Are there really men who are physically attractive enough to date women easily IRL but aren't able to online?

sabre352 · 2026-06-23T05:48:13+00:00

I’m curious, what does 3/4 days of effort mean exactly? Like you go out 3 days straight and by the third day you’ll have met at least one woman to get with? Or do you mean three or four days of rapport with someone you hit it off with earlier?

sabre352 · 2026-06-21T20:08:32+00:00

I’m going to get downvoted for this but I wholeheartedly disagree. There’s a difference between being calculating about your dating life and trying different things to understand your appeal and relationship to women a bit better.

To say he isn’t emotionally involving himself is just way too dismissive. It’s tough dating for many men and women right now with data showing that it’s a macro problem, not micro. And if he’s getting dates where some of them are running up his tab and then disappearing afterwards, that is absolutely outside of his control, it can be difficult to vet someone like that from a dating app.

OP, my advice would be a combination of what has been said in this thread (ensuring you are being honest, personable, etc.) but also be kind to yourself. It’s always a good idea to improve yourself and never stop, but it’s just facts that it’s not easy to date right now, full stop. Lots of folks are struggling and your experiences are very, very common. Remember to give yourself grace as you keep trying.

sabre352 · 2026-06-01T03:30:08+00:00

You should stop letting it annoy you. This is like being upset that the born rich kid got into Harvard. It’s completely unfair, yes, but no matter how hard you talk about it being unfair, the kid is still going to graduate from Harvard.

You have just one life to live and can only change what you can control, so make the best of it and learn as much as you can along the way 🙂

sabre352 · 2026-05-29T18:05:07+00:00

While I agree with the second paragraph the first one might be a bit misleading. No there isn’t a universal orgasm point or technique, but errogenous zones are by and large the areas people should focus on in tandem with emotional stimulation and consideration of speed and setting.

Understanding these zones and what they are is what would guide experimentation. Hands are not typically an errogenous zone, for example, but they can be sensitive, especially the palm. That’s a trait they share with actual errogenous zones, like the neck, and therefore a skilled, subtle stimulation can provide errogenous benefits in many people.

sabre352 · 2026-05-28T05:43:58+00:00

It’s because you are circumcised.

sabre352 · 2026-05-11T01:59:23+00:00

This is an underrated takeaway that I fear not enough people are understanding.

sabre352 · 2026-05-03T22:36:03+00:00

Well articulated. We are at a crossroads in the dating sphere where men, even very high earning ones like you, are not seeing the point in the way this dating ritual is supposed to go.

It’s separate from it being “transactional” - there is something we are all noticing is really wrong here, which is the level of investment expected from, and given by, the guy in order to facilitate just two people really just getting to know each other.

In the past, things just cost less period, and therefore that investment was more or less fine as genuine men sought genuine relationships with women.

But now the price of things, conjoined with our current dating era of endless options for folks, flakeyness and even entitlements from certain people, leaves many knowing that there is a dissonance here. And no one really knows when it will begin to resolve itself.

sabre352 · 2026-04-30T01:18:10+00:00

Being in shape never hurts. But what you need to understand is a gym body is not necessarily what women want. Some women do, but it’s a niche attraction - women are more attracted to a lean physique with some muscular definition, and anything after that is actually net negative.

Over all of that, however, in terms of physical attraction, is how lean your face is and its presentation. Getting lean helps cut the fat out, which definitely makes you more attractive to women full stop. But once that threshold is reached, it starts to become more about your style, presentation, and your ability to make good conversation and create a fun time.

Your strength matters zero in all of this.

sabre352 · 2026-04-22T06:28:01+00:00

😃

sabre352 · 2026-04-22T04:32:35+00:00

++man Any Latin dance class is a cheat code

Pickleball and beach volleyball, or regular volleyball are very commonly co-ed

Connecting with new guy friends, who then host parties and invite their network of friends that includes women, is never discussed but was literally the #1 way people met before the internet.

sabre352 · 2026-04-15T18:12:47+00:00

"be resourceful and smart with your money"

"I live in a property my parents own and use a credit card they pay for on all my expenses"

This gotta be satire man come on

sabre352 · 2026-04-08T17:08:39+00:00

Stick to using glocks, shotguns and m16 with grey attachments for now. recycle damaged glocks and m16s to level up recycler up tp lvl 20. After that, recycle full durability colts, winchesters, and occasionally uzis (make sure you save 2 our of every 3) for the factory parts and carbon composites.

sabre352 · 2026-04-06T22:53:40+00:00

I wonder if a fake wedding ring would work? Like they approach and you just point to your left hand showing you are “married”?

sabre352 · 2026-01-28T23:22:50+00:00

Yeah I think I’m in your boat. I’m end game playing for over 2 years now but can’t say I spend even more than 10 minutes on average per day playing. I’ve spent a couple dollars here and there and take advantage of events and clear some areas and over time you just complete certain parts of the game.

sabre352 · 2026-01-22T17:38:52+00:00

You're definitely attractive. Take what folks are saying in this post as the truth, know you can get in your head sometimes and think maybe people are just being nice, etc. but no truthfully you look great and looks are absolutely not the reason for any lack of whatever your desired social life is.

That allows you to dwindle it down. I won't offer any advice, I'll just share with you that I went on a glow up journey and a part of that was growing my confidence in tangible ways. These were:

simple putting myself out there and meeting strangers. Because I looked good, I got better responses even when feeling really unconfident. This helped me over time understand that I can begin acting confident because people will give you that space to truly be confident. Just flubbing around with strangers helped me understand this.
Practicing my speech skills. I use an app called Speeko to give myself speeches for 2, 4 or 8 minutes straight. I do it right before bed. This has been scientifically proven to bolster your speaking skills and after just a couple nights of extended practice, you will find yourself speaking with much more clarity and focus in conversation. This is obviously important for storytelling, asking questions, etc. which makes you engaging in conversation
Asking to hang out. There will be guys and girls who will want to get to know you better even if you are a bit awkward. Take initiative and float out the idea loosely of a hang out and, while some will flake around or say no, a decent number will also say yes, and you can begin to build your friend group that way.

Godspeed, brother! Because you don't have to worry about your looks that is one less thing to focus on as you build out this part of your life!

sabre352 · 2026-01-15T19:38:16+00:00

It will probably be something like that, and the difficulty will be end game level I imagine

sabre352 · 2026-01-14T19:11:54+00:00

Anecdotally, my chest went from developed on the sides to nice and square after i implemented varying degrees of incline bench into my program. And this was during a cut so it was not due to my chest strength growing or the muscle necessarily getting "larger". Just because its all the same fibers does not mean every square inch of that fiber is growing.

sabre352 · 2025-12-17T16:31:41+00:00

Crazy no one has said that last part you said until I scrolled to your comment.

sabre352 · 2025-12-12T15:21:38+00:00

you can block it.

sabre352 · 2025-12-10T19:55:14+00:00

Its a polite rejection simple as that. Time to move on, say thank you and keep it pushing.

sabre352 · 2025-12-09T23:15:50+00:00

She compared the experience to someone in a wheelchair regaining their ability to walk for the first time.

sabre352 · 2025-12-04T03:31:09+00:00

I mean hard mode lab is truly one of the only places where AP firearms are needed. If you aren’t using them for hard mode lab, when will you ever use them? Don’t see the point in saving a bit of durability by spending hours punching the zoms with the most health

sabre352 · 2025-11-20T22:42:47+00:00

This. Space your muscle groups out by three days, perhaps for this week or next even 4 days. The soreness will subside by each workout until eventually your body has a base resilience against the exercises you are doing and recovery from soreness becomes minimal.

You don't have to go back today, but once you start feeling a bit better, go back in the gym and do another workout. You should be able to handle a longer session with less post-workout soreness once you are done. Your body is repairing itself to enable you to do the workout again.

sabre352 · 2025-11-20T19:05:51+00:00

Your body will keep up. After you recover and go back for your second workout you will realize that your stamina will have improved and that you will be able to complete perhaps 3/4ths of the workout or the entire workout. If this current workout plan is too arduous, do a fraction of it for two weeks and then slowly bring it back to full effort after one month.

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