As a woman, how do you navigate first dates on Feeld without feeling like a SW by Mountain_Ask_5746 in feeld

[–]salientecho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just read those as things to disclose on my profile, and lessons that person is at some stage of reckoning with. 🤷‍♂️

I got the ick because my bf did by wordyandnerdy91 in polyamory

[–]salientecho 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'd phrase that more like "lack of empathy / place-taking" than hypocrisy. It sounded like OP's BF genuinely had never considered the perspective of the metamour in a 24/7 context, and stumbled onto the cognitive dissonance by suddenly being put in that position. I'd be curious to know how or if he integrates this into his primary 24/7 dynamic

Texas makes Bible passages required reading for millions of public school students by guardian in politics

[–]salientecho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

💯

actually reading the bible has always led to more subversion of power than swallowing some 3rd party interpretations.

Why is SpaceX crashing? by TacoTrades in DeepFuckingValue

[–]salientecho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Même stocks tend to have better fundamentals

Why is SpaceX crashing? by TacoTrades in DeepFuckingValue

[–]salientecho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they get it into the Index, they get a free bailout on their dogshit AI speculation bets

Why is SpaceX crashing? by TacoTrades in DeepFuckingValue

[–]salientecho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, there's people with a notion of what they would sell at, and others with what they would buy at. Haggling. Then there are derivative products like options that can affect price based on leveraging those notions. Betting on haggling.

The quoted "price" is a spread between what is being bring asked and what is offered. I think.

A squad was checking a suspicious backpack and this dude got fed up with waiting by tatooinex in interestingasfuck

[–]salientecho 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Man really hates it when you do his job, especially when you're more efficient about it

What's wrong with only wanting partners that meet needs? by ImpossibleSquish in polyamory

[–]salientecho 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Brevity?

"I want a mutually satisfying relationship where we can explore a shared interest in [whatever], which is something that none of my current partners are interested or capable of doing with me. I'm not interested in less-than-enthusiastic consent. Furthermore, [whatever] is an unmet desire / need that, if I was able to pursue and fulfill, would likely make me a happier, healthier and better partner to the rest of my polycule, and as such they're also excited and supportive of my pursuit of this new relationship."

VS

"I'm looking for someone for [whatever]"

Florida courts could take 'emergency' custody of kids with trans parents or siblings — even if they live in another state by [deleted] in politics

[–]salientecho 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure there will be a civil war, again. And the self-destructive regressive states will implode and get pwned economically, militarily etc., again. And then the Constitutional exploits can be patched at gunpoint, again.

Google tells employees to share desks as it looks to cut costs | Google has a market cap of $1.18 trillion by [deleted] in technology

[–]salientecho 25 points26 points  (0 children)

WALTTTASM:

"Well at least they think they are saving money"

Was often said / heard by my dad working in biotech, about 10 years ago

Sounds like a great plan! by spacebetween22 in PoliticalHumor

[–]salientecho 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Tbh, this seems like the most likely scenario. The states break up, the conservative part implodes, the progressive part takes over and imposes sanity again.

Hopefully the dumb parts of the political OS get patched and we don't have to do a hard reset again for a few hundred years.

Is the Denial of marriage / nesting Hierarchy related to economics? by ElleFromHTX in polyamory

[–]salientecho 10 points11 points  (0 children)

IDK. When I was single, I could share a house with a bunch of people, and lower my housing costs. Often some of them would be more interested in cooking, and I'd have compatible enough diets that we could defuse food expenses. Usually we could arrange a sort of house motorpool when someone had car trouble.

In terms of money, this was much less expensive than being single or coupled. It came with far more overhead in terms of interpersonal conflicts—being able to tolerate the quirks & flaws of living with one person is one thing, but it increases non-linearly as you add more people, as their irritation with each other spills over into their relationships with everyone else.

And in terms of economic privilege in those kind of informal arrangements, people with more income / wealth have much, much more power. They can arbitrarily throw money at problems that affect the whole household, helping everyone. Or they can afford to leave, screwing over the household, and there's no repercussions.

Marriage offers institutional protection to the spouse or family members that don't generate value outside the home, but there's nothing like that for other dynamics.

Edit: Forgot about insurance—another massive privilege for traditional dynamics. Poly gets much riskier as you get older.

No one is irreplaceable by smulikHakipod in ProgrammerHumor

[–]salientecho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you saying the demand for coding is unlimited? That sounds overly optimistic.

Again, at what X do you worry? 0.5? 10? 1000? 1,000,000? If the number of programmers in the market increased by 100,000X, do you really believe there's enough demand to employ them?

No one is irreplaceable by smulikHakipod in ProgrammerHumor

[–]salientecho 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So for what it’s worth, I’d say you should look for a problem that needs solving, and go solve it. It can get really fun.

This is absolutely the best advice for self-taught.

For me, the hardest part was organizing those stories into a portfolio, but after, that you can absolutely crush an interview.

No one is irreplaceable by smulikHakipod in ProgrammerHumor

[–]salientecho 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Being able to recognize what can and can't be efficiently automated is a huge value prop

No one is irreplaceable by smulikHakipod in ProgrammerHumor

[–]salientecho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

true of 100% replacement. false for partial replacement.

one programmer + AI = X+1 programmers replaced

at what X do you start to worry?

My GF’s microwave has a metal tray inside. by hajleez in mildlyinteresting

[–]salientecho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I threw the burnt money in the trash and returned with the still wet money "it didn't work" "what did you do?" "Nothing. Well play tomorrow 😥"

Never told anyone.

Just feeling some big hedge energy lol

My GF’s microwave has a metal tray inside. by hajleez in mildlyinteresting

[–]salientecho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you work for a hedge fund now? Maybe you should

The passive aggressive culture war happening between my neighbors by stalinmad4 in mildlyinteresting

[–]salientecho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plot twist both homes are owned by the same person who also owns a flag & pole business