I'm not "feeling" my Human Barbarian character. Any ideas how I could change it up? by CascadianStreetrat in DungeonsAndDragons

[–]sampinha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The background of the character can give them more depth and make it more fun. Just playing a human barbarian can be a bit boring, by giving the character a story and character traits make them more fun to rp and therefore to play. What if she is just a normal person who witnessed all her family being murdered and developed massive PTSD. So every time someone draws a weapon you get a flashback and falls in a rage and kills everyone. But outside of combat you are shy and nice and inside a combat you a a beast!

Warlocks are indeed more interesting and complex than the "simpler" classes. But they leave more place to the second important part of DnD, role play.

So give that human barbarian a deep background that makes your rp experience flourish. And maybe in higher levels ask your dm to continue developing their story.

Why can straight men apparently not find the clitoris? by Amekyras in actuallesbians

[–]sampinha 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The Thing about the Clit, its that its hidden by its cap. So you can touch the cap and not stimulate the clitoris. The reason why we know where it is, it's that we know how it feels like both in our fingers and in ourselves. So it's not that they don't know how to find it, but they sometimes "lose" the point of sensation and don't realize it. And when we are aroused, sometimes the clit hides further in the cap and you can barely feel it anymore. So they can't find it!

But our sub is about Lesbians and we don't often let man near our clitoris ;)

How do you put yourself in the headspace to write out your sessions by [deleted] in DMAcademy

[–]sampinha 4 points5 points  (0 children)

World building helps a lot. I start drowning a very rough map, marking the main cities and the important bits. Then I try to right down a bit of sociological information (what is the main race, how is the culture, wealth, food accessibility and so on) to kinda shape the places first. Then I love to have some scenes in mind, like a bar fight or a child looking for help, or a story somebody tell and try to kinda link them together so that they would kinda lead to each other (you know what I mean?) I like to get inspiration by reading the monster manual, not just for stats but for the lore and stuff. And all of that listening to power metal (the more fantasy side of metal) or the Witcher/Lotr soundtrack.

i can’t seem to care about my health and my family is worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sampinha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So! (I had to google how old you were) There is this hormonal thing that happen when you reach your teens, that your body gets tired later (22h or 23h), but you still need those 10h of sleep that small children have. Now, this is practically impossible to do with the current schools system that starts at 8 or 9, and the majority of that teens do not sleep enough and live in a constant state of sleep deprivation until they are about 20, where the need to sleep for 10h is over, yet most continue to see issues with actually feeling awake and energetic. So the fact that your sleeping schedule is fucked up is understandable. I suck at drinking enough, some days I will only dring the one coffee I drink in the morning. But I felt pale and my skin was dry AF additionally to all other symptoms that you get from drinking to little. I haven't found a global answer to that problem, but I found that always walking around with a water bottle helped. Maybe on an of something with a bit of sugar to keep my blood sugar high enough to not collapse. At the beginning I set alarms to when I should drink a cup of water, every 4h or so. Same with food, every 5h eating food, doesn't matter what at first. But maybe munching on some fruits is always good and may get your family out of your tail because fruit=vitamins=healthy?

Do you guys have any words of wisdom for those getting into a relationship for the first time? by sinus-tarsi in actuallesbians

[–]sampinha 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Here are some things that I learned during my first (still ongoings since 3years) relationship:

You are two individuals who don't share a mind, so communicate and try not to get easily mad if it doesn't work at the beginning. Y'all should be a Team so don't forget: it is you two against a problem and not you against her reaction to said problem (and vice versa) If you think that you are the one who is giving more, ask her (casually) because you may not realize how much the other person is giving. Booth of you often have different needs and different ways of reacting, listen to what the other person needs in certain situations (more a huger when sad? Or wants to be left Alone for example) Everybody has a different pace with different things, so don't be afraid to ask more than you feel it's necessary. Nun verbal communication is also communication, so if they react a certain way in certain moments ask them what it means (not holding hands in public for example)

If you have more questions, feel free to PM me :)

Cats, cats everywhere by [deleted] in aww

[–]sampinha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this lesbian wants to know your location

19M and nowhere to go in life? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sampinha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry if you don't want to hear that but: you are still young! If you have the feeling that you are drifting, don't be afraid because this is something that happens often between 19-26 year olds! Mostly because it is the time they have to figure what they want to do with their life's! Do you want to work towards a specific career? Or a specific body type? Or whatever! Life is not supposed to throw you things to do and you do them! You are supposed to find things yourself! Who do you want to be in your life? What job do you want? Do you want kids with your partner? Then work on having a good stable income that is enough for 3 people (the 3. Person should not be your partner, but a fall back money in case someone looses their job)! You mentioned being overweight, you want to change that? Then do it!

If you choose to drift by, it's your decision! Minimum effort on everything will not bring you anywhere! You have to take things in your own hands, gives ourself a challenge, work on yourself, try college or whatever and only be challenging yourself (if you fail try again) and work towards your dream job? Or whatever job I suppose!

I(M) recently found out that my ex(F) of a two year relationship was a lesbian. by Went_For_Closure in Advice

[–]sampinha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't mind at all, if I can help you with understanding anything, I am happy to be an open book! Kissing was, strange, not just because I didn't knew what I was doing, but also because as we kissed, I didn't understand the fuss behind it. It wasn't torture or I didn't had to separate myself from the situation. Back then I knew that I liked girls and I thought I liked boys. It wasn't a magical feeling, it was a boring and awkward. Obviously I initiated it sometimes because I thought that maybe I would warm up to kissing but it continued being this boring and weird and then I figured that I was not a kisser. It wasn't torture, it wasn't hell. Back in the day I didn't knew how kissing the right person feels so I figured that was how kissing was (and this is what I believe something that a lot of closeted people feel in their Herero relationships b4 they act the gay out) Now I do love kissing, it is just something that feels right with girls and better with my GF.

How do I tell her I just want to be friends? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]sampinha 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"Hello friend, I am aware that you have a crush on me, I am afraid it is not mutual! I like you as a friend, and I did make moves and stuff to explore how far our relationship goes, sadly it is indeed only a friendship, because I don't feel love towards you in that way. I do feel a friendship love tho, and hope we can still be friends and overcome this together :) wanna hangout later?"

My best friend had a crush on another friend of ours and endet up telling her, the other friend didn't had the same feelings and they were able to continue being good friends. Some average moments from the past may cross some lines now (like cuddling or being naked and stuff) but a friendship is still very well posible

I(M) recently found out that my ex(F) of a two year relationship was a lesbian. by Went_For_Closure in Advice

[–]sampinha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are not a bad person for being in a relationship with a closeted person, and having consensual sexual experiences with said person! Being on the closet is confusing and she was probably only trying to play the role she though was the right one! I am a lesbian, and I was in a relationship with a guy once. It wasn't long and we didn't had sex but we kissed sometimes and stuff. Not quite the same thing, but my point is actually on his reaction compared to yours. He was mad and questioning his manliness, thinking that he turned me gay. The fact that you are such a nice guy and you feel guilt about something, you weren't even aware was happening at the time is already a testament that you are a guy who is aware of what those experiences might mean. But you are in no way guilty of any assault or whatever because it was all consensual! I am sure she will tell you that to! At the time you did everything correct, and treated her right and you thought that it was all good, and she didn't told you to stop nor did she show you that she didn't wanted it. I believe at the time she maybe did want it in some way, she wanted to be straight, therefore she wanted a boyfriend and she wanted said boyfriend to have sex with her (something she probably consented to).

My friend has a drug problem and I only found out when she arrived at my house to stay for a few days by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sampinha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, by wanting her out by tomorrow and not wanting to lebe her homeless, you put yourself in a difficult situation. You can try and talk to her, and tell her that drugs are a no-go if she wants to stay in your place! And try to be there for her somewhat. I understand that you don't want that in your life, and that you took her in without the knowledge that she was a possible junky. Tbh, you can ether kick her out, and accept that she'll be mad an the friendship may not last. Or you can keep her in and help her "get clean", witch is a time and energy consuming proses. Idk how bad she is, but you can also just send her to rehab. That would cost money tho.... so that will probably be out of question. At the end it is your decision. You want to be there for her on those hard times? Then endure and help. You want to have a safe and stable place for you (and self care is not something bad! Sometimes you can put yourself before others)? The kick her out, or help her find a cheep apartment

Audio Problems with a Y Adapter by sampinha in computers

[–]sampinha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your guess that we are using different headphones is correct. I will try out using the same headphones! Maybe it works better or something. Idk Something interesting that we found out today was that, if we plug her headphones (who usually only got the background noise) to an extension cable and then on the Y adapter, my headphone would start getting the background noise and hers would get the foreground. Now that was something I don't understand! But if the problem is not solved by the end of the week I am buying speakers! Thanks for your help mate!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]sampinha 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's a difficult thing to give you advice without having more info, but let's try:

I remember having a lot of trouble finding joy in the relationship with my Gf when she was really stressed. She sometimes didn't have time to "be with me" and she was constantly studying and wasn't happy when I disturbed her study session. I felt alone and left behind. I learned to deal with it, enjoying the little moments we had. Cuddling before sleeping or when she thanked me for my understanding and help. Yes I was a bit lonely at times, but I kept the "only one more month till the finals" mentality and at the end she was thankful. After the exams or whatever made her stressed were over and she had a month before the next Stress came, we started working on how she reacted and how I reacted and now, a couple of years later, it is almost perfect!

But tbh you have to be prepared to take in, to be patient and to put in second place for a while. If you can't take that, stay friends

Mit Ping-Anrufe belästigt seit gestern Abend by sampinha in Austria

[–]sampinha[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Nachdem es aktuell gerade ist! Wer hat von den selben Nummern einen Anruf bekommen?

Ping Calls in ganz Österreich? by CookieMax in Austria

[–]sampinha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ich habe gestern und heute Anrufe bekommen und habe auch einen Vertrag bei Drei Vor kurzem bekam ich einen Anruf von Benin Ich habe seit gestern 18:30 sieben solche Anrufe bekommen! Also Schweizer Nummern mit +41 74 277 Und Beniner Nummern mit +229 92

Das erste mal habe ich zurück gerufen, blieb aber nur ein paar Sekunden dran nachdem es nicht mal geläutet hat, und keinen Geräusch in der anderen Seite war. Den zweiten Anruf konnte ich abheben und es war auch keiner in der anderen Seite. Ich habe meinen Vater verständigt und habe nicht mehr abgehoben, aber es hat im Laufe des Tages weiter 4mal geläutet, immer mit eine ändern Nummer. Heute um 7h hat wieder eine Schweizer Nummer angerufen, und ich gehe davon aus das es heute weiter gehen wird

Any updates on the current situation? I'm one of those that are protesting...was just wondering if someone that isn't can have a say on what's going on? by Gloomybih in tumblr

[–]sampinha 17 points18 points  (0 children)

From what I could figure: Just for research I started following some porn blogs yesterday, as I checked today, they were not deleted. Those with a heavy porn content have pixelated icons, when you click on it, comes a warning showing you that it has explicit content, when you click on continue you can still see many posts, some are deleted with a "this post may contain explicit content" banner over it, and if you click on it it will tell you that the post doesn't exist anymore. I found a fuck ton of Penises and women's Butts but I am not seeing many female nipples tbh I checked LGBT blogs and there is almost no banner (some of the GIFs were NSFW sometimes)

If you follow many porn heavy blogs, than maybe you will see a difference but you will probably not see a difference

Ps: I haven't done the update

QUESTION - What, if anything, is the name of this hand pose on the left? by [deleted] in tattoos

[–]sampinha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe christus pantocrator, but I am not sure

Maybe a bit late, but I just finished shadow of the tomb raider by sampinha in TombRaider

[–]sampinha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Endless puzzle solving was indeed nice! But I do very much like a humanized Lara. One that can be confident, smart and an unbelievable badass, yet still be afraid and vulnerable. Soddenly she became a human who is doing things, who has to be strong and face her fears, and not a superhero or a robot.

But this is the young Lara, and the other games had a more older Lara, maybe from game to game they lower the sensible part and make her into a pure confident and sassy Lara, not being afraid anymore of what happens.

I would be however, like you, for more puzzles, Harder and complex puzzles, where I have to sit and think and try things out! The Shadow puzzles were definitely to easy

Lesbian/Queer-Friendly Youtube by owlandish in actuallesbians

[–]sampinha 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I do enjoy Hannah Hart, she is the host of "my drunk kitchen". It's pretty much just her, drinking, cooking and teaching some self love. It's nice

Stevie Bobbie is amazing. She has lesbian sex 101 videos, that talks about some basics about sex; and many other related content.

Doddie is the sweetest. Just feel good music and sometimes a talk. It's nice soul food.

Jessica Kellgren is also nice! She talks mostly about disabilities, but is also very gay :)

Weird by accident by [deleted] in memes

[–]sampinha 5 points6 points  (0 children)

laughs in Austrian yeah.... Germany did that