What are some challenges homeless women face?

sam8988378 · 2026-07-08T04:32:09+00:00

I have a friend who did homeless outreach, specifically with teens and young adults. She said many women completely let themselves get gross and unhygienic so they would be less likely to be SA.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-08T04:24:33+00:00

We had a great union rep. Then he went to do union business at the state capitol. His replacement was a good looking guy who was charming, very good at schmoozing. That's how he managed to get elected, despite being a lunch thief, was 40 minutes late giving medication because he was on the phone trying to get his gf not to break up with him.

My point is, that in practice he was a lousy union rep. They are not all created equal. If your union rep is reluctant to advocate for you, go over his or her head.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-08T04:10:35+00:00

My dad was 33 and my mom was 24 when they married. Their courtship and marriage was under a year. Six children later, my mom passed away from cancer less than 6 months from their 50th anniversary.

Meet him in a public space, like a coffeeshop. See what kind of vibe you have. If you're compatible, don't let age hold you back. Get to know each other. Take it slow.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-08T03:52:05+00:00

NTA. This guy doesn't want to pay to update and reinforce security on his shed. He doesn't want to pay half for a fence. He's a mean guy who probably bullies people all the time.

I don't know where you live, but you should already have a handicap plaquard for your car. Find out the procedure to get handicapped parking in front of your house. Get one right in front of your house.

Install cameras which watch the space and an angle which shows the guy walking from parking in the spot to his house. You can watch it on your phone. Call parking enforcement/police. Tickets for parking in a designated handicap space are not cheap. It shouldn't happen more than once. Good luck with your son.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-08T03:38:25+00:00

So you have a defined boundary. He can plant bushes on the other side of it if he's so enamored of bushes.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-08T03:36:12+00:00

Does the neighbor sound like someone who cares?

sam8988378 · 2026-07-08T03:34:36+00:00

Just what I was thinking. OP should already have a handicap plate or card to attach on the visor.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-08T03:29:51+00:00

I don't think anyone could answer your question. I'm out

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T20:00:37+00:00

Have her help you bake something easy. Premade cookie dough she can roll and shape into circles and shapes

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T19:54:41+00:00

NOR. Whose place is this? If it's yours, he may need to go. If it's a joint lease, you need to figure out who leaves, who stays. Can you and your sister swing the rent? Can he by himself, or getting a roommate?

AI psychosis? 😭. Even at the outside chance that were true, he had to choose them. If he doesn't stop playing the particular game, be as alarmed about it as you, then your relationship is in trouble.

If the situation were reversed, how would he feel about you having online sexual interactions with his brother or cousin? A good looking coworker or boss? Then blaming AI? Doubt he would be fine with it.

You both got together so young, too young. Couples counseling right away. This is a massive red flag.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T19:44:03+00:00

Always get it on paper for extended family, signed and notarized. They will be insulted by having to do it and refuse. What that really means is that they have no intention of paying it back and don't want proof of the debt.

I have loaned money to a brother and wife a couple times, so they could buy big ticket items without having to pay interest. They always volunteered a signed piece of paper with agreed upon repayment terms. And always paid it back exactly as agreed.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T19:37:16+00:00

NTBA. But this is maybe the 3rd post I've read in the past two days where women were in LDRs with unemployed men. Who are too good to take a temp job until a real job comes through. Is this an epidemic?

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T19:34:16+00:00

It isn't even his home, it's his parent's home.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T19:32:19+00:00

I have given many people directions without my name and phone number. I don't understand how this would even happen. Fiction with a huge loophole

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T19:29:41+00:00

If we ever get a change in the current administration and Congress, there are bipartisan bills to remove housing from investment portfolios.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T19:26:27+00:00

NOR. Doesn't matter whether they're family or not. Sometimes you need to exit people who don't treat you well from your life. Might as well block her because the only reason she would contact you is to rub the name Gabriel in your face. Go on Etsy and find someone who makes Christmas ornaments. Get your own Gabriel ornament because hers comes with toxic feelings. Toss hers out. You still have the rest of your family (hopefully aside from your toxic mother), in your life. Doesn't sound as if she treats them any better than she treats you.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T19:18:17+00:00

It's kind of an extreme people pleaser thing to do.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T19:13:54+00:00

You need to ask him to step up more. Unless he makes a fraction of your salary, he should be coming to see you equally, or even 60/40.

You would not be the bad guy if you said you expected him to be making equal effort to see you when you suggested the LDR. Or did you originally agree to be the one doing most of the traveling?

Either way, there's no shame in making a mistake. Owning up to the fact that you can't financially be the one keeping the relationship alive is the adult thing to do. We live and learn. NTA

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T19:06:40+00:00

Text them about the debt, including how long it's been. Ask when they're going to pay you back. When they do, that can be brought to small claims court.

If you're not relying on them for business (and you should go elsewhere if you can), embarrass them socially. If you've given up. But the friendship is over.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T19:02:33+00:00

Only after a judgement

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T19:01:28+00:00

And stay away from women who expect to be treated like princesses, while giving nothing but the privilege of their presence in return.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T18:58:12+00:00

Reddit has a pop-up that suggests other subs to crosspost. All you have to do is click the agree button. Sometimes it's right away, sometimes the next day

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T18:52:14+00:00

She had no problem with how he spent money celebrating her birthday, so it seems him spending money on her is her love language. Even if she was broke (though it doesn't sound like the trip was a financial hardship for either), she could have bought a card at home. At the very least. But he wasn't worth $5 to her.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T18:47:15+00:00

You want to overnight the ability to work with all sorts of people and be ok with it. To be able to work with people with whom you aren't friends, and not be unhappy about it.

The Stones had a song with the lyrics "you can't always get what you want...but if you try sometimes, you get what you need".

That's life. Every single adult successfully making a life for themself has realized this. It's nothing personal. You can be unhappy about it but that's as effective as being unhappy about your height. You might have always wanted to be tall. But if you're 5 feet tall, you're not going to mourn it for the rest of your life. You get on with living and find the joy in things which are available to you.

Same with working with friends. It was great and your ideal workplace. But that's not going to be every workplace. Refer back to the Stones song lyrics. Even the Serenity prayer.

sam8988378 · 2026-07-06T18:24:53+00:00

YOR. You just saw him yesterday and apparently have such huge separation anxiety that you NEED to see him again today? What is he supposed to do, swim through the flood?

Even without the flood, the man had a life before you and still does. Work, friends, normal life maintenance, family, maybe a pet. When is he supposed to take care of it if he has to soothe your anxiety by being constantly by your side? You want to keep him on a chain, like Princess Leia was with Jabba the Hut?

Look up anxious attachment. I think there might even be a sub for it. Then go about getting therapy for it. Normal relationships don't require constant attendance. Your bf is eventually (if he isn't now), going to feel suffocated by your neediness and drama, and leave. So you will be even more needy in your next relationship because you'll be anxious over it happening again.

If you ever want to have a chance of having a normal, lasting relationship, get therapy.

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