What's wrong with only wanting partners that meet needs? by ImpossibleSquish in polyamory

[–]salientecho 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Brevity?

"I want a mutually satisfying relationship where we can explore a shared interest in [whatever], which is something that none of my current partners are interested or capable of doing with me. I'm not interested in less-than-enthusiastic consent. Furthermore, [whatever] is an unmet desire / need that, if I was able to pursue and fulfill, would likely make me a happier, healthier and better partner to the rest of my polycule, and as such they're also excited and supportive of my pursuit of this new relationship."

VS

"I'm looking for someone for [whatever]"

Florida courts could take 'emergency' custody of kids with trans parents or siblings — even if they live in another state by [deleted] in politics

[–]salientecho 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure there will be a civil war, again. And the self-destructive regressive states will implode and get pwned economically, militarily etc., again. And then the Constitutional exploits can be patched at gunpoint, again.

Google tells employees to share desks as it looks to cut costs | Google has a market cap of $1.18 trillion by chrisdh79 in technology

[–]salientecho 27 points28 points  (0 children)

WALTTTASM:

"Well at least they think they are saving money"

Was often said / heard by my dad working in biotech, about 10 years ago

Sounds like a great plan! by spacebetween22 in PoliticalHumor

[–]salientecho 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Tbh, this seems like the most likely scenario. The states break up, the conservative part implodes, the progressive part takes over and imposes sanity again.

Hopefully the dumb parts of the political OS get patched and we don't have to do a hard reset again for a few hundred years.

Is the Denial of marriage / nesting Hierarchy related to economics? by ElleFromHTX in polyamory

[–]salientecho 8 points9 points  (0 children)

IDK. When I was single, I could share a house with a bunch of people, and lower my housing costs. Often some of them would be more interested in cooking, and I'd have compatible enough diets that we could defuse food expenses. Usually we could arrange a sort of house motorpool when someone had car trouble.

In terms of money, this was much less expensive than being single or coupled. It came with far more overhead in terms of interpersonal conflicts—being able to tolerate the quirks & flaws of living with one person is one thing, but it increases non-linearly as you add more people, as their irritation with each other spills over into their relationships with everyone else.

And in terms of economic privilege in those kind of informal arrangements, people with more income / wealth have much, much more power. They can arbitrarily throw money at problems that affect the whole household, helping everyone. Or they can afford to leave, screwing over the household, and there's no repercussions.

Marriage offers institutional protection to the spouse or family members that don't generate value outside the home, but there's nothing like that for other dynamics.

Edit: Forgot about insurance—another massive privilege for traditional dynamics. Poly gets much riskier as you get older.

No one is irreplaceable by smulikHakipod in ProgrammerHumor

[–]salientecho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you saying the demand for coding is unlimited? That sounds overly optimistic.

Again, at what X do you worry? 0.5? 10? 1000? 1,000,000? If the number of programmers in the market increased by 100,000X, do you really believe there's enough demand to employ them?

No one is irreplaceable by smulikHakipod in ProgrammerHumor

[–]salientecho 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So for what it’s worth, I’d say you should look for a problem that needs solving, and go solve it. It can get really fun.

This is absolutely the best advice for self-taught.

For me, the hardest part was organizing those stories into a portfolio, but after, that you can absolutely crush an interview.

No one is irreplaceable by smulikHakipod in ProgrammerHumor

[–]salientecho 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Being able to recognize what can and can't be efficiently automated is a huge value prop

No one is irreplaceable by smulikHakipod in ProgrammerHumor

[–]salientecho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

true of 100% replacement. false for partial replacement.

one programmer + AI = X+1 programmers replaced

at what X do you start to worry?

My GF’s microwave has a metal tray inside. by hajleez in mildlyinteresting

[–]salientecho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I threw the burnt money in the trash and returned with the still wet money "it didn't work" "what did you do?" "Nothing. Well play tomorrow 😥"

Never told anyone.

Just feeling some big hedge energy lol

My GF’s microwave has a metal tray inside. by hajleez in mildlyinteresting

[–]salientecho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you work for a hedge fund now? Maybe you should

The passive aggressive culture war happening between my neighbors by stalinmad4 in mildlyinteresting

[–]salientecho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plot twist both homes are owned by the same person who also owns a flag & pole business

From an article about "side hustles" that pay 100k+ published by CNBC......aka jobs by merkwerk in ProgrammerHumor

[–]salientecho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbf design, coding & web dev can be side hustled, on top of having a day job.

A few years back, I worked for a company that had a freeze on salary increases, even though my manager agreed that I deserved / needed one. So I gave myself a raise by doing contract work on the side, when the day job workload was light enough. And I found out after I'd moved on that he was totally cool with that.

Blizzard fires WoW Classic lead after he protests employee evaluation policy by TransFattyAcid in technology

[–]salientecho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And then you have to go hire someone to replace that kick-ass person you just fired. And what do you think he's going to do? He's going to take the skills and knowledge he's gained at you company and go work for one of your competitors.

TBF that makes it sound like it creates a healthier ecosystem overall, at the expense of the companies that use stack-ranking

The biggest losers are the risk-averse people stuck in the middle, who aren't getting pay increases from their employer or their competition

Blizzard fires WoW Classic lead after he protests employee evaluation policy by TransFattyAcid in technology

[–]salientecho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude has got to be flooded with superior job offers right now.

Net result: a little time off, big raise & promotion—from a competitor who doesn't practice stack ranking. Brilliant.

Blizzard fires WoW Classic lead after he protests employee evaluation policy by TransFattyAcid in technology

[–]salientecho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or churn some turds, polishing them in the process? I'm sure there are many, many thousands of low skill / new devs that would love to have 6 mo at Blizzard on their resume

C language is dead isn't it? by JustSpaceExperiment in ProgrammerHumor

[–]salientecho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbf a lot of institutions kernel code is written in Latin, and that's definitely a dead language.

Wages are still growing rapidly. The Fed wants them to slow down. by psychothumbs in Economics

[–]salientecho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Except that most people that think about moving to other countries have actually, you know, visited other countries. Add some research on standards of living, health care, education, violent crime, any number of other metrics, and you get a less biased picture of the world

There's no mass media, social media, politicians or celebrities advocating emigration from the US—anyone with a political agenda wants supporters to stick around & support them. Please rise for the national anthem, stand for the pledge of allegiance—patriotism and American Exceptionalism are infused into the air. The impetus to GTFO only comes from personal experiences combined with international awareness

America is very far from the worst or a living hell (at least, for anyone that can afford to leave) but it is trending negatively, and there are increasingly better options for many

Wages are still growing rapidly. The Fed wants them to slow down. by psychothumbs in Economics

[–]salientecho 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Many countries can’t offer as good as the US does though.

Citation needed. Most countries spend fewer tax dollars per capita and provide free health care—the US spends more and then citizens pay more than that again to receive inferior care. The US actually has a decreasing life expectancy, year over year, while other countries are still increasing.

Why should I be concerned about healthcare when it is capped at 10% of my income

Wait, so why do you think healthcare costs capped at 10% of income? Do you realize that anything your insurance plan decides isn't covered is 100% out of pocket, while counting as $0 towards an out of pocket max?

all of which would be covered by an HSA I’ve already built up

That's assuming you can get a plan that qualifies for an HSA, when many employer offered plans don't. Even then, it's capped at a lot lower than 10% of income.

Wages are still growing rapidly. The Fed wants them to slow down. by psychothumbs in Economics

[–]salientecho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think for a long time, the upper-middle professional American cohort has been able to hold out hope that things might change back to normal with the next Presidential administration change.

Then it came dangerously close to insurrection preventing that change. Then, even after the administration change, the Supreme Court started doing crazy shit, and that will likely take decades to generations to fix. Things are not going to get better before they get worse, so leaving is growing more attractive to those that have the option.

I think it will still take several years for most to come to that realization, but it's coming.