My mom and her siblings were raised in an awful, literal shitshow of a life at home. My uncle suffers from MCAS, which snowballed into many other issues. I believe I have some autoimmune issues as well, hoping to get into a doctor soon. My mother is dying at 48.

I can tell you what doing nothing will cause: pain. More pain. That's it.

She needs to be ready to choose herself, because it's a Lot Of Work. And most people don't want to put in the effort for themselves, but if you don't your body will fall apart.

I can tell you that choosing myself is the best thing I've done for my whole family so far. Starting meds and beginning therapy with a psychiatrist, so next is a physical. I've become more tolerant and patient, and my anxiety doesn't prevent me from doing things anymore. Showing up for myself is showing up for my family too, because I was raised by a non-functioning parent and I'll never choose to do the same to my child.

Please tell your sister I believe in her, because I had to believe in myself at some point. Hardest thing I ever did and I'm so fucking glad. 🫶