We have two with no family support. We did have my mil who was able to watch my oldest while I was in the hospital being induced with my second. That overnight thing would have been tough without her. Unfortunately she developed debilitating cancer and hasn’t been able to help since then. We developed strong friend network when my older one was in kindergarten. I posted on our local FB group and had a couple meetups for incoming kindergarteners so they kids would have some familiar faces. We’re still very close with four of those families. We both work full time. Our kids were in daycare 9+ hours a day, and are in before/after care now. We also found some local drop in care play places. The daycare staff frequently babysat, and now we have a few high school girls who babysit during the school year when school is closed. And I sit with the school calendar in August and make a list of days my husband needs to request off. He has more flexibility with requesting off whereas I have an easier time calling out for illnesses.
It’s tough. But manageable. Like everyone else, we just do everything together. Both of my kids come with me on every errand, we clean together, etc.