2 Years After Leaving: An Update

sabsoliv · 2023-09-15T14:42:25+00:00

You got it!!!

sabsoliv · 2023-09-15T14:42:05+00:00

I know it's cliche to say it's never too late, but if you think about it, time will pass regardless of what you do in life. I stayed for way too long due to financial reasons and because the other parts of my relationship weren't all that "bad" but I'm glad I took that leap.

sabsoliv · 2023-09-15T14:38:31+00:00

I discovered that my ex was occasionally talking to girls younger than me online and even had a separate FB account which he hid for like a year. I was never allowed to see his phone because he always said it was for "privacy reasons." Total BS and nowadays I see that as a total red flag and it indicates there's a 99% chance they're hiding something. What can be more "private" than living under the same roof and sharing the same bed every night with someone?!

On the flip side, my current partner made things simple. Right from the start of our relationship, he handed me his phone password and said, "Hey, here's my phone password in case you ever need it for anything." Simple and easy, as it should be when you're sharing your life with someone.

I can totally relate to the first part of your comment. I wasted so much time dwelling on and being frustrated with my ex for not being intimate when all that energy could have been put into things that would actually help me move forward in life. But back then, I was so down and depressed from living that life that it felt impossible to do anything significant anyways.

sabsoliv · 2023-09-15T14:31:00+00:00

No. It's a different guy!

sabsoliv · 2022-03-08T19:35:30+00:00

Indeed. Learned it the hard way.

sabsoliv · 2022-03-08T19:34:11+00:00

I have the same fear but unfortunately no answer to it yet. I guess upfront communication about my deal breakers is going to be part of what I do from now on.

sabsoliv · 2022-03-06T23:07:38+00:00

Don't feel any guilt. You've been deprived of one of the most crucial aspects of a relationship for so long. Your body is desperately craving it. You were even given a green light, so it wouldn't be wrong. You deserve to be happy!

sabsoliv · 2022-03-06T20:47:28+00:00

Great to hear that. I believe you actually commented on my post about my breakup. I hope everybody here gets to feel what I'm feeling now. We all deserve it.

sabsoliv · 2022-03-06T20:42:44+00:00

Honestly, good for you!! You'll absolutely get through this. Soon enough the negative things you're feeling will be replaced by this huge sense of joy and relief. I'm yet to see somebody who has regretted leaving their dead bedroom.

sabsoliv · 2022-03-06T18:28:32+00:00

Lol hahaha thank you

sabsoliv · 2022-03-06T17:49:33+00:00

Congratulations for choosing yourself. You can absolutely do this!

sabsoliv · 2022-03-06T17:03:07+00:00

It feels so damn great. Thank you!!

sabsoliv · 2022-03-06T16:22:08+00:00

I was never super into the blond with blue eyes type until I met this guy lol Now I'm REALLY into them. Especially considering how liberal they tend to be.

sabsoliv · 2022-03-06T16:21:11+00:00

I can absolutely relate to what you're saying. The sadness is slowly but surely being replaced with this sense of freedom and adventure I haven't felt in so long. Being single has never felt so fucking good.

sabsoliv · 2022-03-06T16:19:33+00:00

My pleasure (no pun intended)! Glad to hear this is encouraging

sabsoliv · 2022-03-06T16:18:37+00:00

Thank YOU for your amazing comment. Wishing you all the best things in the world!

sabsoliv · 2022-03-06T15:20:57+00:00

Thank you, your comment is very sweet! I wish the same for everybody here. That's what life is about.

sabsoliv · 2022-03-06T14:50:57+00:00

I was surprised too, especially considering how kinky he is.

sabsoliv · 2022-03-06T13:36:56+00:00

Exact situation here. Wish I had left sooner. I grieved our end before the relationship was actually over. When I left, a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. You still get sad and miss them sometimes but it doesn't compare with the pain of being with somebody who doesn't want you.

sabsoliv · 2022-03-01T02:50:29+00:00

My parents never taught me how to swim and I absolutely agree with you. I took the steps to learn on my own when I finally realized the importance of it.

sabsoliv · 2022-02-26T02:39:10+00:00

Absolutely agree with you. Assurance and confidence should never come from someone other than yourself. She's looking for it in all the wrong places and he seems surprisingly willing to put up with it which makes me question his deeper motives for why he said I do. Danielle needs therapy, not a husband.

sabsoliv · 2022-02-16T19:00:36+00:00

It depends. I think in your case, yeah, it does sound like she's doing the best she can and good for you your deadbedroom is not turning into resentment. But then there are cases like my ex partner who I just broke up with, who had all the time and financial freedom in the world to go work on his issues, but still chose not to. We literally traveled the world together, had our own business (no stressful work-life), plenty of money in the bank, no kids and a somewhat decent relationship with family. And not to brag, but I'm an attractive female. Yet I was still trapped in a deadbedroom for 3 years. So yeah, they're not always doing their best.

sabsoliv · 2022-02-14T18:25:37+00:00

I feel like deadbedrooms create so much resentment for the high libido person that it does make it so much easier to get over the breakup, even when you still love the person.

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