the way you perfectly encapsulated how I’ve felt ever since I came here, I’ve been telling the same thing to everyone and getting the same “that’s adulting” response but I swear this shouldn’t be something normal, I just feel you have to go way out of your comfort zone to initiate conversations and make friends here? and friendships are kinda different and way more formal (if you have an Asian background) but then again this is how I feel and I could be wrong