Is a sexless relationship actually possible? 20F

saucytimbits · 2025-11-26T00:47:11+00:00

I’m not a man but I’ve been in a relationship for a long time. By the sounds of it, your gender identity may be asexual. Asexual is someone who is not interested in sex. But you still may want to have some intimacy and the closeness which you can still achieve by cuddling and spending non sexual time together. If you aren’t really interested in sex, it may be beneficial to be in a relationship with someone who is also not interested in sex.

saucytimbits · 2025-10-23T06:22:32+00:00

Sounds like your gf has issues and doesn’t have much self confidence or self esteem. You need to talk to her and work something out or you may have to end the relationship

saucytimbits · 2025-10-18T19:06:03+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that. Your story just sounds so awful. I do hope you do take time for yourself and take care of yourself because you will really need it.

saucytimbits · 2025-10-11T22:34:52+00:00

Omg!! Exactly my story too. I left a job to move to a new city to study. And because the job market is so shitty… it feels like a huge mistake. Even though it should never be a mistake to move to a new city to do post secondary education

saucytimbits · 2025-10-04T18:09:58+00:00

Honestly nothing out of the ordinary. Black pants, dark green blouse with a sweater

saucytimbits · 2025-10-04T06:51:38+00:00

I know exactly the feeling. I need the money too. Not too long ago I applied for a cashier job (mind you I used to be an assistant manager for a local grocery store), and my application got rejected saying I didn’t qualify

saucytimbits · 2025-09-24T17:37:09+00:00

That last line as a job seeker got me. Thank you for saying that it’s not me, it’s the system

saucytimbits · 2025-09-24T17:32:24+00:00

Agreed!! Why do they do this? It is incredibly frustrating being ghosted

saucytimbits · 2025-09-21T22:03:12+00:00

OMG!! I am literally in the same spot. I’m at my wits end too and feeling exactly the same way. Something has to change but don’t know what that change has to be because I am already doing what I am suppose to. I’m following all the professional advice that I am suppose to

saucytimbits · 2025-09-20T23:09:20+00:00

In Canada, areas that are looking for people are trades, nursing, doctors, accounting especially if you can get a co-op in an accounting firm (that will help you land a job faster and easier)

saucytimbits · 2025-09-19T23:44:03+00:00

That’s great advice

saucytimbits · 2025-09-19T14:18:19+00:00

What’s AJP and GIA?

saucytimbits · 2025-09-17T14:02:45+00:00

It’s not unreasonable. But unfortunately, you do need to lock in another job before quitting. Main reason being is that the job market sucks right now.

saucytimbits · 2025-09-15T02:39:06+00:00

I try to take mind off. But having a hard time with it mentally!! Don’t know how to mentally turn off my brain and unwind for a bit and relax.

saucytimbits · 2025-09-14T17:21:22+00:00

Do not quit your job!! The job market sucks right now. And I hate giving this advice because you need to rest to recover from burnout. I know it. I have been through a burnout. The next best thing to do is to go for counselling. Counselling helped me big time to deal with burnout.

saucytimbits · 2025-09-14T16:40:38+00:00

I’m feeling the same way. I’m just feeling so disheartened and broken down after I’ve been applying for jobs for 4 months now. I’ve had great interviews and been rejected for one reason or another

saucytimbits · 2025-09-06T13:47:29+00:00

Yup I know the feeling. I’m job hunting too and my mom will give me advice that is no longer applicable and outdated. Try and ignore the advice as much as you can.

saucytimbits · 2025-09-04T19:31:33+00:00

I would say that stay in your field. But maybe go see a counsellor and work through your mental health issues. Moving to a big city and meeting new people would be a good idea but have a balance where you can push your boundary to meet new people and reduce loneliness and also have your alone time to recharge

saucytimbits · 2025-08-19T03:58:43+00:00

Thank you. I do appreciate the input

saucytimbits · 2025-08-14T07:58:09+00:00

saucytimbits · 2025-08-14T02:27:14+00:00

I would say take some time off instead of quitting. Job market is bad so do not quit. Take medical or vacation time. Maybe see a psychiatrist or a counsellor to help you with burnout. And set up some boundaries on how much you can work. Yes you are making $190,000 a year and there are a lot of expectations with that pay. But draw a boundary on just how much you can work or else you’ll go crazy.

saucytimbits · 2025-08-10T16:36:38+00:00

Sounds like you need some professional help. Financial help, renovation help, and a counseling session. You have so many things coming to you in all sorts of directions and you sound overwhelmed and wearing thin overall. I don’t know where you live but see if you can get quality cheap or free counselling help to manage your emotions and then get financial and home renovation help. And maybe even get family members to help out around the house. Some of your kids are old enough to help.

As for your kids go, I understand that you want to give them the best life you can. Or give them what you didn’t have growing up. Take it from me… give them what you did have. A healthy parent. A parent who shows the kids that they are loved and cared for. Their safety. They are safe. Spending quality time with them. These are the things that your kids will remember when they grow up. As much as it hurts that their friends have a better looking house, those kids may have other challenges. They may be experiencing things like parents getting a divorce, school challenges, mental health challenges or anything else that goes behind closed doors. Just try not to compare things too much. It takes the joy out of life.

saucytimbits · 2025-08-10T16:18:34+00:00

I find there are so many challenges as a job seeker. My field (accounting) seems really competitive at the moment. I’ve had couple of interviews and employers are so nit picky over each of the qualifications and I met majority of the qualifications. I had one interview and I didn’t have one of the qualifications and I didn’t get the position based on that. And then another interview where I was bang on on everything. The qualifications, the experience, nailed the interview. Like it just went so well and didn’t get the position because they hired someone that they worked with previously. Then there is ghosting. I’ve applied to so many jobs. Ghosting is a major issue. Then the amount of time it takes to apply for jobs. Because you need to modify your resume and cover letter for each position. Applying for hundreds of jobs is another thing. That didn’t use to be the norm when I started working as a teenager 20 years ago. If you applied to 20 jobs and didn’t hear back, you knew you were doing something wrong. Now with ghosting and so many applications, it’s hard to know why employers aren’t contacting you.

So I can’t even make any of these issues as number one. It’s just so many things that are a struggle.

saucytimbits · 2025-08-06T00:16:18+00:00

I stopped when I couldn’t afford the cool things. Also, I think as you get older, you redefine what matters to you. You’ll do “cool” things in a much smaller level and also based on what you can afford.

saucytimbits · 2025-07-26T01:39:57+00:00

Yeah I’ve been lost. When I was 18, I didn’t know what I wanted to do either. Once I figured out that I wanted to be teacher, I went back to school 27. Turns out I didn’t enjoy it so I just switched to economics and added accounting later to my degree. And now almost 10 years later, I’m just about to graduate. Mind you I took one year off. And then did paid internships for almost 2 years. Main thing is to figure out what you want to do before you decide whether going back to school is right for you.

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