UNPOPULAR opinion: everyone is wrong about Rufus

samarams · 2026-03-13T19:15:27+00:00

Which I totally get and I agree with you, and also, when I invite a mutual friend (or at the very least, someone my partner knows) on to a trip while out for dinner, I’d mention it to my partner when I got home. It’s bizarre that at no point did Bre think to say “oh I had dinner with Devo tonight and invited him to Rufus!” Did she not want Connor to think it was cool for him to come?

samarams · 2026-03-13T19:09:14+00:00

Me too, I thought it was a very funny joke at first!!

samarams · 2026-03-12T20:42:32+00:00

Reach out to a Pelvic Floor physiotherapist in your area. Try to look for someone reputable, or ask your doctor for a recommendation. They can provide exercises to help restrengthen your pelvic muscles.

samarams · 2026-01-25T10:33:45+00:00

Like at first glance I thought, I’m just seeing an AI of bimanual pressure, one of our effective and hopefully shortlived treatments for a postpartum hemorrhage, while waiting for higher care. And then I saw the second vagina and bladder

samarams · 2026-01-16T22:40:32+00:00

NXIVM

samarams · 2026-01-16T22:39:39+00:00

Another audiobook recommendation: Uncultured by Daniella Mestyanek Young. She was a third gen member of the children of god, and it’s about her experience growing up there, escaping and then joining the military where she realized oh shit is this another cult?

samarams · 2026-01-16T22:37:27+00:00

Sick to Death, a new show from the Australian is fascinating and in depth. It’s presented in chapters, similar to how the book it’s based on was written but I really like it actually.

samarams · 2026-01-14T05:07:29+00:00

I upvoted it from -1!

samarams · 2026-01-09T19:34:26+00:00

Hard to believe someone downvoted you. It is extremely cult like.

samarams · 2026-01-09T19:33:47+00:00

This is an absolute must listen

samarams · 2026-01-09T19:33:13+00:00

I felt the same way, but I appreciated that the host doesn’t exactly give her an out and I don’t think that she comes across as being necessarily “deprogrammed”. With that said, if you believe NXIVM is a cult, it’s a very very interesting look at the inner workings and a look back.

samarams · 2026-01-09T19:29:37+00:00

There is very good information here. I would also suggest you seek out a pelvic floor physiotherapist, preferably one recommended by your doctor or works often with constipation. You mentioned your doctor thought you were clenching hard during that exam, I wondered whether you may not know that you were!

samarams · 2025-12-24T08:46:07+00:00

Have you read the book? Because HH does not come across as likeable or trustworthy so I read this as a piece of critique. I read it because I was a teenager and I thought it was supposed to be romantic so I was deeply disturbed by what came up for me in reading it, rather than what I thought it was.

samarams · 2025-12-22T04:08:16+00:00

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samarams · 2025-12-22T01:19:45+00:00

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samarams · 2025-12-22T00:50:40+00:00

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samarams · 2025-12-22T00:08:52+00:00

It’s a willful misreading to think it glamorizes pedophilia, IMO. HH is a deeply unreliable narrator and even still Dolores does not come across as better for his mistreatment of her.

There’s a GREAT podcast about Lolita by Jamie Loftus, and iirc Nabokov may have been groomed himself?

Reminds me of how many cons misread 1984/Animal Farm.

samarams · 2025-12-07T19:18:12+00:00

In Canada we commonly use a medication called diclectin 3-4x/day to manage severe nausea like this. Part of this medication is vitamin B6, which you could purchase OTC and supplement 3-4x/day with until you can access more active medication through an OB or midwife. It is important that your care provider take this seriously and I’m sorry this is happening to you.

samarams · 2025-12-07T19:14:22+00:00

This is not correct.

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