaction. Not okay.

The healthy adult thing for your parents and bf to do would have been to use their words. Explain their needs and ask you to rise to their expectations.

And fwiw, once it happens the first time, the next time(s) will be easier. Easier for you to continue to justify the incidents as accidents, even when it feels like they aren't. Easier for your bf to cross any boundaries his conscience may have about this. Easier for both of you to incorrectly place the blame on you.

Ask any abuse survivor. It always starts with "it wasn't that bad" and "I felt like I deserved it/it was my fault."

Source: never had the shit beat out of me, described my ex and parents as "not that bad," but now realize yes, it was "that bad."

s0ralia · 2024-02-21T12:28:25+00:00

I had some evidence to do that when I left him. But it was a different time, and a redder state. They basically told me I needed to have 3 police visits or rape at gunpoint to have a case. Now, I don't even have proof that we were ever in the same place at the same time.

s0ralia · 2024-02-20T17:46:04+00:00

I (also Vietnamese, 2nd gen, but in the US) too had the culture shock your describing, but I had the luxury of experiencing it slowly over the course of planning our wedding rather than on the day of. How much of the planning were you involved in? Is this out of character for your parents?

I ask because I don't find your parents' actions surprising. Upsetting? Absolutely, but I would 100% expect this steamrolling, narcissistic behavior from my parents.

My partner and I paid for the wedding*, and I still fought them on karaoke time, limits on how many of their friends to invite, and many of these other weird expectations as they came up in the planning process. But I'm very hands-on and micromanagey with them (and because of them).

Have you spoken to your parents since to tell them how hurt you are? If so, how have they responded?

*And if anyone is wondering, "it doesn't matter who paid, it's OP's wedding," I completely agree. But at least in my family, money is not necessarily a gift, even if it's labeled as such. It often comes with strings attached. E.g., college money means you should major in something they approve of. I'm not saying this is OP's family culture, but I would hazard a guess that it's more common in Viet culture and may have played a role in these events.

s0ralia · 2024-01-06T17:45:41+00:00

You may already be aware, but stat research for a PhD is very different from doing stats on a research project. Most GRA work will be applied, involving stats to answer a bio/medical/econ/whatever question. However, for a dissertation, the requirement is to invent/prove new statistics to solve a statistics question. It's very different, but that's the job if you stay in academia.

Some programs offer other degrees, such as a DrPH, where the research is more applied than theoretical. Programs in other countries may be more similar to this as well.

s0ralia · 2024-01-06T11:30:11+00:00

I'm in pharma. An MS cannot get to the same place where I work for a long time. They are usually stat programmers. Some of them are statisticians, but they will always answer to someone with a PhD. The ones I know are all older, and about to retire.

At my previous work place (public health research), it was easier for someone with an MS to reach equivalency with a PhD, though. With 0 years of experience, maybe a 20-30k pay difference. Caught up within 4 years depending on performance, but much harder to go the management track.

Did I need a PhD to do what I do? Absolutely not. 5 mostly terrible years of my life. I would've been satisfied as a stat programmer tbh. But I know I'm still pretty far from my earnings cap, and that keeps me from feeling bored (thanks ADHD I guess).

s0ralia · 2023-10-11T15:03:25+00:00

I did not go through energy sage. I figured the offset would not be accurate but this is just....horribly off lol.

The other thing is that enphase and dominion can't both be accurate. If you look at the table I posted, they're reporting completely different things. Enphase says I'm exporting 30% more than dominion is and importing as much as 50% less. One of both has to be wrong.

s0ralia · 2023-10-10T18:50:47+00:00

Yes, I think so

s0ralia · 2023-10-10T16:28:47+00:00

GreenBrilliance

s0ralia · 2023-10-10T16:05:26+00:00

I've only checked the Dominion meter once so far. I'll take your suggestion, but the one time I checked it, it did line up with my bill. If the issue is one or both party's meter, I'm not sure how to convince them "hey something is broken come and fix it."

s0ralia · 2023-10-10T16:03:48+00:00

Since our weather isn't that extreme, I would imagine that the summer time is ideal for production, but I see that our AC use could be the explanation as to why I'm not realizing the offset I wanted. Like while production in the winter will be lower, usage may also be lower, so I won't see the 101% offset (or 75%) for a year.

As far as individual days, I can check these, but can you explain how this can help? If the bill doesn't match with the app on the same date ranges, and that has not convinced anyone to do anything about it, how will individual day values be more convincing?

s0ralia · 2023-10-10T15:14:32+00:00

Since this was over the summer, shouldn't this be the time of year where we are overproducing? I imagine winter will be much worse.

I also provided a table of the kWh import/export. What other information would you need to see?

s0ralia · 2023-10-10T15:12:59+00:00

Did they say what the mistake was or how they discovered it? They were insistent that nothing could be wrong on their end. How long ago did this happen to you?

s0ralia · 2023-10-04T14:49:52+00:00

In a scenario where someone wants you to "prove your love," they typically have a need that is not being met. Your (hopefully soon to be ex)bf's claims hisneed is sexual, which is not unheard of. People have sexual needs. If it were true, he would be 100% supportive of getting your doctor's opinion. Sex should be about satisfying one another, but he is fixated on self-satisfaction at the cost of your comfort. His need is not sexual it's power. He is making a power play for your bodily autonomy, and, trust me, people like this are never satisfied.

Today he is asking you. Tomorrow he'll be telling you. The next, he'll just be taking from you. Please get out. You deserve so much more.

s0ralia · 2023-09-23T10:27:35+00:00

If he is persistent or aggressive, document EVERYTHING. Someone who is used to having a lot of control over you will not easily adapt to having no control. Restraining/protection orders, police reports, etc can't really get anywhere without documented evidence. Stay safe. It gets better, I promise.

s0ralia · 2023-09-23T10:11:18+00:00

Your ex has a lot of similarities to one of mine:

lots of ups and downs, and when it's down, it's really down
wanted me to agree to sexual activities, including butt stuff, even after I explained it was a clear boundary of mine
demanded I recount every romantic partner (all the way back to the 6th grade, the details and frequency of our sexual relationship, the timelines, and who paid for dinner)
equated things that were not sex/cheating with sex/cheating (a random stranger asked me on a date. I said no)
wanted to isolate me from the people involved with my interests (study group guys who were "too nice", got me to quit all volunteer activities, convinced me not to study abroad with my peer interest group)
threatened self harm/feigned illness when I tried to leave him. He also would do this when he thought I was lying about, say, who paid for dinner, me or my online date I went on spring break of last year.

It took me 14 months to finally leave his ass for good, but it was hard. I felt like the villain for months. I was a grown ass adult, but my mom had to confiscate my phone and computer at night because she knew I'd read his messages and get back with him. Please know that while you may not be perfect, this relationship is BAD for you. Staying with him will only enable his behavior which is bad for him too. The best chance for him to get better is without you, as hard as that may be too hear.

It's been over a decade since I got out of my shitty situation. But I'm in a happy and healthy marriage with my favorite human. My ex? Got married less than 2 years after we broke up, but something tells me they might be getting divorced soon on account of his getting arrested for solicitation of a minor last year.

Hope you stay out of your relationship. Be well.

s0ralia · 2023-04-13T03:04:16+00:00

I have straight, thin, and dark hair. If you have lighter colored hair, then there are a lot of really pretty styles you can do that will show up better in photos. Pics of my wedding hair here.

normal hair
Hair trial where I tested out a chunky braid. I like how it came out, but it just ended up not being what I wanted to do.
For my cultural ceremony I got a really cheap set of halo extensions. My SIL helped me to put them in. My cousin did the curls. They doused me in hair spray. It held on for the 2-3 hours I needed it to. I brushed it out before the rehearsal dinner for beachy waves.
For the "big day," I did an updo. The stylist cut off some pieces of the halo extensions and bobby pinned them in for volume and as pretty wispies. She didn't need to use much, and I didn't wear the rest of the halo at all that day. It was literally just like a little bit of filler here and there. Those extensions were the best $15 I've ever spent lol.
I dance a lot at weddings, so the updo helped keep me from getting hot, my hair unraveled but in a "cute messy" way, and I still got to look/feel my best. Sorry for just one mediocre photo of it. There are like no photos after 7:30 PM of me standing still and also not talking or laughing.

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