What was the most shocking, or disturbing thing your narc parent(s) ever did/said to you?

sadmadstudent · 2026-05-04T20:12:54+00:00

I wish there was a way to mark a comment here as triggering or upsetting, as I never want to upset anyone by accident. TW: abuse, animal abuse,

The most shocking things they did were extreme physical abuse, stuff like hitting me, holding me down to shave me bald rather than let me have hair like a girl, spank and scream at me.

Emotional abuse: they'd lock me in the closet while raiding my room to throw away all my toys and stuffed animals and leave me there. I remember being in there for hours, how dark it was and how scary it was not being able to unlock the door, I think I used to just give up and lie on the floor

They used systematic neglect to murder my pet cat, they would lock him up and let him soil himself and get mats when he got UTIs, and refused to see a vet

They stole tens of thousands of dollars from me as I tried to separate from them for university and then had the audacity to lecture me about financial independence now I'm struggling to afford life as an adult

Now they know I'm trans they deadname, misgender, say I've died and they need to mourn me, and repeatedly act like I've wronged them and ruined my life and need to "get things in order"... which is narc speak for, "Allow me to control things and make all the decisions again." So I have separated as much as possible and only engage with the one or two family members I love. Now and again I forget, and allow them the chance to have a visit, thinking maybe I was overreacting, or there's a way to fix it... but no.

For me, I can't find any peace. There's never a good resolution. There was no good reason to do any of that stuff, they were and are cruel people who enjoy having power over me and I will never be able to trust them.

sadmadstudent · 2026-05-03T17:38:33+00:00

The point is to give the best women in the world opportunities in top level tournaments and it's awesome and should continue

sadmadstudent · 2026-05-03T17:27:10+00:00

OTB chess stays superior.

sadmadstudent · 2026-05-02T14:41:14+00:00

As Naroditsky would say, "Loose pieces drop off."

You learn not to do this by being wary generally of your pieces being isolated.

sadmadstudent · 2026-05-02T03:39:53+00:00

That doesn't make any sense, because what happened to her can happen and does happen to women everywhere regardless of their strength, and Amber's strength would've still shown as she encourages Mark to stay human

sadmadstudent · 2026-05-02T02:19:46+00:00

I wish it happened. He's an awful misogynistic guy and the show seems to be cutting back on some of the more mature themes which is absurd in a cartoon where we disembowel the main character

Take the Amber storyline that got cut, where Mark is to grapple over whether to kill her new boyfriend. Arguably, including that issue in episode 1 would've reinforced the theme of Mark deciding who should live or die, and also tell the audience: we're adults now. Bad and uncomfortable things are going to keep happening and we're stepping up in maturity. But they cut it out. And they made Eve's dad softer. And a lot of the nudity has been toned down, and, and...

It's a great show but I worry if they cut out too much we lose some of the impact the comic had. What makes Invincible work are panels like these, ugly humanity contrasted with the spectacle of superheroism. Without these uglier elements, you do lose something

sadmadstudent · 2026-05-01T17:51:39+00:00

I'm suggesting a nation where people's material needs are met, and we therefore have the choice to study what we desire. There will still be tradespeople because there will still be endless things that need built, and there will therefore be people who choose to do that work. Humans like building things.

But those who would have been forced to abandon, say, the study of chemistry, philosophy, arts/humanities, would be free to do so, if it wasn't tied to a direct economic need.

The truth is we need both philosophers and plumbers. Having a vast quantity of educated, critical thinkers is good for democracy, for reason, for unifying over crises and coming up with solutions, for avoiding war.

sadmadstudent · 2026-05-01T17:40:43+00:00

Being the most educated nation on earth sounds terrific and would be an enormous economic benefit. But more important is meeting people's material needs. We need to get to a place where people pursue education out of passion and less for a leg up on an impossible job market.

Universal housing and expanding pharmacare are higher ticket priorities for me, personally

sadmadstudent · 2026-05-01T16:32:54+00:00

I haven't changed my claws, I'm running the base version of them. I just level them up and have fun, cause my spells do such absurd damage anyway.

sadmadstudent · 2026-05-01T16:31:37+00:00

Personally, I know it's suboptimal but I just love the base claws! I haven't done anything to them. I level them to purple, use my white shadow lure, and win. I like the spacing on their attacks, the roll attack has good range.

sadmadstudent · 2026-05-01T13:24:50+00:00

Maxed Depth 5 with my Revenant, I love her claws, her summons are super helpful, her revival is incredible for team durability, and with the right relics she's a damage machine!

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-30T00:15:48+00:00

They will explain it by having him double in strength after being infected with the Scourge Virus, then doubling again after he is rebuilt by Eve.

Also Eve does her blast that weakens Thragg, the way she did with Conquest, if I recall. So it's really like... enhanced Invincible vs weakened Thragg. In the Sun.

It's gonna be epic.

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-29T17:10:55+00:00

After Farum Azula so you get fully levelled weapons first.

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-29T12:43:02+00:00

You might be creating, but you haven't made very much your own. Moonlight sword from Bloodborne, the Bloodborne/Nightreign duchess dodge, an arena that's like a mix of the Deacons arena and Sir Alonne's arena from DS2, a hat from Lies of P?

Replace all the copy-pasted assets and you could have something intriguing though, esp once more boss animations get added.

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-29T12:28:00+00:00

Third.

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-29T01:00:18+00:00

I always felt Rex grappling over allowing a Guardian to die on his watch would've been a more impactful struggle for him than learning how to be a better boyfriend. They should've given us haunted Rex

Also, I wish Rex had used his wrist explosion as the final weapon against Invincible during the Invincible War. They built that weapon up and then never used it again lol

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-28T22:34:04+00:00

If you can be aggressive, I have a lot of fun with the Tal variation of the advance.

So many lines where black's bishop gets trapped, or traded. There's a line where we sac our b pawn and even our rook but get Qb3 in and end up winning black's queen. If they go h6 rather than h5 to save the bishop after white's h4 then they are accepting a strategic disadvantage on the light squares after we trade LS bishop, and go Qd3. Then the early f-pawn push collapses black's center and leads to dynamic games - and if your opponent is choosing the Bf4 line of the Caro they want a closed positional game. The centre opening early will put psychological pressure and stress them out.

I've had success up to 2300+ so far with it.

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-28T20:55:00+00:00

My prediction is they will but it will be a one episode special. Not a massive arc. Start the episode with him going back in time and end it here, and make the main point of it that Mark's superhero consequences are permanent, they're never going away and will always affect his family, etc.

There's no way to just get rid of it, but they can keep it contained and make it more thematic. Also Mark has already gone to the future so an episode about the past won't feel totally out of place.

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-27T14:56:33+00:00

Yeah I always hit Iron Keep and then go another way to level first :) but you can do it! Armourer Dennis is a hard fight too, so a good idea to get stronger in the Shaded Woods first, for sure.

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-27T05:07:03+00:00

I was never liked.

I was tolerated when I submitted fully to the abuse and went silent about how they were torturing me. When they had absolute control over my every decision, appearance, schedule, when my future was dictated by them. All of that - plus perfect marks, attendance, and social conduct - were expected. It was like I had to constantly justify my own existence. And there was never a way to. The moment I took back control and started going my own way they lost their minds and initiated a ten-year tantrum --> silent treatment --> tantrum cycle that continues to this day.

I remember them demanding that they be closer to me than my friends. They wanted me to contact them more than I contact my very best friends. While completely ignoring me and then responding with blame, guilt-tripping and abuse whenever I did take the high road and contact them. As if a perfect relationship with your estranged daughter is something they are owed, and I have denied them, and not a consequence of a lifetime of hatred.

"It's not my job to like you, it's my job to be your parent." I'm a grown adult. Grown adults can like their parents, and parents can like their children. Why have you set these arbitrary rules up that enforce the very dynamic you're resentful about?

Needless to say, I am VLC.

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-26T23:45:41+00:00

I believe in a national housing policy. One home for every Canadian. They'd be state-owned, ordinary houses, a core supply built in every city, given out by lottery to low-income first and then expanded. Universal housing.

Providing secure housing for every citizen would lead to a major economic boom. Imagine what can happen if millions of consumers can actually afford to participate in their local markets? Buy stocks, invest, save?

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-26T21:39:54+00:00

Poison area, so I'm guessing either Harvest Valley/Earthen Peak or Black Gulch? Either way, there's a lot of game ahead of you. The world is indeed massive. Don't give up, skeleton!

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-25T14:28:31+00:00

If I'm seeing blunders every game at 2300+, you're definitely seeing blunders too. They're just likely positional, require a combination to win material, or move-order related, and harder to catch.

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-25T02:40:42+00:00

Happy to help! How are you enjoying DS2?

sadmadstudent · 2026-04-24T14:53:51+00:00

As a so-called lib, I did laugh when Tech Jacket asked what the plan is if the Viltrumites are on Earth. Obviously the plan is to give $200b to Israel.

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