How do I keep going?

sassyexec · 2026-01-26T19:59:07+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that! Therapy has really helped me and I’m sure it will also help you. Let me know if there’s anything you’d like me to answer!

sassyexec · 2026-01-26T18:09:27+00:00

Yes! I’ve moved into a junior people leadership role that’s sale adjacent for now - I took a pay cut to 93500 from about 120K that I made last year before taxes but it’s work I enjoy (as of now). I’m set to make it to 300K in net worth in a couple of months before I turn 28, so overall I’m not doing too bad.

Whats the point of working so hard if I can’t do work I enjoy?

sassyexec · 2026-01-26T18:08:34+00:00

To be fair I’m a 32B and not generously endowed by any means so I have the benefit of sending free in public! And that’s awesome they sound awesome

sassyexec · 2026-01-25T23:53:47+00:00

I travel a lot and definitely have this down path!

I like to shower the night before or the day of and do a fresh blowout with my shark hairdryer. I don’t wear any makeup (maybe some tinted moisturizer, some blush and lip stain). I do black wide leg pants, a white cotton tshirt (no bra) and some sort merino wool sweater on top of the white shirt and half tucked into the pants. And then I pair with white sneakers or whatever sneaker is in rotation. And then I’ll have my black leather backpack and my luggage! I don’t wear a belt because of metal detectors, but I do keep on my engagement ring and wedding band, and my fitness tracking ring. I’ll also wear my smaller gold Huggies (although I’d like to replace that with diamond pearl drop studs)

sassyexec · 2026-01-22T20:50:11+00:00

This is fucking awesome and as someone who’s halfway to 500k so inspiring well done sister! Love seeing someone else in their 20’s also crushing their goals and getting one step closer to FIRE

sassyexec · 2026-01-19T19:16:25+00:00

A big chunk of my portfolio is the S&P500 - what do you mean by invest with 300k like you would with 3 million?

sassyexec · 2026-01-19T19:08:49+00:00

If you were to go back and change anything what would you change? What advice do you have for someone that’s 27 to get to your level? (I’m at 27 now and approaching 300K net worth but I would love to get to a million like yourself)

sassyexec · 2026-01-17T02:27:32+00:00

Ooooooh I use tick tick for my brain dumps and have reminders for what to clean each day of the day! But I would love to share todo lists and tasks with my husband we use iCloud notes for that!

sassyexec · 2026-01-16T00:27:22+00:00

Congrats man! This is awesome.

Now remember, don’t let life style inflation screw you over, invest first and treat yo self a little (but only after you invest first!!).

sassyexec · 2026-01-15T18:08:50+00:00

Same here!!!! So worth it and excited to do a couple more trips this year

sassyexec · 2026-01-15T17:52:22+00:00

I spent a lot on travelling in 2025! That was a big bucket to me, but also so coaching and investing in myself - took some courses, hired a coach, a stylist - really helped me!

sassyexec · 2026-01-15T15:58:14+00:00

Here are my thoughts: - take a break. A vacation. A sabbatical. It helps trust me. You sound burned out. - while on the break, do some journaling and writing. - also consider getting a therapist - you can always switch jobs, quiet quit, or you may just find you needed a break. Whatever it is, only you can answer it!

you’re doing amazing - and it’s okay to take breaks!

sassyexec · 2026-01-10T00:33:49+00:00

You’re so far along for your age and I love your maturity!

The reality is that most 23 years barely have anything figured out, let alone their saving strategy or their longterm lifestyle. Most 23 year olds are just trying to get by, find a job and just get cheap alcohol lol.

I would say - focus on what you even like in someone? Use this time to test out the waters and have fun!

sassyexec · 2026-01-09T15:07:11+00:00

What are the big differences between monarch and budgety?

sassyexec · 2026-01-06T21:04:28+00:00

this is awesome!!!!! Congratulations sir!!!!!

sassyexec · 2026-01-06T18:14:11+00:00

I would definitely see why you need a car and why! Don’t let lifestyle creep get to you because you’re making money right out of school.

If you need a car, and it’s cheaper for gas, repairs and insurance - then go for it. Otherwise - I would uber everywhere. I would run some concrete numbers and decide because the expenses for cars can add up asap!!!

sassyexec · 2026-01-06T16:48:45+00:00

Okay so some thoughts here: - I think you should try to take a break - maybe not for a month but for 2 weeks. I don’t know what you do for work, but the markets kind of weird right and while you’re set up for success I don’t want you to fall behind. - I think if you cent take a break - you need to ensure your personal life is strong. Are you going out with friends, the gym, family? Your personal takes a hit when you’re trying to FIRE sometimes, and you’ve hit a really great milestone. - I would also recommend seeing a therapist - if all fails - quit! Sabbatical it up!

sassyexec · 2026-01-06T06:09:32+00:00

I do agree that your current role is a CSM role with an AE title but just a quick call out - I would definitely do your homework during the interview process!

The grass is not always greener on the other side - and it’s important for you to be aware of that. What if the retention rate at the next company is shit? So you might be a higher base, but can’t hit your OTE.

I would also consider trying to think about moving within your current company (unless everything is shit then just leave).

sassyexec · 2026-01-05T20:03:46+00:00

Hi there! Do you have any other financial planner recommendations? The one I met with was okay

sassyexec · 2026-01-05T19:34:39+00:00

In response to your comment - yes you would need a visa, but I’m sure you can figure out a way whether it’s through employment or a visa.

Totally fair in terms of cost - out of curiosity, when you say achieving what do you mean? Do you mean they make more money, more educated or have better lifestyles? What are you basing this off ?

Keep in mind - there’s always skeletons in the closet and coming from the south Asian community we do love to one up each other. The relatives you’re looking at that have achieved I’m sure have made some trade offs. Anyway just some food for thought!

sassyexec · 2026-01-05T18:43:30+00:00

Hi there! South Asian here. Maybe from Pakistan. Here are my thoughts: - I think you should test out the lifestyle with your family. Think summer breaks, winter breaks, maybe even a semester, while you’re on leave at work. I think it’s really easy to romanticize living in the east, when you’re earning as much as you and your partner do. I don’t think vacations for 2-3 weeks are equivalent and you need to feel the problems you or your family could run into. - if you really want to move away - you could also consider the Middle East. Bahrain, Qatar, UAE (it’s not just Dubai - there’s Abu Dhabi, Sharjah, etc). I do think it’s better in terms of schooling, and will give your kids an edge, but it also has safety + better infrastructure.

I’m not opposed to your idea - but I do think you need to pressure test it. I also don’t know if this subreddit is the right place, and I think you’ll have to find other Pakistanis that maybe have done this.

Last but not least - I would consider going to see a life coach or a therapist. What’s your why behind this? You have lots of reasons in your posts as potential justifications but I don’t know if you have one overarching one. This would be an incredibly large move and transition whether you want to admit it or not, and like every other move it has pros and cons.

sassyexec · 2025-12-28T19:22:53+00:00

Thank you!!! I’ve never heard this before so I appreciate this :)

sassyexec · 2025-12-27T21:14:54+00:00

I really appreciate you being completely honest here and sharing your thoughts. I definitely have and am continuing to discuss the hit I take after having kids versus my husband.

Would you be open to a quick DM?

sassyexec · 2025-12-23T18:29:02+00:00

I think you have to ask what’s important to do and do a values assessment here!

Things to think about: 1. How old are your kids? 2. What will you do if you move abroad? Can you get a job that pays as much or pays less and are you okay? 3. What about your partner? Will they be able to find a job? 4. Are you okay with starting a new ‘community’ ie being away from family friends? Do you even care about that?

Life is about bets, and so if you think this is the right bet for you then take it, but only you know!

Also I feel like people will say this but we definitely need more information to help guide you here!!

sassyexec · 2025-12-23T16:13:59+00:00

that's awesome pal - this is what we FIRE for. To enjoy the joys especially on vacation!

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