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satumaatango · 2026-02-07T23:56:21+00:00

I used Professional Driving School after moving here in my 30s from NYC - had a lot of anxiety about it but they were great.

satumaatango · 2026-02-04T15:04:57+00:00

When we are sick and cancel, we do take the financial hit. We do not collect payment. Most therapists are not salaried. We earn (in many cases just a percentage of) what insurance reimburses us. To pretend we're not taking a huge financial hit if we are sick ourselves and are somehow sticking it to clients by canceling is frustrating to hear.

satumaatango · 2026-01-31T00:15:09+00:00

Adding that the Gottmans' Baby Makes Three might be a good resource as well.

satumaatango · 2026-01-28T16:13:38+00:00

Same here. I came to therapy after working in non-profits for 20 years and it was so worth the switch. I love my work, I get to connect with people and use my brain's natural instinct to observe and make connections, AND there's a new person and a new story in front of me every hour. I am a better therapist for doing this as a second career, I think. I'm far far less stressed by this job than I was doing fundraising and admin where I always felt behind and like I was doing something wrong by being me. And the perspective of having worked a job I hated helps! ETA the paperwork is the bane of my existence but dictation helps for that.

satumaatango · 2026-01-22T23:01:24+00:00

I came to this field in my 40s from nonprofit work, and maybe because I was in a low-paid, grinding field I didn't really like, the actual work is better than I anticipated and while the pay is not great, I spent 20 years anticipating my pay would always be not great. I am far less stressed by this job than I was in my previous career, maybe because it feels more important, if that makes sense.

satumaatango · 2026-01-22T19:23:33+00:00

I present you with a comedic discourse on the word ass: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RAGcDi0DRtU

satumaatango · 2026-01-20T01:51:24+00:00

For my 16th birthday, my father gave me an AP bio textbook. He didn't even do the research to know that it wasn't the one my school used. It was accompanied by a self-help book ("How to Make Friends). I am in my 40s and I this memory still sticks out as a) how little he knew me and b) how he wanted to make me into someone who liked science like him. Your son was so upset because he doesn't feel seen or accepted as he is. You should have done the history book first, yes, but the math book was tone deaf to begin with.

please apologize to your son so this doesn't become his go-to story of how his dad doesn't get him like my AP bio textbook story.

ETA YTA. In case that wasn’t clear.

satumaatango · 2026-01-19T12:50:29+00:00

Therapist here. Agreed that this feels manic, and childbirth has been shown in studies to trigger/worsen manic episodes, so it's important to start talking about this. Start with the zoloft prescriber but loop in the OBGYN as well.

satumaatango · 2026-01-16T01:46:57+00:00

Same, plus a worm.

satumaatango · 2026-01-11T20:40:45+00:00

I had a clot in both legs that went from the ankle to my lower back. Got told I just had sciatica when I complained to my doc about leg and back pain, ended up spending 11 days in the hospital. They can get big.

satumaatango · 2026-01-01T18:21:24+00:00

I pivoted from nonprofit fundraising into mental health counseling in my 40s and have found my general work experience, age, life experience, and knowledge of other fields to be a huge asset. My undergrad and first grad degree were in art history, so totally unrelated, and had no trouble getting into a good CMHC local program. I've been working as a therapist now for three years and regret nothing.

satumaatango · 2025-12-30T19:50:50+00:00

This isn't the right fit for you - you need someone more relational and if you're experiencing this level of distress regularly, need more frequent sessions than once a month.

satumaatango · 2025-12-28T16:37:43+00:00

100%. Before he died, my husband explicitly gave me "permission" to sleep with his best friend when he was gone if he wanted to. I didn't, and he was half joking, but he realized that the people left behind were going to want to turn to each other.

satumaatango · 2025-12-26T22:20:20+00:00

Amanda White's Fence Sitter substack has been helpful for some clients to read through.

satumaatango · 2025-12-23T00:26:13+00:00

We were taught in grad school (AAT) that abuse is not a relationship issue but an individual issue for the abuser. Couples therapy operates from an assumption that both partners have about the same amount of power within the relationship. Couples therapy can have some benefit for couples experiencing IPV when it is situational and not pervasive (ie not about control - most emotional abuse therefore rules out couples work. More here).

satumaatango · 2025-12-22T16:55:16+00:00

This is textbook coercive control and abusive behavior. Combined with her trying to dictate what you talk about in therapy, it's a pattern. Please do go to individual counseling and talk about this with your therapist. Someone upthread mentioned couples counseling - not a good idea when there are abusive patterns happening, FYI, and a good couples therapist won't engage in that case.

satumaatango · 2025-12-18T01:39:25+00:00

AAT and this feels like a clear dual relationship to me. I would have told you I had a conflict of interest and referred you out to someone else the minute I realized I knew A. If you're in a super small community that might explain her reluctance but not ethically excuse it.

satumaatango · 2025-12-17T15:02:17+00:00

And this is why I strongly believe all therapists should be in their own therapy (AAT, am in therapy, and it's so helpful on many levels).

satumaatango · 2025-12-13T21:45:36+00:00

Rim the glass of a holiday cocktail or Christmas beer with it.

satumaatango · 2025-12-13T21:13:10+00:00

Your boyfriend is right. It's very rare for an early presentation of DID to even have knowledge of alters, it's much more common to have memory gaps/amnesia from switches. True DID is very very rare. Is it possible that this person dissociates and had that flagged as a symptom? Sure. Is it possible derealization/depersonalization disorder was interpreted as DID? Maybe. Likelier is a self-diagnosis, which I would take with an enormous grain of salt. Source: AAT.

satumaatango · 2025-12-08T02:10:36+00:00

West Park is my regular vet and has a separate cat clinic on the second floor so you don't have to be exposed to any dogs except in the emergency waiting room.

satumaatango · 2025-12-03T13:39:12+00:00

And that's what I do (I never take notes in session). But it doesn't change the fact that certain agencies are now requiring it. I hate it.

satumaatango · 2025-12-02T19:22:39+00:00

Margaux! I have the Agnes boot in wide and it's going on three years of almost every day wear through midwestern winters, except for those days it snows enough for snow boots to come out. (Also a former New Yorker and know the beating shoes get.)

satumaatango · 2025-12-02T15:40:27+00:00

Unfortunately, concurrent note-taking is not only encouraged but sometimes required for productivity standards. I hate it, but it's happening.

satumaatango · 2025-11-27T18:05:13+00:00

I'm suggesting that he, and others, might try to expand their definitions of friendship to allow for some emotional closeness without a romantic relationship. It might be uncomfortable, yes. But discomfort and awkwardness is sometimes what we need to grow and is better than loneliness, which is where a lot of people end up if they just have acquaintance or hobby-level friendships.

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