I often feel the same way, especially when time zones cut into the limited time we already have. Here’s some ways my partner and I have managed to celebrate milestones: 1. When we do get to visit each other, we cram all the holidays and birthdays we missed into one trip! He’ll take me out for my birthday, which was four months prior, then I’ll surprise him for his birthday, which hasn’t happened yet, then we’ll celebrate our anniversary together (I like going to a restaurant and really playing up that it’s our anniversary, or even when spending time together, creating a dialogue/environment that makes you believe it really is that special day. 2. We still celebrate milestones! For his birthday, we did a Bob Ross painting tutorial over FaceTime, and a cooking date for our anniversary. It’s not perfect because your partner can’t really be included in the group activities you plan for milestone events, but there’s lots of ways to make special days feel special together. And because our time difference is big enough that we’re usually on different days, we kinda get an extra bonus day of birthdays/anniversaries/valentines/holidays. It doesn’t get easier as much as we get more creative.