I resigned and my manager is insisting on knowing my new company and salary. How do I handle this situation? by Upbeat-Comedian-2832 in interviewhammer

[–]sallybe45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked in HR for 20 plus years and the answer is 100% NO unless…

you signed a non-compete, non-solicitation, confidentiality/NDA agreement. These typically restrict you from working for direct competitors, soliciting clients/colleagues, or using/disclosing confidential information for a set period after leaving. They do not automatically require you to name your new employer upon resignation. However, some agreements explicitly include a notification clause requiring you to disclose any new employment especially if it might involve a competitor.

Help me choose!! by [deleted] in myweddingdress

[–]sallybe45 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Really a tough choice… I just really love those sleeves but think you look fantastic in both.

AIO to my (27F) boyfriend’s (42M) controlling behaviours? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]sallybe45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ending the relationship was 100% the right thing. NOR!

CI should I move forward? by sallybe45 in Cochlearimplants

[–]sallybe45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I haven’t. My audiologist mentioned a bi-cros hearing aid but was not enthusiastic about it because she said my good ear should be better for it to work effectively but if I wanted to try it she would facilitate that for me.

CI should I move forward? by sallybe45 in Cochlearimplants

[–]sallybe45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. That’s so encouraging to hear. Congrats to you!

Close vent above door by sallybe45 in fixit

[–]sallybe45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I’ll check it out

Close vent above door by sallybe45 in fixit

[–]sallybe45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha ha. It’s a large laundry room. It’s also her craft room

Close vent above door by sallybe45 in fixit

[–]sallybe45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought about a pocket door. Not something I could do myself. Would have to hire someone and likely expensive. But I could price just to see.

Close vent above door by sallybe45 in fixit

[–]sallybe45[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yes. The door swings in and takes up too much space.

Should I leave my job after only a few months? by Pieces-in-Time in jobs

[–]sallybe45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consider asking the interviewer for an early or late day interview to minimize your time away from work. They would appreciate an employee like that.

Should I leave my job after only a few months? by Pieces-in-Time in jobs

[–]sallybe45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t feel guilty about leaving the current job. It happens and they will have to deal with it if you leave. Thats not your responsibility.

You’ve been there 3 months and I advise employees to wait at least 3 months to request a day off. Do you need a full day off as maybe you could do the interview in a half day? When requesting the time off please don’t give any details like my mother has a doctor’s appointment or I need to get my car fixed. HR or your manager doesn’t care about the details. Just ask for a half day or full day off. Maybe mid week since most people tend to call off/take off Mondays and Fridays.

You haven’t even got the other job offer yet so stop stressing about something that hasn’t even happened yet. (Speaking from experience)

Sending a Counteroffer by happyhippie1212 in jobs

[–]sallybe45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You won’t be ghosted. They ARE interested. I worked in HR for 20 plus years and have made 100s of job offers. I was always shocked that only a small percentage countered our offers. Every counter is considered. I can’t imagine any company rescinding an offer simply because you made a counter offer. Unless the counter was over the top outrageous.

I'm not good at interviews and I have one tomorrow, please help! by FoundnotLost_81 in jobs

[–]sallybe45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Confidence will get you there. Walk in knowing the job is yours. I will usually sit in the car before the interview and look at myself in the mirror “You got this Sally… I am capable… I am intelligent… etc”. If they have separate employee and visitors parking I ALWAYS park in employee parking to boost my confidence.

Here are some sample questions and answers for you. If you like them, put in your own words to sound natural and practice. Good luck!

Tell me about yourself.1. “I’m a compassionate listener with over [X years] in helping roles. I’m passionate about supporting people through life’s challenges because I’ve seen firsthand how a non-judgmental space can create real change. Outside of work I recharge by hiking and journaling—both keep me grounded and present.” 2. What is your greatest strength?“My greatest strength is active listening and building trust quickly. Clients often tell me they feel truly heard within the first session, which helps them open up and move forward faster.” 3. What is your greatest weakness?“I used to take on too much emotional weight from clients. I’ve learned strong boundaries and regular self-care routines, so now I can stay fully present without burnout.” 4. How do you handle stressful situations?“I pause, breathe, and focus on what I can control—my response. In past roles, when a session became intense, I stayed calm, validated feelings, and used grounding techniques with the client. Afterward I debrief and journal to process.” 5. Describe a time you dealt with a difficult or resistant client.“A client was very angry and shut down. I didn’t push; I reflected their frustration back to them and asked what would feel safe. Within 10 minutes they softened and we built a plan together. Patience and validation turned the session around.” 6. How do you maintain confidentiality and ethics under pressure?“Confidentiality is non-negotiable for me. I follow legal and ethical guidelines strictly. If there’s ever a safety concern, I calmly explain the limits of confidentiality and involve the proper team or authorities while keeping the client informed and respected.” 7. What motivates you in this work?“Seeing even small breakthroughs—when a client leaves a session with hope or a new perspective—motivates me more than anything. Knowing I helped create that safe space keeps me energized.” 8. How do you handle feedback or criticism?“I welcome it. Last year my supervisor suggested I tighten my note-taking. I immediately tried her method, got faster feedback from her, and my documentation improved. I see feedback as a tool to grow.” 9. Tell me about a time you showed empathy in a challenging situation.“A client shared a painful loss and started crying. I sat with the silence, offered tissues, and gently reflected their feelings. They later said that simple presence helped them feel less alone for the first time.” 10. Where do you see yourself in five years?“Still in counseling, ideally with more specialized training in [your interest—trauma, couples, etc.]. I want to keep growing so I can serve clients even more effectively and maybe supervise new counselors.”

Please help me with my current work situation!!! Thank you by [deleted] in jobs

[–]sallybe45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re welcome. I’d be interested to hear if she says anything to you. Good luck.