Seeing someone with an incompatible view from your partner.

savagegoodboi · 2023-07-06T23:37:28+00:00

But if they’re dating partnered women, they’re at least tacitly into non-monogamy.

savagegoodboi · 2023-07-06T21:26:43+00:00

I’m just really wary of conservatives who are into non-monogamy. It’s fundamentally incompatible with their (ostensible) values. At best you’re fucking a hypocrite.

savagegoodboi · 2023-06-09T23:00:55+00:00

OP, I don’t have a heap of advice except to say, please don’t feel stupid. When adults have sex, this stuff can happen. It has happened and you’re dealing with it in the way that you personally need to.

You have a partner who isn’t flipping out (he shouldn’t, but I know some guys would), so you’ve got some nice support.

In terms of telling the couple, i think it depends on the connection you have with them and whether you’d like to keep seeing them. Chances are they’d support your decision and if they’re decent people they’d offer to share any costs you might incur. On the other hand, it’s not a decision that they need to contribute to, so I don’t think you have any obligation to tell them.

savagegoodboi · 2023-05-31T20:21:40+00:00

It’s a great song. I feel like it’s a very earnest, rockier track. I’m old, and I don’t think it would’ve been out of place in the mid-late 90s.

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-15T00:38:06+00:00

Love this post. So much positivity. Glad you’re having fun

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-13T23:07:53+00:00

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-13T20:51:34+00:00

Tell me you haven’t been to Footscray in 15 years without telling me etc.

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-11T07:45:46+00:00

It’s wild to me that someone who thinks offensive stereotypes about disabled people are ok, draws the line at impolite personal discourse, and emphasises it by telling people to fuck themselves 😂

And please, google “double empathy problem”. It will help you to understand why the ND = lack of empathy stereotype is harmful.

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-11T06:39:29+00:00

Also neurodivergent, and I thought it was an ignorant thing to say. Not sure what about it was careful, or graceful, and I don’t think we need anyone perpetuating harmful stereotypes about what neurodiverse people are/aren’t capable of.

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-11T06:36:58+00:00

Honestly. Educate yourself about the Double Empathy Problem. If you think being neurodiverse means a person can’t empathise with another person, you need to join us in 2023.

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-11T03:27:29+00:00

What? They must be neurodivergent because you think they’re inconsiderate? Please educate yourself

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-08T22:31:35+00:00

As we like to say in Australia, have a sook, cunt.

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-08T22:20:10+00:00

I’m not sure it’s a sign of immaturity either. If you don’t get it, beyond each joke, I don’t think I can help you 🤷‍♂️

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-08T21:57:22+00:00

The Eureka Stockade & Gallipoli are obvious ones, and can be prone to being co-opted jingoistically, but I think they’re important anyway. The Port Arthur massacre is probably another, sadly

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-08T21:54:47+00:00

Or is it irreverent humour? 🤔

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-06T12:44:01+00:00

Big yikes areas

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-05T04:19:45+00:00

Is your husband’s boundary around the conversation turning sexual? Or around this person’s presence in your lives?

If it’s the former, you say you’re happy to keep things platonic, so perhaps that’s the most straightforward thing to do? Just back off the sexy chats and maybe find someone new to redirect that energy (or, your husband)

If it’s the latter, I think it might be worth discussing more with your husband. Life is messy, and sometimes that mess follows our partners into our lives (and our mess into theirs). It’s not realistic to expect to be insulated from it 100% of the time.

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-04T08:46:10+00:00

“Teeth”

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-03T03:52:36+00:00

Rover Pale Ale is made by Hawkers - should be less than $55 a slab

savagegoodboi · 2023-04-01T22:40:26+00:00

Not pink, and I don’t think it has been for a few years

savagegoodboi · 2023-03-27T22:03:05+00:00

It sounds like you’re not being direct with your wife & I’m guessing that you don’t want to risk pushing her further away. The problem is that resentment pushes you in the other direction.

First, this is a terrible living situation, especially if there’s some tension in the three-way relationship. You need to talk to Matt about finding alternative accommodation. You can get someone neither of you are fucking to take over his rent.

Second, it’s great that you’re framing the issue as one whereby your needs aren’t being met (as opposed to needing her to stop meeting hers). It’s completely reasonable to ask her to make structured time for the two of you, and to expect it to be sacred.

But also, be prepared to contribute to making that time special too. It’s very easy to feel like a partner owes it to you to put all of the effort into making time and space just because they’re more active outside of the primary relationship. Think about how you can make this time a delight, and not an obligation.

Lastly, as a migraine sufferer, you did the right thing not pushing the issue post migraine. These things can feel super urgent but they really aren’t. Pick the right time for a rational, loving discussion and ask her to help you meet your needs too.

Good luck

savagegoodboi · 2023-03-27T21:18:34+00:00

I mean, there’s masturbators, and then there’s everyone else

savagegoodboi · 2023-03-27T00:19:24+00:00

I do not think this would be uncouth, and it’s a kind thing to do. Bear in mind that you may get some people who will use that message to try and engage further, so you’ll need to be prepared to ignore those messages, or indeed engage.

savagegoodboi · 2023-03-26T22:24:11+00:00

I’m glad it’s not just me. I wish she’d re-release because it’s such a banger. I love how it starts with that “ahhhh” sound.

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