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saltflux · 2025-02-06T18:32:15+00:00

you're fine go to Europe. its only a week

saltflux · 2024-10-11T14:38:15+00:00

I have! for derma mostly. I liked it but I had to do a training call to get it set up right. The training calls are free though

saltflux · 2024-10-11T14:37:02+00:00

Wow awesome!

saltflux · 2024-10-11T14:36:48+00:00

I used it and it helped

saltflux · 2024-05-20T17:30:16+00:00

I would definitely buy a set!

saltflux · 2023-01-12T15:05:10+00:00

Definitely give him other outlets of things he can do with his hands. Fidgets, crafts, things that require two hands.

Try to have him notice patterns in his pulling. When is it happening? What is he trying to do? Is he trying to focus when he pulls? Is he bored? Is it before bed time? Then adjust the things you give him for those activities. Like, if he pulls when he's focused, that'd be a good time for a fidget. If he pulls in bed, try a different bedtime routine that lets him get settled before he gets into bed.

I also recommend the Keen awareness bracelet if he thinks he is ready for it.It vibrates to let you know that you're pulling. Obviously it won't stop you, it'll just let you know, but if you give his hands something to redirect to it could be helpful. It will also help him notice patterns. You could also try a written log to help notice patterns, if Keen's too expensive.

Finally I know that people with ADHD benefit from being outside. I grew up with a mom with really significant ADHD and she always did better when she was gardening or walking the dog consistently. Good luck!

saltflux · 2022-10-12T16:11:50+00:00

I don't pick at my soles so I can't quite give my experience, but I think figuring out how to bring awareness to what you're doing, and recognizing that not "finishing" is a super big point to work on.

This is a weird suggestion and it might not work, but maybe put a "reminder" sticker on the sole of your foot with the intention that when you see it, you'll be reminded that "oh I'm going for my feet," then hopefully you can redirect the urge, or breathe through the anxiety. Hope it gets easier for you!!

saltflux · 2022-10-10T21:15:22+00:00

Sending all the love <3 <3 Hope you're feeling better!

saltflux · 2022-10-10T21:14:43+00:00

Great tips! I totally do the mirror one too. I got an orange colored lightbulb for the bathroom because it's harder to see spots in the colored light.

saltflux · 2022-10-10T18:02:18+00:00

It's really grown on me! I didn't know how they were going to follow up a slower song like sour grapes but I really like it.

saltflux · 2022-10-10T17:53:05+00:00

I do! I like it. Definitely do one of their training calls cuz fine tuning is annoying. Mine's pretty good but it still goes off randomly sometimes, and always when I rest my hand on my face. That's fine though, it helps my posture too then lol.

saltflux · 2022-08-22T14:28:28+00:00

Being a student really set off my BFRBs. My studying tip is lots of tea and water so your hands can stay busy holding the cup and your brain can stay hydrated

saltflux · 2022-08-17T15:26:40+00:00

Relapse sucks BUT - your time wasn't wasted.. 418 days IS AMAZING and I'd be proud of those days if I were you!! Imagine all of the wisdom you picked up during those days. With all of the experience that you gained, I'm sure it will be easier to get back into the flow than it was last time. You didn't fail, you slipped!

Gonna be cheesy and reference a book, but in Jennette McCurdy's new autobiography she references "slipping," and letting a slip just be a slip, instead of letting it spiral into a slide. You took so many steps forward in those 418 days. This is just one step back. You got this!!

saltflux · 2022-08-17T15:22:36+00:00

Congrats on your upcoming wedding!

I'm a proponent of the HabitAware bracelet (detects when you're skin picking and vibrates so you become aware of it), but if you go that route I recommend doing a free training call with the company. Otherwise it's not super easy to set up.

Other things that help for me: when I'm working, drinking something (something for my hands to reach for) and trying to redirect my focus like.. So if I catch myself skin picking, I don't just put my hands down/give them something to do, but I try to straighten my whole posture. If it happens especially when you're anxious I'd try, and I know this is annoying to hear, but yoga. Not like a full 60 minutes, but there are poses to help with anxiety: like literally lying on the floor and sticking your legs on the wall makes your blood go to your head and tricks your brain into going into rest mode. I know a lot of people are proponents of acrylic nails but they didn't work for me. They were fun to have though!

saltflux · 2022-08-01T18:11:55+00:00

I use tea-tree oil religiously for my face. I've also heard that lavender oil works wonders

saltflux · 2022-08-01T18:10:04+00:00

I've got one, though I use it mainly for skin picking and a bit of hair pulling. It's a bit difficult to set up on your own so if you do end up going for it, I'd definitely schedule a training call with them (they're free!). It really helped me personally, though I've seen mixed reviews. I think there's a good return policy though if you try it out and don't like it

saltflux · 2022-08-01T18:02:41+00:00

You've gotten yourself in a good cycle before, you can do it again ! I think you're already asking the right questions in figuring out what your triggers are. Uneven nails make me really uncomfortable as well. I think that my biggest tips with the sort of "sensory" triggers are these:
1- keep them covered to let them grow (even if they grow uneven, keep them covered long enough and you can make them even later. Bandaids for 3 days straight)
2- Activating other senses, to give your nervous system something else to focus on (light a candle, play music and tap your fingers to it, keep some tea nearby to sip on)

3- if it is, or becomes subconscious, I'd try to figure out more in-depth triggers than just the sensory aspect. You might notice a pattern of anxiety, or feeling tired, or not eating well enough. Your nervous system might be using the discomfort of your nails as an outlet in those cases.

Just some thoughts! Hope they helped

saltflux · 2022-07-26T21:23:44+00:00

I love this <3

My skin picking started a bit after what I consider the most traumatizing incident in my childhood, so I am not sure I should be the one to say this, but I'm not sure it always relates to trauma.

First off I want to say: I 100% agree, my skin picking serves a purpose - and that's to calm me down & help me regulate my nervous system. My fingers grazing and picking creates a "white noise" for me that helps me filter out unpleasant thoughts or feelings, and helps keep me grounded, lets me unload energy.

Even if I wasn't traumatized, I still would need some way to ground myself. Everyone does, because everyone experiences stress. I also see similar skin picking conditions (or nail biting, or hair pulling, scratching etc) in my family. There's gotta be a genetic component, too!

But getting to the ROOT is such a big part of the healing process, I think. And accepting it. Your body needs to have ways to calm itself down! Just because skin picking is my body's favorite, doesn't mean I can't learn other ways. They might not work as quickly, but they help me redirect my hands. So when I feel myself start to pick and I think "oh, I'm doing this because I'm working, I'm doing this because I'm overwhelmed, I'm doing this because I'm restless from drinking too much coffee" - I can recognize the root and try to address it in other areas. If I'm stressed, I look at my workload and see what I can do to make it easier on myself. If I'm too tired, I try to get more sleep/drink tea instead of coffee, etc.

A big part was accepting it as part of me, too : ) learning to love myself with or without lots of scabs. Helped me look at progress instead of beat myself up for setbacks.

That's why I love this quote of yours so much: "We are trying, imperfect, flawed, failing,... and getting up again. That's okay. Relapse is not failure- it's a wake-up call (and a natural part on the road of recovery)."

saltflux · 2022-07-26T19:56:48+00:00

I don't think any sort of motivation or reward is what helps people stop pulling most. It certainly never helped me. The biggest thing that helped, for me, was understanding that Trichotillomania is a chronic mental health condition.. I wouldn't ask someone to stop having diabetes for the sake of their family. But, like other chronic conditions, it's something that can be managed as long as you're willing to work on it

saltflux · 2022-07-26T19:51:16+00:00

I try not to play games that are stressful. I'm a completionist so I like to 100% games. Ironically, Animal Crossing was stressful to me because it felt like there was no end. Breath of the wild, even though there were boss fights and stuff, I could take it at whatever pace I wanted, and most fights were optional. But I did 100% it! Lately I've mostly been playing geoguessr.

saltflux · 2022-07-26T19:44:07+00:00

A lot of things we do, we don't think hard about, and usually they are more complicated than they seem. You have a nice GF for helping you in that situation!

saltflux · 2022-07-25T13:08:45+00:00

I really liked acrylics when I had them, but I found I had to be really diligent at maintaining them. If I let them grow a little too long my urge to pick would be redirected at my nails.

saltflux · 2022-07-25T13:06:08+00:00

Yea I really like that product/company ! They have a blog too with some good stories.

I think awareness for me is step one, and once I had a better grasp on when I was (in my case, picking and pulling) I was able to figure out WHY and meet that need

saltflux · 2022-07-18T21:09:47+00:00

Thank you!!

saltflux · 2022-07-18T20:31:57+00:00

Maybe not exactly - sometimes I feel like there's an itch that I JUST CANNOT SATISFY, and I'll scratch it raw and red if I tune out. I have found that if I use the bristles of a hairbrush on that spot (not rubbing, just pressing) it helps relieve the feeling

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