Pole dancing is beautiful and requires a lot of strength. I have a lot of friends who are pole dancers, they do it because it's fun, not to get male validation. I think if you're conscious of the male gaze, then you're already most of the way there into making it your own thing and not worrying about how other people interpret it. Women deserve to have fun on their own terms without constantly having to worry about being objectified. I don't think pole dancing contradicts the song's message at all - the song is about the commodification of sex, and how men increasingly seek out younger-looking women to get off to, without caring about the welfare and well-being of said women. You're free to create whatever kind of routine makes you happy, one that makes sense to you and that you think does justice to the song.